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The Ramblings of a Hedgewitch
I wanted to create a Blog to share with you my experiences, so that you can get to know me and hopefully enjoy reading my ramblings - after all a stranger is only a friend we haven’t met yet.
I had the strangest experience the other night that I just had to share with you. Something similar happened to me a very long time ago when I was just a teenager, but Ive had nothing quite like this since until the other night.
I had gone to bed before my husband and was very tired and was fast asleep by the time he came to bed so I didn’t hear him come in. I suddenly found myself standing next to his side of the bed, and the room was in total daylight as opposed to its normal pitch black darkness. (We have black out curtains!). I saw that my husband was sitting bolt upright in bed clutching his chest and looked in terrible pain. He had been complaining of pins and needles and numbness in his hand the day before and I was worried that this was heart attack related. I tried to speak but found that I couldn’t it was like I had no mouth and the words just stuck in my throat. This was so confusing and scary, I then tried to reach out and touch him, but it felt like I had no arms, it was like I was just a floating pair of eyes. Then my husband moved, and I could see over his shoulder and to my horror, there was ME! I was clearly laying next to hm still and motionless. Oh, my good god, have I died! I thought, I can’t be dead I have to help him! I was really panicking now, I felt like I was moving upwards towards the ceiling. I saw my full body now laying there. I start to shout at myself in my head, “get up” I shouted he needs you “GET UP” I saw my arm reach out and touch his back. Thank god I thought I’m not dead. OK so what am I doing here then? I then heard a women’s voice as clear as a bell she said, “its ok, hes not having a heart attack, he ate a pepperoni pizza before bed and he’s got heart burn and his hand is numb because he has carpal tunnel” Ok I thought that’s reassuring but I still need to find a way to literally pull myself together. I then got logical about things. I must need grounding I thought. So I put all my concentration and focus on moving my leg. Finally after what felt like ages, I managed to put my left leg out of the bed and onto the floor. Immediately with a whoosh I felt a searing hot pain through the top of my head, and I was suddenly awake. “Oh thank god, thank you, thank you, thank you” I said as I patted myself down checking everything was in the right place! I then leapt out of bed to tend to my husband.
We sought medical attention for my husband as soon as possible, his father had died from a heart attach at a similar age, so I wasn’t taking any chances. On the way to hospital I told him about the weird experience I had, laughing he said I did feel you touch my back, but you were out cold he said so I tried not to wake you. Eventually after he had been seen, we were given the all clear by the doctors. He told us that my husband had had a bad case of indigestion and that his tingly arm was due to carpal tunnel and he may need an operation. Thank you so much I said out loud, partly to the doctor, but mainly to that kind woman who was watching over us both that night.
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Published: 16th August 2019
Have you ever wondered why predictions that you’re given in readings can be out by months, even years, or happen in a different order to what you were told? Sometimes we won’t offer you times or dates but say things like, “in your immediate future, in your recent past or in your present day.” The reason for this may surprise you.
We naturally assume, because of the way we experience our physical world, that time is a linear concept. We see plants, people, animals grow over “time” we see nature, ever changing seasons and the lines on our faces and the grey hairs on our heads, and we believe that this is happening in a straight line. Consider this for a moment, if you believe that your path is destined, or pre-chosen by you before you were born, your life events must already exist somewhere, in some form. Like a great book of your life, pre-written and accessible to read when you feel you have forgotten what you’re doing here.
In my opinion all that ever has been, and all that ever will be, exists in the present, and what we are experiencing are the echoes or that event. Rather like when you throw a stone into the river the event being the impact of the stone hitting the surface of the water and the experience being the ripples that are cast out, echoing outwards. The event experience is stronger in the present and becomes weaker the further it spreads. Look at those ripples though, are they linear? No. it’s a perfect circle, the ripples are like bands and they expand all around there’s no beginning or ending, nor is there a past or a future.
When I access the knowledge of your past, present or even future life event, I access it from the point of impact. I experience it for you during the reading, be that through a feeling, or a vision. I then use the cards to try and figure out when you will experience it in linear form so you can make sense of that information. A heck of a lot depends on you too, and on the other people involved in your reading. You see you chose these experiences and to a degree you are still choosing them, but you don’t have to follow them. You may have stayed in a particular relationship longer than you had planned or taken a different career path than you had intended, as you have free will, this is your movie, you are the director, the actor and the viewer. Your free will and the free will of all involved in your life has a great impact on that reading, its like changing the size of the stone you threw into the river. Asking me to give you exact dates or timings is like trying to predict where a particular snowflake will land, on a particular blade of grass, on a particular day.
What we can do for you though, is help you remember what it was you came here for. When we are on the right path for us, life is easy, but when we veer too far off it life becomes more difficult, a reading can help you remember which way you need to go, what you need to do and who you need to be with. Other psychics and I chose this path, we agreed before hand that we would come here and dedicate our lives to helping you stay on your life path and assist you when you need us. We do not control the events, nor the people and we cannot control time. So, the next time you have a reading, please be mindful of this and be patient with your Reader, we are here to help you because we choose to be and do so with love and positive intent and only want what’s best for you.
Brightest Blessings Nanette )0(
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Published: 16th July 2019
It’s a word you have probably been hearing about a lot lately, it may even sound like a modern behaviour or trendy phrase, when in fact its origins date back to the early Greeks. It was first heard of in Ancient Greek Mythology in a story relating to vanity, whereby a young hunter by the name of Narcisuss fell in love with his own reflection in the water of a languid pool as a punishment by the gods for breaking the heart of a nymph called Echo, unable to speak except for repeating the last words of another. He fell so desperately in love with himself that upon realising that his love could never be reciprocated, just as he denied Echo, his passions burned him up in rage and frustration until all that remained of him was a gold flower, the daffodil, (Greek name, narcissus). Sigmund Freud brought the theory to the fore in 1914 that this self-infatuation and vanity was a frequent behavioural pattern linked to other similar traits such as grandiosity, self-importance and lack of empathy in certain people.
