TAKE IT IN TURNS TO MASSAGE
You don’t need any training to massage. It just takes gentleness and sensitivity. Dissolve two drops of essential oil of lavender in a teaspoon of olive oil. Test for allergy if you like by placing this on your wrists 24 hours before massage.
Get settled comfortably so the person massaging has proper access and the one massaged can relax. Rub your lover’s neck and shoulders – prime sites of tension. You could also massage feet and hands. Avoid broken skin and go carefully where there is pain or injury, but chances are hurts will melt under a loving touch.
COME IN TO A COMPLIMENT
At the end of the day we all feel tired and narky. It’s so easy to take this out on your lover, but it can be a disastrous start to the evening!
Instead, make a pact that you will come in and say something nice to your loved one. Compliment them on how they look, what they’ve done or refer back to something you shared and enjoyed at the weekend. You will find you both unwind and feel secure, letting your day untangle and your heart open for an evening of intimacy.
HOW WE CAN HELP
You now have six ideas of how to warm your relationship in the cold nights. These include fire and candles, cooking together, sharing nature walks, reading to each other, massage and conscious complimenting. Put all or some of these into practice for a loving winter season.
PUBLISHED: 24 October 2018