We all lose our temper sometimes, but ask yourself, is yours affecting your life?
• Do you often find yourself regretting what you’ve said or done, when angry
• Do you feel ‘blind rage’
• Are you very often simmering with resentment and ready to boil over
• Have you destroyed things that you value when losing your temper (job, relationship, car, best china)
• Do you feel constantly stressed by your anger
• Do you get angry or irritated by the least little thing
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of the above then you need to do something about this.
A Better Attitude to Anger
Try these strategies to put your anger in its place.
Your Anger is Human
It’s natural to get angry and in fact in some situations it could mean survival. So forgive yourself for your angry – although it’s unpleasant, it’s unavoidable. However, you can find ways to direct this energy more positively
Stop Criticising yourself
If you are prone to anger then chances are you’re close to the boil all the time even when you’re feeling chilled. And the reason for this could be a critical inner voice, like an internal parent figure telling you all the time that you aren’t good enough. Is this ‘inner parent’ keeping you stoked up and ready to catch fire? Start telling yourself how great you are. Be aware of all the fab things you do and the positive comments you get. Silence your inner critic and your anger-dial will drop
Count to Ten
That old advice can’t be improved upon, but it has to become a habit. Be aware of how you’re responding to petty annoyance (don’t wait for the big one!) and always count to ten before reacting. While you are counting, don’t think of the annoyance - focus on your body and let yourself relax. As you get used to doing this you can start to introduce thoughts of peaceful and happy things. When you come back to the present, you may wonder what the fuss was about, and once you’re really in the routine it will come automatically – even for really inflammatory situations
Refocus the Energy
If you’re getting angry at something small, such as a child dropping something on your clothes, just go and change. Redirect anger into sensible action as quickly as you can. Make ‘no big deal’ your mantra
Let Go of Grudges
Brooding about past hurts keeps you in a perpetual state of low-grade anger, like an infection that can flare up at any time. You owe it to yourself to move on. See the grudge as something that’s eating away at you – do you deserve that? Forgiveness is something you do for yourself, because you decide that you don’t want to suffer these nasty emotions any more. Only you can keep yourself in this sore place, and only you have the keys to liberty, so set yourself free
Coping with your anger can be hard and you may need some support. At TheCircle you can always contact a Psychic or Medium who can help you. Benefit from a Psychic Reading, check your Horoscope, get some advice, insight and support. A Clairvoyant Reading can show ways to let go of anger and be calm, so make contact with us without delay
PUBLISHED: 06 JULY 2015