It is often the case in many “normal” relationships that one partner takes on the role of the giver and the other the taker, this is a healthy dynamic providing that dynamic switches frequently. In ley terms, you do the dishes they do the ironing, you initiate intimacy today, they do it tomorrow. This sharing should be evident in all that we do, from the chores, to intimacy, to conversation, to the highest forms of communication such as our spiritual interactions. When you’re in a narcissistic partnership you may find that this balance is completely off and the narcissistic partner takes pleasure in the other partner’s displeasure. They become too involved in their own self-importance to care that you’re doing everything and in fact they will take great pleasure in telling you how in fact you are doing it all wrong. They will tell you that everything you have done doesn’t meet with their standards, they tell you that you’re stupid or incapable, focus on your faults as according to their impossible to achieve standard. I like to use another analogy, that is that one partner is the builder and the other the destroyer, one is rushing around working hard to create a beautiful home for them to share and the other is following behind with their wrecking ball, knocking it all down again, and saying.. you didn’t use the right cement.
A Narcissistic partner will not share, they are too important. You may find that you’re chasing them for recognition, for affection, for respect. They may get a “kick” out of watching you cry or beg them for something. You may be the one who is always struggling to pay the bills while they are out on a jolly spending spree doing what they believe they “deserve”. A common pass-time of a narcissistic partner is to play mind games, seeing how far they can push you to make you react. Gas-lighting, a term which was derived from a 1944 movie of the same name, but was originally a play by Patrick Hamilton, where the narcissist husband cruelly uses subtle tricks to make his wife believe she is going insane so he can have her institutionalised and claim her fortune. The term Gaslighting is now used to describe the act of insisting that a person is imagining your behaviour and that all the blame therefore lies with them and their inability to rationalise the situation.
So what to do if you have found yourself in love with a narcissist, and yes I know it would be easy to say at this point how the hell would you find yourself loving someone like that? Well the simple answer is they don’t advertise this behaviour. (It isn’t something they tend to mention on their dating website profile.) Nor indeed when you go for your first, second or third date. A narcissist can be the most charming, friendly and unbelievably generous person you could ever wish to meet… (at first). You can be well into your relationship with the most amazing person you could ever imagine walked the earth, when all of a sudden they start to behave just a little differently. Not speaking to you, ignoring you for ages, acting a little offish, seemingly disapproving at something you have said or done. Asking you for a specific meal that will take you all day to prepare, then not turn up at dinner time or wait until its very late and burned. Changes in spending, you’re getting less and less access to the accounts, there’s less money for you and their belongings are doubling. If you try to talk about the things that are worrying you the tables are turned around on you. It becomes your fault, they overreact to anything you say remotely critical, making you afraid to approach them. You start to feel like everything is your fault, that you’re no longer attractive, mentally balanced, that you should do all the running around and try harder to make them happy. A Narcissist has self-importance and grandiose ideals, often seeing themselves as belonging to a higher social level than they currently reside in, and are not shy about telling you how dissatisfied they are with their current situation and if it wasn’t for you they would be dating someone in the royal family by now. They believe that the world does indeed revolve around them, that the sun gets up for them, it’s their alarm clock, and that the seas should part to allow them to walk through. Road rage is a common trait of a narcissist as they really can’t understand why there’s someone in front of them, who the hell do they think they are being in front of me AND doing the speed limit when I am here wanting to go fast.
The first and most important thing to consider is to leave them. Yes, it’s a hard pill to swallow but the chances are if you have been chosen by one of these people you are going to be a loving, kind, gentle, hardworking individual, with good credit and a house, car etc. Why? Because a narc wants the best of everything and needs a person they can manipulate. This doesn’t mean that you’re not intelligent, or weak, it just means that your brain isn’t wired to dishonesty or mind-games, you are well balanced and fair, and just want to live and let live. If you’re not able at this time to leave them, because you’re either not financially able (something that may have been caused by the said partner) or you still think you cant live without them (again another common misconception caused by the gaslighting) or you genuinely think you’re in love with them, then you have to come up with a strategy that works for you in your given situation.
My advice is always to leave a narcissist because unless you can become the provider of an endless narcissist supply, you will never be enough for them. They are always looking to feed their ego and what was exciting to them today will not be tomorrow. Some Narcissists have a high propensity towards infidelity and others want no intimacy at all, either way you will always be left feeling like you’re not enough for them. If you still want to put yourself through that then be prepared to provide your narc with the following: Always look for ways to praise and admire them, finding new and increasingly elaborate ways to show them just how important and impressive they are. As they have no concept of the inability to feel empathy, you could cry your eyes out all night and not get a hug, they wouldn’t feel for you at all so save your tears, they will instead consider you to be ridiculous, hormonal, insane. Never relate them to the real world or compare them to anything or anyone unless it’s to tell them they look like a film star or sing like an angel, always put your needs last, be endlessly giving, never contradict or disagree with them, do not criticise them, always admire him of his successes and importance, tell them they are unique, listen to everything they say and agree with it even if their logic is flawed or incomplete, be accommodating and agreeable, you must be emotionally independent of the narc because they are not able to give you what you need emotionally.
