Getting advice or counselling for past hurt will help you process the situation until you can eventually draw a line under it and leave it in the past.
Trust issues often stem from a past relationship with someone whom you felt you couldn’t trust. They may have been disloyal or somehow made you feel insecure in a way that they behaved. You may be unconsciously letting the past effect your current relationship and it may be difficult to recognise, but it can have a very negative effect on your partnership. Everyone is different and it may be that your current partner gives you no reason to have trust issues. Allowing a memory or insecurity from the past to effect current life can be detrimental and unfair to the other. It can put your future at risk as a couple and create barriers between you.
IS IT YOU OR THEM?
If you have trust issues, you need to really think about why. If you know that it’s a deep-rooted insecurity from the past, then you need to face it and deal with it. Getting advice or counselling for past hurt will help you process the situation until you can eventually draw a line under it and leave it in the past. If your current partner is giving you very obvious reasons to not trust them, then you need to address it. It may be that they have been hurt in the past and want to feel in control of the relationship so that history doesn’t repeat. It may be that they are insecure in themselves and feel they need to challenge you so that you have to prove your love. If your partner is clearly cheating on you, then it goes without saying that you either need to move on or work together 100% from both parties to resolve the situation. However, often it can just be a threat and for whatever reason past relationships have made you or them behave in this way. Accepting responsibility is important and allows you to then see more clearly, which in turn opens the doors to finding a solution.
Sometimes without realising they are constantly seeking reassurance that they can trust their partner to the point when the relationship is at risk.
REAL OR NOT
Often people who have had reason to feel insecure or have been hurt in the past can be so fearful of this happening again that they almost create the situation. Sometimes without realising they are constantly seeking reassurance that they can trust their partner to the point when the relationship is at risk. They may accuse, push or constantly question their partner, eventually making them insecure and feeling complacent about the relationship. This creates low self-esteem to trust in themselves. It is said that some people who cheat claim that it is often because they mistrusted their partner themselves or were made to feel like their confidence in their relationship was damaged by the other partner.
THE DANGER SIGNS
- That you need to check their phone
- That you question their every move
- You keep them on a tight leash
- You create scenarios in your mind with no real evidence
- You treat them disrespectfully
- You put them down
- You compare them to past relationships
LEARNING TO TRUST
It goes without saying that if you have trust issues then learning to trust someone can be incredibly hard. The first step is to take a look at yourself. Are you happy with you? If you have low self-esteem and confidence then this is the first issue that needs addressing. Once you build up your confidence, you beam an array of energy that others find attractive, making them appreciate you and feel lucky to be with you. This changes not only your behaviour towards people but they’re behaviour towards you. You exude confidence! Banish insecurities and doubts, show them that you are worthy of being happy and being in a good relationship. If your partner is someone who truly loves you and gives no real reason for trust issues then accept this, relish in your love together and create strong foundations for a solid and secure future.
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PUBLISHED: 13 JANUARY 2016