Do you understand the ‘power of the spoken word’? Most people know the rhyme: ‘Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.’ But as we grow older, we know this childhood saying certainly isn’t true because words carry tremendous power. The words we use in conversations reveal truths about who we are, what we believe in and our life choices. Because of the power words have, we can use them to shape how people see us and assert a position of authority or be submissive if we want to. We can use words to paint a picture of whoever we want to be. Words can create an illusion for any situation.
Take control of your emotions
When asked how you’re doing, do you automatically say ‘I’m fine’? Psychologists warn against constantly suppressing difficult emotions. Instead, they encourage people to describe their emotions as accurately as possible. By putting emotions into words, you decrease the power your emotions have over you by making them seem less scary and seeing them for what they really are. Many people who are facing challenging circumstances say they feel physical relief after talking about the emotions that are overwhelming them.
Words define you
Talking about your emotions weakens the hold they have on you which can subsequently strengthen your self-esteem. If you write in a journal or have regular chats with friends or family, be conscious about the words you use to describe yourself and your behaviour. Avoid saying things like ‘I’m so stupid’ and ‘I can’t believe I did that.’ Instead, you can use words to frame your mistakes in a more positive light by saying phrases like ‘I made a mistake, but I know what I did wrong and will fix it next time.’ This will give you optimism and help to avoid feeling like a failure.
Don’t fall into the habit of using negative words. The more you recite negative phrases, the more intensely you condition your brain to believe that they’re true. If you consistently talk about yourself, other people, and the world in negative terms, you’ll develop a negative outlook that will be hard to overcome.
Practical tips for harnessing the power of words
Harness the power of words to give yourself a positive perspective on your life, your friends, and society. One way to do this is to write inspirational quotes and your goals on post -it notes and stick them to your bathroom mirror. Offer to write the positive attributes of a co-worker or family member on post-it notes in exchange for them doing the same thing for you and hang them up in a prominent place. Glancing at the words describing your best characteristics will give you a boost if you’re lagging behind on a task or project or not having a good day. You may be surprised at how other people perceive you and discover qualities you didn’t think you had.
Express gratitude for good karma
Use words to convey gratitude. When meeting people, thank them for taking time out for you and say how much you appreciated seeing them. When you interact with people in shops and customer service, always thank them for their time and service. Even if you’ve had a frustrating experience, remember that it’s probably due to their high volume of work rather than complacency. By verbalising how grateful you feel, you’re unleashing the power of words to make a positive impact on others. Who in turn will feel good about themselves and be more likely to pass on this goodwill to someone else. Regularly write in a journal the things you are grateful for, this will promote a feeling of positivity and goodwill and will encourage more good things to come your way.
Encourage don’t discourage
Words are singularly the most powerful force available to us. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble. We should discipline ourselves to speak in a way that conveys respect, kindness and humility. Remember how you felt at school when a teacher gave you praise and encouragement. These positive feelings inspire us to achieve and feel good about ourselves, so pass it on.
Before speaking take a few moments to contemplate what you will say and how you will say it, while considering the impact your words will have on the listener. Many people are compelled to off load any passing feelings, thoughts or impressions they have. They randomly dump the contents of their mind without regard to the significance of what they are saying or considering how the other person might be feeling. Make sure you use your words wisely, change your mindset and use words to increase your own happiness and bring joy to others.
HOW WE CAN HELP
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PUBLISHED: 29 March 2017