You cannot change them, so don’t even try, you can’t fix them all you can do is try and fix the situation that they may react to. Yes narcissism is a psychological disability, but to truly understand them you need to understand your own psychological behaviours, what is it about you that needs to be in this relationship, are you masochistic for example, what is it that you’re doing this for? What do you hope to do? Change them? True love will conquer all? Not if you’re unable to feel it, it won’t. A narcissist will know exactly how to get you hooked into them by turning on the charm and flattery, even openly display acts of tenderness and public displays of affection, but once you fall for them, the cracks begin to show. Takers seek givers and vice versa, that’s natural, but beware sharks swim with the dolphins, you’re not always going to get what you bargained for.
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Published: 14th May 2019
This is a very powerful meditation designed to make the changes in your life that you really want and need but aren’t sure how to go about changing. Some of the things you will have the power to and some you just need the universe to give you a helping hand.
Plan to do this meditation in advance, choose a time and place where you won’t be disturbed for at least an hour. Find some music to play that will continue to play in the back ground again for an hour undisturbed. I recommend Terry Oldfeilds yoga harmony, but anything will do. When you’re comfortable start by taking deep breaths and just focus on your breathing. Don’t try and force it just allow it to happen naturally and let yourself relax. I always try and do this in the morning when I’m not tired, because if I try and meditate at night I fall asleep.
When you’re ready, visualise yourself on a roundabout, with 8 different roads leading from it. Each road has its own colour. A red path, an orange one, a yellow one, and so on. Think for a moment about where you are in your life right now and choose an appropriate colour to represent your life. It doesn’t matter which there’s no right or wrong answer. Visualise yourself stepping onto that road and as you do so everything is the colour of the path.
Straight away you see someone standing there smiling at you. You look at them, take in their appearance and ask them their name. This is your Guide, they take your hand and together you start to walk down the coloured road.
As you are walking picture your house as it is now, but as though you are looking through a colour filter in the colour you chose. Look at your job, see yourself sat there at your desk, looking at your payslip of what you just earned, look at your relationship, the way you speak to each other. This is designed to make you really take a close look at your life from a third-party view point. Make mental notes of all the things that you are dissatisfied with, and areas of your life that you wish you could change. It doesn’t matter what you want to change it can be anything, from the most materialistic to work, money, house, car you drive.
Stop off at a mirror on your journey and look at your physical appearance, is there anything you would change there, but do be kind to yourself, losing a few extra pounds is ok but don’t wish you were someone else. Then look at how you interact with non-family members and the general public, once you have done all of this, find yourself back at the roundabout.
Now you must choose a different colour to represent your future. Don’t over think this just take the one that you instantly turn to. On this path you meet a second spirit guide, it is their job to help you through your changes at this time in your life. Ask them their name and take their hand as you walk down the new road.
You are going to go through the exact same process as before, only now you need to visualise the changes you want to make happening in front of your very eyes. This time all in the new colour. As you’re walking down the new coloured path, start to see the same images you created before, only see the changes that you want to have happen in your life, see yourself as happy and secure, in control and healthy. Visualise yourself interacting with others and have good relationships, see that perfect job that you want, see yourself being happy and successful. It’s ok to ask for materialistic things because we are creatures of the earth plain, but don’t forget to ask for things that really make you happy, soul things, like unconditional love, and peace and good health. Continue down this path until you have made all the changes.
Once the changes are over you will be met by a third guide. They take you hand and lead you through bright white light and back into the present day sitting in your meditation pose. Take several cleansing breaths and allow yourself to come round.
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Published: 10th April 2019
As promised this week we are going to look at the various tools used by Psychics and Mediums.
The Crystal Pendulum
I am never without mine! Essentially a crystal point, or caged tumble stone suspended by a chain with a fob at the other end to hold, the pendulum is used to dowse for energy changes. The questioner will hold the dowser in their dominant hand and ask it to show them a positive and negative answer. The crystal will swing in accordance to its answer and will change direction to signify a different answer. Often a “yes” result will swing in a clockwise direction and a “no” answer will swing in an anti-clockwise direction. To get it to move you place your free hand, palm side up, beneath the crystal so it can use your energy to get going - at this point you ask it to show you crystal energy and it will start to move. Then confirm your answers by asking a yes or no question that you already know the answer to, once you have been given the correct answer you are ready to start to use your pendulum for divination. You can program it using the method just described to tell you where energy is or isn’t present in a room or on a person. Working through their energy centres you can ask your pendulum to show you any blockages that need attention. You can also use your pendulum to dowse maps, find lost objects and alongside other divination tools such as the Tarot to confirm what you are picking up is correct.
My professional choice of divination: Made up of 56 minor and 22 major arcana, the Tarot deck is said to get its name from the Jewish word meaning Torah or wisdom. The origins of the tarot, like holy scriptures are not set in one place in time, but have evolved over millennia, it is felt that the first Tarot deck was devised by the Egyptians around 500bc, esoteric Tarot were formed in the 1750’s in France, and later again they were introduced into the occult by high priest Alister Crowley. They are the basis for the modern-day playing card pack and many fortune tellers use playing cards instead. The questioner will shuffle the pack and place each card in a different position on the table in front of them. Every card has a different meaning both on its own and when placed in a certain position or next to another card. The major arcana consists of 4 suits - cups, wands, swords and pentacles. These would relate directly to the hearts, clubs, spades and diamonds of the modern playing card. The major arcana or additional 22 cards have a deeper more symbolic meaning and play an important part in the reading as any major cards in the spread tend to tell us what is the underlying issue / topic relating to the questioner. The most commonly used pack are the Ryder Waite and these are recommended by myself if you are considering taking up this form of divination. The most commonly used spread or card layout is the Celtic Cross and this is most popular due to its ability to tell us something about the past present and future of the questioner.
