Many celebrations take place outdoors, with picnics and barbecues. Families get together and there are parades and fairs. At night time there are fireworks and bonfires. Public spaces are decorated with streamers and banners in the red, white and blue colours of the USA flag, and many people dress in those colours, also. This day is very patriotic, and some politicians use it to make speeches and score points. However, what gives life and power to this day is the ideal of independence and the dream of true freedom.
On Independence Day, why not reflect on what being independent means to you. Do you have the freedom you need to grow as a person? Can you explore what it means to be ‘you’ without having a fight with someone? Does anyone else have substantial power over you, because they control something that you need? Ask yourself if you feel fulfilled in life, and if the answer is ‘no’, then why is this? Could it be that someone else is calling the shots in your life, making you rely on them, making you beholden and tied down? Maybe you can celebrate your own Independence day by doing something about this.
• Insisting on doing everything your way
• Always going it alone
• Refusing help when you need it
• Never talking about your problems
• Never admitting you’re weak or vulnerable
• Avoiding commitment in relationships
• Not considering the feelings of others
‘No man is an island’ as the saying goes, and being truly independent involves forming healthy ties with others without losing grip on your own identity, and aims. Compromises always have to be made, but these should feel like fair trade-offs rather than anything you’re pushed into.
* Independence in relationships. Just being with someone means you have to give up something. Private time may have to be sacrificed, adjustments made to living habits and even major changes of location coped with. Money will have to be shared, and if you have children there will be even greater inroads into your autonomy. So ask yourself some questions. Does your relationship give you a glow? Can you can express yourself and be yourself within it? Are you and your lover are looking at the same, or compatible goals rather than obsessing about each other? Can you do the things you love? Do you feel warm inside? If the answers are ‘yes’ then you are independent in the ways that matter
* Independence at work. Working for a living can really make you feel you aren’t independent. However, we’re all ‘dependent’ on material things for survival – it’s a matter of how this works for you. If you’re being bullied, underpaid, unappreciated and exploited, then your independence is threatened. But if you feel fulfilled, that you have goals to work towards and that you are effectual and valued, then that’s as independent as you need to be
* Independence in friendships and families. We all need friends and family for a sense of belonging, for fun, support and companionship. Sometimes we need their help during a bad patch, or for something specific like moving house. But this doesn’t make you ‘dependent’ in a weak way. If you are accepted for yourself, can express yourself and be yourself and don’t feel manipulated, judged or pushed around, then that’s as independent as you need to be
Looking at what it really means to be independent may be an individual journey, requiring honesty and sometimes courage. Maybe you don’t feel independent, and this worries you, or perhaps you need to clarify this and you need some understanding and encouragement. At TheCircle you can always contact a Psychic or Medium who can help you. Benefit from a Psychic Reading, check your Horoscope, get some advice, insight and support. A Clairvoyant Reading can show ways to move forwards, so make contact with us as soon as you can
PUBLISHED: 02 JULY 2015