Friends are one of life’s blessings and their friendship, and ours for them, is a gift. Each one of us is unique and special in our own way and our friends are drawn to something they ‘feel’ in us, as we in turn, are drawn to them for the qualities we can ‘feel’.
Friendships come into our lives in all sorts of ways and can change over time. We may have a common bond, such as work, children or a hobby, with our friends, or be polar opposites who met at school, or as neighbours. Friendships, like people, come in all shapes and sizes, and it matters not a jot how they came about, they all need love to nurture them.
We all want to feel valued and appreciated and our friends can be the people in our lives who really ‘see’ us. Every single friendship is underpinned by love, even if the actual word itself is never used. Kind words, thoughtful gestures and loving support are all born of love and they are the water for all the friendships in our garden.
As we draw close to anyone, we are learning about them all the time. We observe the things that make them smile, that can lift them in times of difficulty and make them laugh when some lightness is needed. It is the thought taken in every action that people notice. A thoughtful message sent at random, by text, email or letter, can make all the difference to a friend’s day. Recognition of their passions and a little thoughtful gift that adds to their pleasure, when they go to do what they love, can make all the difference. Just being there to listen means so very much. We are verbal beings and we all have the answers within us, so a loving sounding board can make all the difference when our friends are faced with a challenge, or just need to ‘download’. Knowing and ‘seeing’ your friend’s special talents, or gifts, and acknowledging them, will warm their hearts like nothing else can. If we feel we have a talent for being or doing something, and someone we care about shows that they ‘see’ this, what a lift this can give us.
There are some very private souls in this world and it is not always easy to see what we can do to show them care. Also, there are times when the ease of friendship is put under strain, and the tension does not rest within the friendship, but within another cause. Our friends may not always be able to communicate difficulties to us and it is hard to know how to show support. Whatever the difficulty is, then a call to one of the gifted readers at TheCircle can shed light and give you special insight on a way forward.
Our friends are the golden links,
That weave into the fabric of our lives,
With heartfelt warmth and laughter.
Love is the language we can all feel,
As we celebrate the gift of friendship,
And ‘seeing’ one another.
PUBLISHED: 20 January 2014