Nobody has a magic formula for the perfect marriage. An important part of our spiritual life path is to learn and grow through our relationships. There should only be three deal breakers for marriage; adultery, addiction and abuse. It’s too easy to buy into the belief that perfect marriages exist. There are, however, magic moments that can be created by making continuous effort.
Even the most loved up marriages can lose their sparkle. There’s no shame in admitting we all have emotional glitches. Its how we deal with them that’s important. There must have been times when we have all thought that it would be easier to walk away rather than put up with grinding domesticity, irritating habits and lack of appreciation.
Do you remember why you fell in love with your partner? Look at him through Cupids eyes again and list all those amazing qualities that made your legs turn to jelly when you saw him. Rather than concentrating on the negative aspects of your partner’s personality start complimenting them on what you love about them. Pumping romantic oxygen into your marriage is a great start to getting back to those heady blissful days of being in love. Be warm, vulnerable and affectionate with each other. Telling him he is irresistible could fill up both your love tanks! Tactful honesty is a great tool to opening up how you both feel about important issues. Continuous criticism and contempt from any partner will destroy love and alienate each other. Having the last word or always being right will not enhance your relationship. Being supportive and working together builds emotional bridges.
Having an argument is healthy, but when it becomes a battleground for all the past hurts and grievances, walk away from your bruised ego. Take it in turn to say what causes a problem without going for the jugular. Listening to your partner’s point of view and acknowledging their feelings even though you may disagree with them will make conflicts more of a solution seeking exercise rather than ripping each other apart. Sometimes marriage feels far too serious and grown up. Inject humour and laughter into your life; it’s infectious, you and your partner could re ignite the fun that you used to share.
A great way of making your partner feel valued and committed is to take an interest in the small details. Do you know their favourite colour, food or film? What dreams and ambitions do they have? Find out what makes your beloved tick; they will love being the center of attention. Making time for each other on a daily basis, even if it’s a few minutes a day will create a cohesive relationship. Having regular date nights and weekends away will make you even closer.
Having a Tarot reading will help you identify the strengths and weaknesses of your marriage. Tarot cards can identify all the elements of a relationship. Our talented Tarot readers will guide you through every aspect to make your marriage have that extra zing!