By the time you are reading this, your chicks may have flown off to University or moved out of your cosy nest. You could be feeling lost and lonely, without purpose and identity. This condition is more common for women as they are usually the prime care-givers. This is a grieving period; your babies have become adults and may no longer need you in the same way. It feels as if you have been made redundant from the most important job a human being could have, to look after and love your precious children. If you are going through the menopause as well it can be a double whammy.
It is quite normal to go into your child’s bedroom and wish you could go back to the days when their room was auditioning for an episode of “How clean is your house?” Don’t be surprised if you go through their clothes and hunt out that familiar grungy aroma that only a teenager can exude. Your floorboards no longer vibrate with death metal music. The bathroom floor no longer sports discarded underwear and damp towels. There is loneliness and despondency in your cleaner, silent house. It is really healthy to cry and mourn the loss of the time you have shared with your children. (They will be back at weekends with dirty washing and scary stories of drunken debauchery)
If you feel overwhelmed by emptiness, talk to your Doctor or get counseling. Don’t be ashamed, everybody needs help at some time in their life.
They would not necessarily be the correct ones, so hold on to the perceptions that you have, for the closeness between you was – and is - real. It will help if you make sure that everything your loved one owned amounts to something.
When you are ready it is time to start one of the most exciting times of your life, the voyage of self-discovery. Remember that you are not only a mother, there are many life skills that you can draw upon if a new career excites you. There is more time to develop spiritually, go to the gym, take up salsa dancing or start your own business. The possibilities are endless, the choice is yours. Stay at home mums may lack the confidence of working mothers. Get some self-help publications and CDs; alternatively get some NLP sessions to boost self-worth.
Another positive of an empty nest is the great possibility of hot romance with your partner. Arrange romantic dinners, share new interests. Go for mid-week breaks and re-ignite your passion. You can get raunchy in your house and swing from the chandelier with impunity as there are is no one else around!
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