The difficulties of being in love with a married man and learning how to get over a married man without having your heart broken.
Affairs are very much a taboo subject and something that the majority of people frown upon, but what happens when you suddenly find yourself caught up in a relationship that you didn’t expect and you fall in love with a married man? You may have met at work, through a friend, or even joined an online dating agency thinking you were only going to meet ‘single’ men. But, somehow, you have become physically and emotionally involved with a man who is already taken. Some people, whether men or women, find it exciting that they are doing something which is a secret and are so embroiled in the ‘here and now’ that they are not even thinking about the consequences of breaking hearts, or very possibly having their heart broken. Women who get involved with married men often truly believe that they are more exciting, more attractive and more lovable than his wife, but this is not always the case.
He may woo you with sexy comments, words of love, gifts and flattery but in reality he is living two separate lives…
Dating a married man is not all excitement, hearts and flowers. It comes with rules, limitations and restrictions. He is married, so he won’t always be available. If he has children, he will undoubtedly put them before anyone else, making you second or even third best in his eyes. He may woo you with sexy comments, words of love, gifts and flattery but in reality he is living two separate lives and lying to people. He may promise that one day he will leave his life, that you two will elope and live happily ever after. However, research shows that 70% of married couples who experience extra marital affairs, stay together and resolve problems. Over 75% of married men who say they’re going to leave their wife actually stay. The only way you will ever know if you will have the opportunity of a proper non-secretive relationship is if he packs his bags, moves out and leaves his wife. However, this does not always result in him staying with you once he rediscovers freedom.
So why do women fall in love with married men? What is it about a married man that women find attractive? Why do women put their heart on the line and get involved with, or end up being in love with, a married man who isn’t available? Here are some reasons that studies show:
THE SINGLE WOMAN – Many single women are not ready to settle down. Couples are generally getting married later in life nowadays, so perhaps a relationship with a married man is more of a convenience for the single woman who doesn’t want a commitment.
THE ATTRACTIVE MEN – More often than not, an attractive man is already in a relationship or married. However, studies show that women find an attractive man who is already taken more interesting than an attractive man who isn’t taken!
SEXUAL EXCITEMENT – Women assume that a man who is cheating on their wife or partner will find her far more sexually desirable when they are meeting up in secret.
BREATHING SPACE – Some single women like their freedom. They like not having to share their bed with someone every night, they like being able to do what they want to do whenever they want to do it. Having a relationship with someone who isn’t often available gives them breathing space and freedom.
‘When a man marries his mistress, it creates a vacancy’
If you are dating a married man or are in love with a married man, you may have doubts about your future and whether one day, you will have a loving and stable relationship. It is important to understand that most people who regard relationships with respect will judge a woman who is loving a married man and you could be classed as a ‘home wrecker’. He may flatter you, but he has also already proved that he is deceitful and a liar. He may promise you that one day you will be together properly, but have you heard the saying ‘When a man marries his mistress, it creates a vacancy’? If he leaves his wife for you, it’s possible that he will have an affair behind your back.
Loving a married man is difficult and it could break your heart. Learning self-respect and how to get over a married man is key to your future happiness. Speak to the UK’s most amazing Love Psychics at TheCircle to find out about your future in love.
PUBLISHED: 12 May 2016