The Tea Leaves
This is another favourite of mine, mainly because I get a nice cup of tea in the process. The questioner and Reader share a nice cup of tea made from loose tea leaves. The tea is poured into a teacup and saucer without using a tea strainer and the questioner drinks the tea thinking about their life and the information they want answers to. Once they have finished their tea (leaving a little in the bottom of the tea cup) the questioner will hold the cup by the handle and pass the cup in a clockwise circular motion 3 times and turn the cup upside down onto the saucer. The reader then looks into the cup and the saucer and looks for shapes that resemble images to them. The images will stand for different things and depending on where they are positioned in the cup will depict if the event is from the past, present or future. You can get all sorts of special tea cups and saucers all marked out to map your reading for you like layouts of Tarot cards, but personally I prefer to follow the simple file, if it’s left of the handle its past, if it’s in the right side it’s future and if it’s at the bottom it’s away from the questioner and belongs to another or will take a long time to come around and if it’s near the rim it’s more urgent, present day or a pressing matter. I like to dowse with this one or Scry using my crystal ball.
Whether you choose to use a crystal ball, bowl of water, witches ball, polished black onyx, or candle flame the principals of Scrying remain the same. You use your item to focus your gaze into and clear your mind. As you stare into it your vision will blur and your focus point become fuzzy, then out of the blue the fog will suddenly clear and you will see an image. This could be a quick symbol, or shape or a whole vision like watching a TV screen. Though you may find this difficult at first, keep persevering as this really is the art of the true psychic /fortune teller and well worth being able to do. As with many things, practice makes perfect, but don’t sit there trying for hours on end, take 20 mins a session and enjoy it, make notes as you go along. I find it helps to write down your purpose first so that you are making sense of what you are given. For example jot down, I want to see what will happen in my husband’s job - write this down, place it beneath the ball or whatever you are using. Dim the lights and see what you get.
The runes originate from Scandinavia, and were a favourite of the Viking warriors, it is said that Odin was hanging from the tree of life and he noticed some fallen sticks upon the ground beneath him. The sticks had landed in such a way they created different shapes as they crossed each other, it is said that from these shapes he was able to receive great wisdom and understanding into the plight of man. These symbols became the basis of the first written language of the ancient Norsemen and Runes have been used for centuries as magical implements and as the oldest and least changed method of divination ever known. It is easy to cast the runes, you can either pick 3 from the bag or cast them and read the ones that land face up. Reading them however takes years of study and a knowledge of the Norse gods and pagan ways is essential. A rune reading will go in deep and deal with your inner psyche, it’s not useful for a quick reading about how someone feels about you for example.
Psychometry is the art of reading the energy emanating from personal items or artefacts. This is something that psychics working for the police will do if they have a murder weapon or item belonging to the victim. Ask the person you are reading for to hand you an item that they wear all the time or that has very specific personal value to them. The Reader often is someone with both psychic and Clairvoyant gifts, they can use the object to connect with the deceased, or the living and read the residual energy the item possesses. You would have to be present in the same room to do this for obvious reasons.
So which is right for you? Well that depends on what you want from your readings. If you want to speak to someone from the other realms, you really must ask for a Medium with any of the “Clair” abilities, I described in last week’s blog post. If you’re after prediction or psychic viewing you need to ask specifically for a psychic.
Never ask a Medium to perform tricks, like asking the spirit what colour is my car or how many fingers am I holding up. It doesn’t work that way, your Reader will be channelling from the highest realms of existence and spirit do not perceive the mundane in that way, they are only interested in your spiritual well-being and keeping you on the life path you chose before coming to the earth plane. Your Medium may also be psychic and able to see the mundane for you as well, but this is something that you should ask them first before you start your reading. Remember that Readers are people too and they deserve your respect and gratitude for the work that they do.
Some Mediums work from a church and they are called spiritualists. This is exactly the same reading wise, but can be more religious depending on the type of spiritualist church. Mediums and psychics are not of any specific religion or belief, but come from all walks of life. One may talk about god, another about the universe, another about the angels, it really doesn’t matter which you resonate with, ALL will be working in the light and coming from a place of unconditional love and peace.
I do hope this has helped
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Published: 3rd April 2019
You may get confused with all the different names you hear Readers being described as. Psychics, clairvoyants, empaths and so on, what does this all mean and how do you know what is right for you? I thought I’d take five minutes to sit down and explain it to you, perhaps taking some of the confusion out of it.
The term “spirit” is a generic term used to describe beings who exist on a higher astral plane to us. There are many levels to the upper Astral, and the term spirit covers all esoteric beings, from human to archangels. It’s more complicated than I am explaining it, but to give you an idea, when a person dies they will pass to the next level of existence. There are loads of levels within this but to keep things simple this graph below explains it more simply. Spirits from the spiritual plane and angelic beings from the Astral plane can use Portals to commune with the earth plane. Those portals can turn up actually in the earth itself, at specific points where energy lines called ley lines meet (called crossing portals) or through a human being. These chosen human beings are called Mediums. Medium quite literally means vessel, the gifted human is being used as a vessel for the spirit to communicate through. The spirit enters the person with the permission of the Medium’s spirit guide, and will work either behind them or through transgression. A transgression Medium will allow the spirit to enter them and will actually change into that spirit, using their voice and their expressions. This is the most dangerous form of channelling and only should be done by very experienced Mediums.
You will often hear the term clairvoyant being used , or psychic clairvoyant. People kind of use this as a ‘catch all’ description of their gifts but there are sublte differences in the way a Medium receives the information.All mediums including the transgression medium will have one or more of the following abilities.
Clairvoyant: A clairvoyant will have clear vision, and has the ability to see pictures in their mind that relate to the energies around them. They will tell you that they see an event unfurling in front of them. Spirit will appear in front, behind, or to the side of them. They will actually see with their eyes and be able to describe what they look like.
