If you’re in a relationship you’ll want it be as good as possible, and to fulfill all the needs of your dear one. To be a great partner detach for a moment and think about what you’re doing.
UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER
You may believe you know your partner through and through, but even if you’ve been with them quite a while your knowledge could be coloured by what you want to see – or don’t want! Look at your partner with clear eyes and try to empathise, for then you’re well on track to provide any help needed.
BE CAREFUL NOT TO MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
The kind of things you need help with could be a breeze for your partner, or vice versa. Keep an open mind.
REALLY LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER
That’s the start of empathising. What do they truly want from you? How are they actually feeling? Once you understand, your help will come from the heart.
When any of us need help we can be stroppy or moody. Cut your partner some slack if they’re in a bad place.
ACCEPT WHEN YOU NEED OUTSIDE HELP
It is wonderful if you can provide what your partner needs but that isn’t always possible. That’s when you need to call on someone else, maybe a professional. Remember that finding the right support is a sign of realism and courage. However, always respect your partner’s wishes. Unless the circumstances are exceptional you can’t make them accept help, and it’s not right that you should.
BE READY TO PUT YOURSELF LAST NOW AND THEN
This does not mean being a martyr, but it does mean that sometimes you have to forego what you want, to be there for the one you love. Sounds obvious, but when you have to give up a treat you’ve been looking forward to in order to give them support, it may be very painful. But they’re relying on you, and that’s what matters.
HAVE A LIFE OF YOUR OWN
There’s little worse than a partner who’s kind of hanging around, waiting to be called on. Don’t be a drag. Make sure there’s loads in life that you’re passionately involved in, so you have something valuable to bring to the partnership, and...
HELP THEM WITH THEIR NEEDS, NOT YOURS!
Needing to be needed makes you – well – needy. If that’s the way you behave you’re not helping at all. You’re just adding to the burden by making your partner feel they have to make you feel worthwhile.
ACCEPT THAT SOMETIMES YOU CAN’T HELP
There are some things in life that we all have to do, or cope with, alone. Occasionally the best way to help is to step away. Just knowing you are there can be a ‘help’.
Sometimes however hard you try, helping the one you love seems very difficult. That’s when you owe it to yourself to get support. Dating advice and relationship advice are available with a few clicks, when you contact us at TheCircle. Find clarity with your love issues, get your relationship horoscope or benefit from psychic insight. There’s no need to cope with your worries alone – put in a call today
PUBLISHED: 28 JULY 2015