‘New Year, new you’ is a catchy phrase. January 1st seems the ideal time to commit to a diet or fitness regime, or to give up a bad habit. But if we are honest with ourselves we have to face the fact that few resolutions even see out the month. Reverting back to old patterns can be depressing, sending failure-signals that damage self-esteem. This can be avoided, however, by a little common sense.
Steps to consider while making new year resolution
- Be realistic. This sounds obvious, but is often over-looked in the post-Christmas euphoria. So, if you want to get fit, sign up for a regime that will slot into your schedule and lifestyle, and a diet that considers your preferences. Remember, a small shift that you can truly cope with is worth a hundred grand schemes that fail by February.
- Bag a buddy! Having a friend who’s committing to the same changes can be truly supportive. Make sure you both feel passionate about what you want to achieve, that you can both manage the challenge and that you’ll be at the end of the phone for the bad moments.
- Ditch the ‘all-or-nothing’ attitude. If you’ve made a pledge not to eat chocolate and you snaffle a couple of mouthfuls in a weak moment, forgive yourself and re-affirm your commitment. All too often we take the attitude that good resolutions are a wagon and if we slip off, all is lost. Think of your decisions as a chosen path. If you lose the track you just re-locate it and carry on – right? Every breath you take is the start of a new phase.
- Write down your resolutions and read them over just before you go to sleep. If you’ve kept to them that day, give yourself a pat on the back. If you’ve slipped, give yourself a pat on the back anyway, for trying, and for now honestly reviewing. Think about how you could have made things easier for yourself and imagine playing it differently tomorrow.
- Have weekly reviews. How are things going? Could you organize your life to make it easier for you? Do any resolutions need modifying? What were the difficult points and what the easier? Get to know yourself and you’ll manage better.
- Be careful whom you tell about your decisions. Not everyone is encouraging, and envious people can be clever at undermining you, even if they would never mean to do this consciously. Then there are the self-appointed judges who take it upon themselves to comment on your progress and nag you about slipping up. This can activate your inner rebel, and ensure that you fail, in protest! So keep quiet and let the outcome speak for itself.
- Be patient about results. Even if things aren’t quite working out the way you want, respect your resolve. Years later you may look back at your list of intentions and find that many have actually materialized – they just took longer than a year! Making your wishes clear is a powerful message to your subconscious and ultimately the subconscious delivers.
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PUBLISHED: 10 January 2014