Clairsentient: This person will have clear senses and be able to get information usually around the sacral chakra, (an energy centre in the human body located just below the belly button) they will express themselves as I feel this or I feel that. The spirit will give them emotions that relate to the person they are reading for. For example if the spirit is their mother, the medium will feel very maternal feelings for the questioner (person being read) and they will feel any issues that need to be resolved. Giving messages and advice from that spirit, lead by how they interpret the feelings.
Clairaudient: This person will be clear of hearing and will hear information from their guides and other spirits. They will say things like, someone is telling me, or I can hear this or that. The words will be heard in their heads or outside their body as if being said by an unseen mouth, this gift is commonly misdiagnosed as schizophrenia by GPs.
Empathic: These are people who can literally feel what the person they are reading for is feeling (Deanna Troy from Star Trek Next Generation for example). They will feel another person’s pain, emotion and suffering as if it is their own.
Psychic: A psychic is more of the earth, they will be able to commune with the beings on the same plane. Psychics are able to see things that are not close to them, such as remote viewing. A psychic will be able to give you information that appears in their minds, which is not coming from spirit. A psychic will have prophetic dreams, visions of future events and usually use cards, psychometry or some other form of divination to trigger their sight. Psychics may have other abilities such as telepathy (being able to read your thoughts) and in very rare cases they can manipulate objects (slam doors, move things with the power of thought alone).
Many Psychics and Mediums will use tools to help get their channels open for information. Next week I will look at the kinds of tools we may employ.
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Published: 27th March 2019
Ahhhhh spring, everything bursting into life, the goddess in her maiden phase, everything is new and full of potential, the perfect time to honour yourself, whatever gender you identify as, Ostare magic is all about vibrant colours and playful allure. Gather flowers and make a simple offering to the Lord and Lady, Aphrodite and Herne, ask the relevant deity to enter your love life and inject it with the magic of attraction. Wear a flower in your hair, Primrose for Freya, Carnation for Diana, Jasmine for Aphrodite to invoke the feminine, oak leaves for the masculine, or a sprig of lavender for gender neutral. Make your offering to the deities and recite this little ode
“As new I am, as fresh I be, as graceful as the willow tree
My eyes are (insert colour) my lips are red,
May true love find my wedding bed.”
This is a lovely little spell that doesn’t impose on anyone’s free will, but rather intensifies your own magnetic charms, and makes you even more appealing to the right person. If there is no one in your life, it will help you attract new interest.
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Published: 20th March 2019
In my late teens I found myself getting messages all day every day and not resting properly in between readings. I became exhausted and my health started to suffer, I would get headaches, dizziness that kind of thing. I was young, barely 18, had been given the privilege of a wonderful gift and I didn’t want to risk switching it off in case it didn’t come back on again.
It was during these early days that I started to have the strangest dreams. Some of these dreams were prophetic, very specific and direct. I dreamed I saw Buckingham Palace in flames, the following day I played scrabble with my partner and the first two words that were played on the board were Windsor and Fire. A few days later there was a terrible fire at Windsor Castle. Spirit love scrabble, they were always messing with those letters. Scrabble letters and Rune stones. I had another fire dream around a similar time, this was so strange, I dreamed of all these people who had shut themselves in this building which I can only describe as a leisure centre, they all died in a terrible fire and the mothers were handing me their babies saying please take them, save them, please save them, it was awful. The next day on the news the main story was about a siege taking place, a “cult” had barricaded themselves into a building which had been set on fire, this took place in a town called Waco Texas.
Other dreams I was having at the time related to people that had passed over whom I had never met, sitting in a white waiting room, at one end there was a door with a red light coming from behind it, the other end there was a door with white light. There was a queue of people in this waiting room some people chose to go through the red door, while some chose the white. In my dream I gave a lady a reading, to help her decide which door to go through. Her cards revealed to me that she was feeling guilty because she had died from anorexia nervosa and her soul was troubled, she felt ashamed that she had killed herself as this went against her religious views. She felt that because of this she should take the red door, but during the reading I explained that she had a disease and it wasn’t a choice and eventually she felt better and went through the white door.
For a good few years I was dreaming like this every night, waking up and wondering what I could do about the information I was receiving. Truth is, what can you do? I couldn’t phone the Queen and say excuse me ma’am one of your castles is going to catch fire, I would have been arrested and interrogated! So, after much deliberation I decided that I needed to gain control of my visions, draw them in closer to home. If I was going to received information, then let it be for those people I have a chance to help. So, at night before I went to bed, I placed a notebook and pencil next to my bed telling myself to wake up and write down any information I receive. I closed my eyes and instead of letting my consciousness drift off in any direction it wants to, I visualised myself walking down a long corridor with lots of doors on either side, with names on the doors. I couldn’t read the names as I kept my focus on the endless corridor in front of me. I told myself please allow me to pass unless I can help them. I did this every night and things did get a lot better for me. For a long time, I managed to keep my dreams to relevant close to home situations. In fact, I don’t recall any major worldly news coming in through my subconscious for many years. I was sleeping better until one night, where my corridor turned into a long tunnel, I was no longer walking but being carried, swept along at great speed. I could smell burning rubber really strongly, I could taste it, I became aware of such overwhelming sadness, a grief on such a level that I woke myself up in tears, pillow soaking and could hardly breathe I was so overcome by the terrible devastating emotion. Later that morning I heard the news that Princess Diana had been killed in the car crash.
