Life events can cause major stress to all of us, and even good changes, such as marriage, promotion or moving house can take their toll. Bear in mind these nine points and you can navigate loss and transition with greater strength and less suffering.
It is so important to let go and accept uncertainty. This may feel exactly what you don’t want to do at first, but the more you accept uncertainty the more it will become your friend. Once you accept that things are unsettled you will see that gives you the chance to embrace possibilities, to let go of the past and things that no longer serve you. This brings freedom.
Something has to die to make way for something else to be born. If you’re stuck in a bad place this may be hard to visualise, but have the faith to accept this is true. Fresh events and opportunities are on their way. Creation and destruction are part of a necessary cycle. Impossible though it may be to imagine, something better could be just around the corner.
Do you regularly tell yourself you can’t do this or that, you aren’t good enough for something, or talented, or attractive, or charming? Become aware of all the limiting thoughts you have about yourself. Every time you find yourself saying to yourself ‘I could never do that’ challenge it. Where does that belief come from? Is it really true? Most people are held back by their beliefs far more than lack of ability
When you realise you’re brooding, panicking or giving yourself negative messages, become mindful. Immerse yourself in what you’re doing. This may be cleaning your teeth, sorting your washing, making a meal. Keep bringing your awareness back into the present moment and anchoring yourself in the here and now.
You don’t always have to be ‘strong’. Sometimes it helps to soldier on, sometimes it does not. Embrace those feelings, cry, talk to friends, even shout and scream. You have these emotions, they are real, but you do not need to fear them. They will not overwhelm you permanently but they need to be heard.
Things will get better. Read stories about people who came from adversity into success – this happens. Spend time day-dreaming, write down your wishes, dreams and intentions and/or create a vision board that shows all you visualise coming true.
This helps with every life challenge. Do be your own best friend. Look after yourself. Do not beat yourself up. Even if you have made mistakes – well, you are only human and who hasn’t? Forgive yourself, pamper yourself and encourage yourself gently onwards.
PUBLISHED: 22 August 2018