Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Do you always compare yourself to others, how can you be strong and stop doing this?

We live in a world where everyone is continually being scrutinised in the media and with social media now the main source of communication for most people, the scrutiny is constant and instant. It’s no wonder that we can feel inadequate and inferior to others.

So how can you overcome this insecurity and learn how to love and appreciate yourself and be accepting of how you are now, not how society dictates you should be.

Find your inner strengths

A healthy sense of self-worth can help you overcome any obstacles and be grateful for who you are. When you know and appreciate your own personal strengths, you won’t feel so compelled to try and measure up to anyone else.

We all have inner strengths and qualities that we may not even recognise. That’s why it’s important to push the boundaries sometimes and set yourself a challenge to see what you’re capable of. You may surprise yourself and others around you. Make a list of all the things you know you do well and the qualities you admire in yourself. Then you could make a list of the things you would like to achieve for your own personal self-development.

Winning isn’t always the best victory

We can’t win and succeed in everything. Life isn’t a competition but it is a journey, a journey of self-discovery and fulfilment if you approach it the right way.

It can be healthy to be competitive to a certain degree, maybe in your career or sporting activities, but it can overspill too much into our personal lives if we’re not careful and that can be very destructive. If your main focus is always on winning and the end goal, you will miss lots of fun and opportunities along the way. You should just aim for the best possible outcome for yourself which doesn’t always mean you have to win. Set your own pace and enjoy the journey.

Embrace failure

Failure teaches, humbles and inspires us. One failure doesn’t predict a lifetime of disappointment, it’s a lesson on how we can aspire to do better and it’s better to have tried and failed, than never to try at all. How else would we know what we’re capable of? Everyone fails at some point in their lives and we learn by our mistakes on how to succeed the next time. Failure can make our eventual successes so much more rewarding and worthwhile.

Be Inspired

If others around you are progressing and succeeding in their life’s goals, don’t compare yourself to them or feel resentful of their success. Instead be inspired and draw strength from their achievements. If they can succeed, why can’t you? Learn from their story and the path they took to success. It may help you to shape and plan your own future, to focus on your goals and inspire you to try new things.

Remove obstacles

Try to move away from the mind-set that you can’t achieve something. Become a ‘can do’ person, instead of a ‘can’t do’. Whenever an opportunity or challenge presents itself, don’t automatically think ‘I can’t do that’. Instead approach it positively and think actually ‘I can do that’ even if you’re not sure. You will always have a better chance of success if you approach things with an open and positive mind. Don’t compare yourself to great achievers, as they will all have failed at some point.

Stay off the internet

The internet and social media has become a cesspool of perfection and so called ‘ideal world’ imagery. Other people’s lives may look perfect because that’s how they want to be perceived, but it’s very rarely a true reflection of how things really are. Behind the polished façade and smiling faces awaits piles of domestic duties and daily struggles. You just can’t compare yourself to other people unless you’ve walked in their shoes and know their full stories.

Build your confidence

Focus on developing your self-confidence by acknowledging and rewarding yourself for any accomplishment, no matter how small. Practice this regularly and it will encourage you to try even greater things. Once you feel more confident, you won’t feel the need to compare yourself to others. Learn to admire others achievements rather than feeling the need to compare yourself with them. It’s very empowering to feel comfortable in your own skin and with your own abilities and not feel the need to compare to anyone else. The only person you need to impress is yourself as it’s only your opinion that really matters. You don’t have to prove yourself to anyone else.

How We Can Help

If you want to learn how you can stop comparing yourself to others and be true to yourself, our Readers are here to help you. Their experience will help guide you to make the most of what you have, to set your own challenges and discover your strengths. Call 0800 067 8222 today to book a reading or go online at www.thecircle.com.

PUBLISHED: 16 March 2016

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