The death of a loved one can make us feel very isolated and it can feel like nobody else understands. At this difficult time of your life, it is important to seek bereavement counselling to help you to keep communicating your feelings.
Losing a loved one, can be one of the most difficult experiences we go through in life. Grief can encompass many different emotions and often there are some which we may never have experienced before. The death of a loved one can make us feel very isolated and it can feel like nobody else understands. At this difficult time of your life, it is important to seek bereavement counselling to help you to keep communicating your feelings. Especially for those who are very independent, they can find it tough reaching out to people for support and asking for a shoulder to lean on to help get through the grieving process.
Nobody can wave a magic wand and take all your pain away, but they can be there, even if it is just to listen when you need to talk
Some people let pride get in the way but often they just don’t want to be a burden on others, especially when grieving involves such painful emotions which can be difficult to display. Some find the pain becomes physical and not just emotional and they find it hard to explain how they are feeling or to put their grieving in to words. The grieving process is exactly that – a ‘process’ which is made up of many different emotions ranging from deep sadness, anger, numbness, fear, loneliness, guilt and sometimes depression. Experts in Bereavement care say that each of these emotions are hard to deal with, and although perfectly normal, it is so important that we have a support system because if they are not dealt with, it can affect our long-term mental health.
Reaching out for support makes the process easier and helps others to understand your emotions and teaches them how to be there for you. Nobody can wave a magic wand and take all your pain away, but they can be there to offer you bereavement support, even if it is just to listen when you need to talk. Being there for bereaved people who are grieving gives them a caring friend and someone who will be in their company no matter how they are feeling. Many people will initially react to the loss of a loved one by showing denial and wanting to be on their own. This is our natural way of helping us come to terms with what has happened, especially if the person we have lost is our partner, husband or wife. Bereaved people often have a feeling of ‘this is how it’s going to be, so I better get on with it and learn to be alone’. Although this is understandable, it actually isn’t very helpful for them at that moment in time. Yes, they will need to learn to live without the other person, but these early stages are such a traumatic time, they need a support system to help them through it. Any form of counselling, whether it is Bereavement Counselling or an expert in Bereavement care, relationship counselling or talking therapy can be of a huge benefit to people.
There is no set time for how long it takes to grieve for someone you have lost
Some of the following facts may be helpful to know:
The pain of losing a loved one may never fully heal and you certainly don’t get over the death of a loved one. There will be good days and bad days in the future, sleepless nights and times when you don’t feel like eating or seeing anyone. Remember, you are going through the grieving process and healing takes time for everyone. You are not alone in how you feel. There will be better days and you will get through it, but making sure you have a support system in place will help in the long-run.
PUBLISHED: 29 February 2016