It shouldn’t happen but all too often it does. Just when happy families are celebrating and lovers getting all snugly, you find yourself alone. It seems very cruel and hard to accept. Can you possibly get through Christmas? And will you ever get over this experience? Yes, of course you will.
At Christmas all emotions are magnified. Everywhere you are bombarded with images of ideal life, perfect happiness and dreams coming true. This can make the elements that are not ideal stand out very starkly. It’s not unusual for the heightened atmosphere to make something snap, and for one or both parties to say ‘Enough!’ Also, the stresses and strains of the season can push you over the edge – too much time together with all the difficult issues between you, money being stretched and worries about bills, arguments about arrangements with family and friends…. One thing to much, and someone says something that means there’s no going back.
How do you feel? Drained? Guilty? Distraught? Relieved? Don’t think about how you should feel. Christmas can distort emotions, so focus on what this will mean for your life, long-term. Is it something you’ve been wanting to do? Then you owed it to yourself to make the break – a great present for you, in fact. There is no mileage on dwelling on any hurt you may have caused. You can’t help it if you didn’t feel a certain way, or want certain things. Guilt is certainly a poisonous cement for any relationship. Maybe you’ve been living a lie, so let in the peace that comes with truth. Maybe you’ve been suffering and that can now be soothed. There will be aspects to the relationship that aren’t as yet clear, so give yourself time and space to rest, for the message is of healing and tranquillity.
Probably you’re outraged that anyone could do this to you now, of all times. That’s understandable, but perhaps you can also understand why things came to a head. If there seems no good reason then possibly you have been with someone who was using you, or who is unkind, so square up and resolve that’s not going to happen again. Obviously you will turn to friends and family for support and there’s no way you should bottle up your emotions, but resolve to have times when you put a brave face on it because that will help you also. The person who left you wasn’t the person you believe them to be, so however hard this is, try not to tell yourself that the love of your life has walked. When we’re in love we project wonderful qualities on this person and they seem magical – but the ‘magic’ comes from your belief. This may be almost impossible to accept, especially when you’re young, but it is true. It is also true that there will be someone else in your life sooner or later, so mourn but don’t wallow.
Sometimes with the best will in the world, you can find yourself caving in and giving way to despair. But help is always so close at hand. Dating advice and relationship advice are available with a few clicks, when you contact us at The Circle. Find support with your love issues, get your relationship horoscope or benefit from psychic insight. There’s no need to cope with your anxieties alone – put in a call today.
PUBLISHED: 15 December 2014