We all know life isn’t fair, or easy, and some disappointment is to be expected. But there are times when your dreams bite the dust and everything seems bleak and empty. Hopelessness can become a habit and before you know it, you’ve given up on dealing with disappointment. There is a way out of your despondency however, and reading this article is a first step.
Have you had a good cry? Some things seem too bad to cry over. The tears may be locked within. Or you may fear they’re a sign of weakness and will drain you. Wrong. They will cleanse you, so watch a weepy or sob on the shoulder of a good friend. Let it all out and make space for something better. The following steps will help you in dealing with disappointment as well as the closely connected emotions of anger and loss.
Oh, so often anger at what’s happened to you can stop you moving on. You may not even realise this consciously. You’re mad at people and events – even the Universe – for dropping you in this black hole, and you’re not about to let them off the hook by recovering. Probably you’re angry at yourself. Fair enough, maybe. Experience that anger. Go off and shout and stamp. Fling stones into a lake, smash bottles against your back wall. When you’ve exhausted all that, have a shower and a cuppa and get to work.
Identify what you want in life and make a list. Don’t look back, look forwards. Make your list as ambitious as you like, within the bounds of realism. Identify the source of your frustration and anger is the first step in dealing with it.
Don’t be woolly about your goals. Make them very specific. Want a degree? Which subject? Which exact course? Want a better house? How big? Where? Want a good relationship? What sort of person and how will they make you feel? So many wise people, from the old practitioners of magic to modern writers as in Cosmic Ordering stress the importance of being exact about what you want. Use pictures and props and descriptions and keep your vision in front of you.
Things can – and do – change miraculously for the better. Get in touch with your inner spiritual fires so you believe in something greater than yourself and experience a sense of meaning. In this way you believe in yourself, also. If your faith has run dry, why not contact a Reader at TheCircle and be made aware that there is so much more out there. Readers can help you deal with disappointment, but also in coping with your loss by contacted loved ones and understanding relationships at deeper levels.
It’s all well and good to have lots of ideas and to begin motivating yourself, and then to collapse in front of the telly at six pm every night, expecting it to materialise. But you need to keep growing as a person. Become thirsty for knowledge. Find out about things. Study and progress. This can be in a specific direction, to further your goals, or just for the hell of it – who knows what you may stumble across while you’re investigating? Pursue every interest you have and stimulate your creativity with fresh info.
These aren’t necessarily going to be people who can give you a specific leg-up, to the next stage in your ambitions – although they might be. These are the individuals who value you, who see your potential and have faith in you, and who have life experience of their own that is relevant to you. It’s great to chat to someone who’s been in The Pit themselves, and climbed out. Of course you don’t want to dump old friends, but anyone who drags you down has to go – sorry.
Make new contacts. You owe it to yourself to be with people who make you smile and believe in yourself and the world. This can be a real challenge when you’re down, so choose your occasion carefully and be gentle with yourself. A course on some kind of positive thinking is a good start – while you’re listening to the speakers you can melt into the background. You need to begin going to places where you will meet positive vibes. This will make a world of difference – you’ll see.
You don’t have to be obsessively tidy, but you need to be organised. Clear your space of clutter – it will help clear your mind. Make sure your schedule is clear and your time well-spent. Have a decent filing system, so you don’t waste time looking for bits of paper. Prime your habits for success – you’re on your way.
Sometimes it can all feel so bad that you just can’t do it alone. The good news is you don’t have to. At TheCircle you can always contact a Psychic or Medium who can help you deal with disappointment and anger. Benefit from a Psychic Reading, check your Horoscope, get some advice, insight and support. A Clairvoyant Reading is a great way to shift your viewpoint and move on, so make contact with us without delay.
PUBLISHED: 19 OCTOBER 2015