Close friends are there for you when you need them, they celebrate your successes and pick you up when you fall. Life is always richer if there are friends. To create a true friendship takes effort and dedication. A good starting point for making new friends comes from a quote from Buddha:
“Always be mindful of the kindness and not the faults of others.”
Friends aren't attracted by what we do it is actually to how we think. By changing how you think about others can become a magnet for new friends. People can get caught in the trap of putting other people down to elevate themselves but when we focus on what is lovely in others magic happens.
• Focus on the good in people
• Smile, it is the best curve on your body.
• Let go of grudges
• Be a positive mirror for others.
• Be helpful.
• Be kind.
• Be grateful.
Use the magical words “What can I do for you?” they touch the hearts of others and transform our own. Let go of egocentric thoughts and appreciate the needs, wants and hopes of others.
Close relationships don't happen overnight, but there are steps you can take to connect with others and make friends. Try to be open to new ideas and have fun with the experience.
• Join a class or join a club with common interests.
• Walk a dog.
• Online forums or dating sites.
• Invite a neighbour or colleague for a coffee or movie.
• Track down old friends through social media.
• Carpool to work, also saves petrol and the environment too.
• Go to art galleries, book readings, lectures, concerts or community events.
Some people find it easy to strike up conversations with anyone be it at a party, checkout line, crowded elevator or on public transport. If this isn't you try the following:
• Remark on the surroundings or the occasion.
• Ask open ended questions using words such as who, where, when, what, why or how.
• Give a compliment but make sure it's genuine.
• Note anything you have in common and ask follow up questions.
• Use small talk such as the weather.
• Listen effectively.
• Encourage them to speak with verbal clues such as “yes” or “uh huh”.
The talented medium readers at TheCircle can look into where you should go and help you see the positives within yourself. Give them a call, reach out to help yourself gain the friends you deserve.
PUBLISHED: 22 January 2014