Predictive dreaming isn’t always directly related to an event though. A lot of the time I experience abstract messages. Pictures, sounds, smells, colours, shapes, voices, there are many ways you can receive information from your psyche or subconscious if you prefer. You may not understand at the time what the message is but with practice it is possible to understand the meanings behind the messages. I have read many dream interpretation books over the years, and a lot of what they say does make sense but I never dream of the things written in the books. I would spend a fortune of these dictionaries, only to find nothing in them that related to my dream of a tap-dancing penguin wearing red earrings and a banana on its head! I think you have to learn to interpret your own messages, because you are the only one who can understand your own personal language. I’ve been analysing my own dreams for thirty years now, and this has helped me to really know myself. I have a really good understanding now of how I tick, who I am, what makes me laugh, what upsets me, where my personal boundaries are. When I dream about issues that I am facing in my life now, I have learned to deliver that information to myself in the right context. An earring adorned banana wearing penguin is funny, bizarre in fact, and also impossible. I don’t see many penguins on the school run in the morning. This dream is telling me sit up, pay attention, something strange is about to happen, but don’t worry the outcome will not be dangerous, just a bit strange, and you will be able to laugh at it later. The issue will be pretty much black and white, and so won’t take much working out, although at first glance the problem will seem to be out of the ordinary and strange, once you look past the banana and the earrings, and the fact you have a penguin standing in front of you, the penguin itself (the problem) will be black and white and quite easy to solve.
When helping others develop their own psychic ability, I always start by encouraging them to have their own notebook and pen by the bed, and to tell themselves to wake up once they have received a message. By telling yourself to wake up once you have dreamed you will do just that. We have all experienced waking up seconds before the alarm clock. This is because if you really tell yourself you need to wake up, you will. Being asleep is very different to being in a coma. We only partially rest, a part of us is always awake, listening for predators, or in modern cases an alarm of some description. Keeping a dream diary like this and comparing the notes in your book to future events that take place will enable you to understand yourself and how you are making predictions. I believe that if I can take a psychic gift and squash it into a corridor, then it can work the other way around, once you have focussed on yourself and your surroundings, you can start to visualise on events outside of your house, your town, your country and so on.
Give it a go, sweet dreams :)
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 19th February 2019
Isn’t it strange how we find it so difficult to accept compliments? It is drummed into us from childhood that modesty is becoming to a girl, and by no means should we be proud of our looks, possessions or achievements. You may not even realise this but most women especially find accepting a compliment very difficult. Not you? Well imagine someone saying that you are beautiful, would you hand on heart feel comfortable saying yes thank you I am. Just the mere thought of agreeing with that kind of statement will make your toes curl as you cringe and blush. Why is this ok? One could argue that physical beauty is a shallow concept, so how about one’s achievements? I personally would prefer to be acknowledged for my accomplishments than my physical appearance any day, and perhaps find accepting that compliment a lot easier because I feel I deserve it, but many of us still find it so hard to accept positive feedback. I’m not sure if it’s a gender issue, or a cultural one, maybe it’s a British thing, but you hear it all the time even if someone accepts the compliment graciously, they still have to play it down somehow. ‘That’s a lovely dress’ ‘Thank you , its old I’ve had it ages’ or ‘It was cheap I got it in the sale’. It’s a well proven fact that positive thinking creates success where negative thoughts create obstacles and problems. The more you say something the more you believe it, the more you believe it the more it becomes a reality.
I remember watching a program, years and years ago about some Tibetan monks who live high up in the Himalayan mountains. These monks would sit in deep meditation in the snow thinking themselves hot. They sat there bare backed literally steaming with the heat they produced in their bodies through thought alone. Ask any athlete what is the most important thing they do to go that extra mile, they won’t tell you about the hours and hours of practice, the hard work and dedication that they put in every day, or the discipline they need to keep to strict diet plans and sleep patterns etc, they will tell you that the one thing that gets them over that finishing line before the person next to them is their belief in themselves. Our minds determine our experience of the world not the other way around. If you can truly grasp this concept, you will be able to change your whole life experiences.
Self-belief is not vanity, self-love is not selfishness, by putting your needs first sometimes doesn’t make you a bad person. We come into this world alone and we will leave it alone, the only person you are truly accountable to is yourself. So be kind to yourself, see yourself for your beauty and not your flaws, this won’t make you a worse person, it will only encourage you to become an even better person. If you value the good in yourself, you will value the good in others. If you can’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you? The next time you are given a compliment, try saying thank you, I like that about me too. It will feel weird but very liberating. How wonderful to be liberated, truly free of the invisible chains we wear everyday through thought alone.
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Published: 12th February 2019
Psychic defence is the concept of protecting yourself on a psychic level so that you cannot absorb another person’s energy, or preventing them from taking yours and or using your own energy against you. Sometimes though you do encounter people or places that have residual energy that you do not wish to pick up and you have to be aware of how to defend yourself from these forms of psychic attack. Once excellent way of defending yourself (remember we do not send out negative thoughts, only reflect them) is to imagine that you are made entirely of mirror, as the assailant sends you negative energy it bounces off the mirror and back at them, this follows the concept that many marital arts follow, using the assailants own energy against them. Whatever they are projecting to you goes straight back onto them whilst you remain protected in the mirror casing. The only thing wrong with this is, it only works whilst you are focusing on the mirror, often feeling their own wrath can make a person all the more inclined to want to get up and fight more, I have successfully used this when facing more than one person, the collective energy of 3 people being reflected back makes the individual seem all the more menacing and as such a more effective method for getting rid of unwanted attention (say from a bitchy gang of girls in a night club situation for example).
The other technique is to send back love, ask for angelic assistance and send the assailant lots of pink warm and fuzzy glowing light, it’s hard to stay mad when surrounded by a giant pink marshmallow. You can’t do this half-hearted though, you have to mean it and it’s hard to do if you have had a physical argument with someone and you feel genuinely wronged. The other way is to collect the energy balls that they send and roll them together like a giant psychic snowball, sit there in meditation collecting their hate and you can either turn it into love and return it or blast it straight back at them, (but do remember what you put out you attract back so the love option is always the better of the two!
