We can’t stay ‘in love’ all the time. Sooner or later that rosy glow fades and we have to work at making a happy life with another human being, who is as flawed as we are. Hopefully there will be enough compatibility and genuine warmth to get us through. But what do you do if all affection seems to have gone? Walking away isn’t always the answer.
LOSING THAT LOVING FEELING
Affection isn’t quite the same as ‘love’. Affection is caring, closeness, sympathy, but these days we don’t use the word so much for passion. So losing affection can be more radical than falling out of love. If you have lost all affection for your partner, not only do you have no strong feelings for them, you may not want to touch, talk to or care for them. That can be very harsh for both parties.
SELF-ESTEEM IS KEY
Loss of self-esteem can, in itself, lead to loss of affection for your partner. Unless you feel good about yourself you can’t ever have anything worthwhile to give another person. Self-esteem issues are crucial in any relationship, so take a look at yours.
If your partner has stopped being affectionate to you, there’s no point begging or arguing. Your task now is to re-build your self-esteem, because only through this can you hope either to regain their affection, or to move on.
If you are the one who has withdrawn warmth, blaming yourself is only going to make you close down more. Whatever your role in the loss of affection that has taken place, feeling good about yourself is essential. Work on this.
When you’ve had a lovely partnership, leaving this and moving on can feel devastating. However, there isn’t anything to be gained by trying to reignite something that’s died. It’s undignified, and you are worth more than that.
After you have reached some understanding of what has happened, then you will know if there is any hope, or if there is none. However painful this may be at first, make yourself move on. Tell yourself that even though there seems no light at the end of the tunnel, one day there most certainly will be. You will survive, and you will be stronger.
Move away from this destructive situation, because even though you are not getting, or giving affection at the present time, later on you will find it elsewhere. Set yourself free to find happiness.
HOW WE CAN HELP
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PUBLISHED: 28 March 2017