Intentional psychic attack
Now this isn’t a nice thing to have to deal with, but thankfully it is a rare problem. There will always be people out there who work in the occult for (in my opinion) the wrong reasons. These are individuals who practice magic to steal power from others, or to gain in some way at another’s expense.
Symptoms you may associate with psychic attack are:
Of course all these symptoms could have medical causes, and you should investigate that with your GP immediately if you are unable to clear them psychically.
As you can see there is a common theme, all negative psychic attackers will use the basic primal fear that we all possess within us against us, the trick is to conquer your irrational fears then you are very hard to control in this way, remember you have nothing to fear but fear itself. Fear in the right place is a good thing, it stops us doing stupid things like jumping off a cliff, or putting our head in a lion’s mouth etc. these fears would not be used against you because they are rational, when you can rationalise something it doesn’t control your everyday life. If you suddenly saw a lion in the corner of your eye you are more likely to disbelieve it and look for the rational explanation (it’s a reflection off the TV, that kind of thing) but a very big spider is possible so these images are easier to conjure and play with our minds.
In all cases of psychic attack it is advisable to cleanse your house, and belongings, both physically and magically. If you have a good idea who your assailant might be, you should wash all the clothes you were wearing when you last saw them and cleanse them in the moonlight, you can also imagine that person surrounded by a hall of mirrors, whichever way they turn they face themselves. Then imagine yourself surrounded in a pink fuzzy light of unconditional love.
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Published: 16th January 2019
Many different experiences can be attributed to psychic attack in one way or another; it’s a pretty wide subject matter. Just as there is psychic attack, there is also psychic defence and psychic draining.
It basically means that you’re either being sent unhelpful energy from an unknown source or that your own personal energy is being drained or used against you in some way.
Most of these negative encounters will be by accident, the assailant won’t realize that they are doing it and it won’t be intentional. These tend to be psychic drainers, and are the easiest to deal with. Then you will have ill-wishers who don’t understand what they are doing but will be wishing you bad thoughts probably because of an argument or falling out. These are a little more difficult to handle but not impossible to deal with in the ordinary way.
Finally, and hopefully you won’t ever have to deal with these types, you have the more serious type of psychic attack, and that is the type that comes directly from a trained /experienced psychic worker or occultist who knows exactly what they are doing and despite the consequences are happy to use their powers to control others either to cause them problems or to steal their power source for their own. Sounds like the setting for a bad B movie I know, but never the less it’s out there, I have experienced it personally and as such would like to share with you my methods for ridding myself of these unwanted influences.
So let’s take a look at each type of encounter in turn:
It is important before we start to clarify that someone who is draining your energy isn’t doing it because they are a bad person, often it’s because they simply do not know how to source their own energy. These people can often find themselves in cyclic negative situations or have several long and short term health problems. They always have the same problems which become addictive to them, the whole experience from beginning to end becomes a well trodden path of pain, sympathy and self absorption for them. These people are in pain, and for all the world believe that they don’t want to be in the situations that they are in, but just simply can’t kick the habit. When they are not experiencing their situation first hand they are thinking about it, talking about it, or thinking about talking about it. This attracts the same situation again and again. Draining themselves and those around them of all energy as it takes every bit they have to keep this cycle going. The law of attraction also ensures that they meet like minded people, so that they get into obsessive, addictive and selfish relationships which often head down the same endless spiral of poor me and this always happens to me etc.
When you look at it like this, doesn’t it seem so much easier to live in a place of abundance and gratitude even if you do have to consider your thoughts and attitudes more often? Imagine being in a situation like this when along comes this bright aura surrounding a gentle caring spiritual person who is not only happy to listen to your troubles but who actually cares and wants to offer advice. WOW a selfless person! They don’t usually attract many of those! Of course they want to tap into your energy field and drink in some of that wonderful light. They are exhausted and hungry for positive energy and like a psychic vampire will drink it all in until you are so drained you don’t have enough energy left for yourself let alone anyone else. They don’t go at this point though, otherwise perhaps you could recharge, no, they call you later on that day or come round the following morning, where you would expect someone to stay an hour they stay for six and so on. They force you to become like them negative, and drained.
So how to spot a psychic vampire? You are looking for someone who is very self absorbed, takes on the victim role more often than not, but can most definitely go the other way too and come across as in your face and aggressive. They may ask your advice sweetly or demand it in a ‘prove yourself to me’ kind of way, but in either case they have no intention of taking it. You will feel a real drain on your solar plexus, and your third eye may start to hurt like a headache right in the centre of your forehead. Don’t tell them you are a psychic if they don’t already know or they will soon find a way to get free readings from you which will last for hours and hours - after all that’s just another opportunity to talk about themselves uninterrupted and why would they want to pay for advise they have no intention of following up on!
If you come across someone like this my advice is to make it clear from the start that you are not a free meal, place your hand over your solar plexus and stand to one side of them, so they cannot link into you, then mentally imagine you are a news reader on the telly, professional, friendly and totally generic, you are addressing this person but with words that could be addressing the nation. Do not ask open ended questions but make statements instead, such as “Well it’s so nice to meet you”, “ hope you had a nice day”, and “drive home safely.” Don’t invite them in, unless you really want this experience in your life.
If you are unlucky enough to be in a relationship already you may want or need to take steps to ensure that you are no longer available to be drained in this manner. There is a mediation you can do to cut ethereal ties between you and send them away in love and kindness, but so they are no longer attached to you. Remember relationships that rely on guilt, selfishness, greed, control, abuse and pity are not headed on a good path way, don’t get dragged into them and if you are in one, be prepared to change it or get out pronto.
Next week we will look at psychic defence.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 8th January 2019
Ethereal energy field control is a method of clairsentience used by psychics to obtain feelings or visions on a subject without having to be in the same room, town or even country. This practice is designed to give you a technique that you can use where ever you need to focus your receptors on your gut instinct, so you will be receiving information via your sacral chakra rather than your third eye as you would normally be doing when predicting future events. So remember predictions will come from the third eye and intuition tends to come from the solar plexus (gut instinct) however once you have mastered this technique you should be able to switch between the two to get more information. It’s a good idea to find a couple of friends to try this with so you can compare notes and experiences.
Now let’s have a look at some of the possible meanings of the colours you saw
Red High energy, confident strong, too much would suggest anger or burnout can sometimes indicate pain
Pink Loving, Kind, helpful, too much could mean you are too soft and possibly a push over, even fragility
Orange Creative, sociable, too much would indicate self-indulgence.
Yellow Intelligence, logical and creative, too much would suggest overcritical, thinking too much, bogged down in the details
Green Hardworking, and reliable, ambitious, connected with nature, need your own personal space. Too much can mean you don’t have enough fun or are a bit of a loner
Blue Caring and loyal, healing, sensitivity. Too much can make you isolated
Violet Unconventional, lateral thinker and spiritual, too much and you are not grounded and could be leaking energy- even living in a fantasy world
White Highly evolved, connected to the universal energy and aware of your soul purpose
Gold Very rare, highest form of energy linking to spiritual masters, gurus, holy people like when you see golden halos around angels or biblical people.
I hope you enjoy working with your ethereal energy field, if you want to know more or have any questions please contact me for a reading and I can help you.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 29th November 2018
Let’s face it, nine times out of ten, if I am asked for spells to help someone it’s generally linked to their love life in some way. I have a spell book with over seven thousand spells and rituals, and at least a thousand of those are dedicated to love in one form or another. I have decided that once a month I will write a blog that is dedicated to one of these many spells for you to try at home. I will try and keep them simple and cover as many different aspects of love for you. Today I am writing about obtaining love. So this is for someone who hasn’t got a partner yet, you haven’t got anyone in mind and are simply single and waiting for someone to come along that you are interested in.
The Horseshoe spell
The horseshoe holds magical relevance in many cultures, although not always for the same reasons. In the UK it’s generally considered to be a talisman of good fortune. Where-as In Andalucía and Latin America it relates to love and the drawing of love towards you. I thought we could try this very simple spell this week for all those of you out there who are single and ready to meet someone.
Find yourself a horseshoe, it doesn’t have to be a new one, you could try going to a riding stables and ask them for one that has fallen off one of their horses, they usually don’t mind giving them away. You could also call your local farrier, they have stacks of them, or the best ones are the ones that you come across when out walking. It’s funny that they are considered lucky, I don’t think the rider would agree because they have to fork out for a new set of shoes for their horse and the horse itself won’t be very happy having to trot about on his bare hooves but there you go, lucky they are. Once you have obtained your horseshoe, this is what you do.
Every night before you go to bed just touch it and say come join me lover and share my bed, so we may fall asleep each night and wake each day in each other’s arms.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 14th November 2018
I love the spring and early summer, everything blooming into life, food is so fresh and new and green and at its most nutritious. I first started cooking outdoors when holding coven meetings out in nature. We all bring an item for the pot, I bring my big caldron and we find a safe place to make a fire. The best part about enjoying an outdoor feast has to be foraging around for tasty treats to add to the pot. You would be surprised at just how many things are edible in the woods. Berries, mushrooms, welsh onions, wild garlic, all grow in abundance this time of year especially around streams. We tend to eat vegan, its healthier and it’s a lot easier to take a packet of lentils in your pocket than a side of mutton, but if you are a keen hunter, I hear wood pigeon is quite nice and of course there’s always plenty of rabbits. Some male witches learn to hunt as part of their initiations. They spend a few nights watching the animal’s habits, they don’t go near, just watch and learn, rabbits will have the same feeding and homing instincts, they will run down the same fairways at the same time each evening and chose the same path to burrow after feeding. By learning the animals habits the hunter can make a clever plan to trap their dinner.
When we have selected a safe clearing in the woods for the fire, we collect dry wood and rocks and stand the cauldron on the rocks over a lovely crackling fire. We add water and pules, each person will add the thing that they brought, an onion, a potato, a flagon of bramble wine. One of our group makes the most delicious crab apple jelly, goes beautifully on home made seed bread.
It’s such a simple thing but getting together and socialising in nature, caring and sharing with one another really brings a sense of well-being and togetherness that really is so powerful and uplifting. Once the meal is over we ensure that we have properly extinguished the embers from the fire, give thanks to the goddess and enjoy the rest of the day.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 8th May 2018
I have a client, a lady who comes to see me once a year, in the summer months when she comes back to the UK having emigrated to India a few years ago. This lady has such an amazing story, that I asked her if I could share her life with you, as I feel that what she has to teach us is such a powerful lesson, it is my hope that it will bring some comfort to anyone who may be feeling like their chips are down right now and feel there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. I have chosen to call our lady Rose, as I am not able to disclose her real name, and neither would I want to, and I feel that having heard her story, you would agree she is most definitely a Rose.
When Rose was a child she was abused, this is back in the 1950’s and child protection wasn’t what it is today. She was beaten as a baby and as a result she has been blind in one eye since the age of 6 years old. The happiest memories she has of childhood are of when she would sneak into an old lady’s garden through the back of the potting shed and sit amongst the roses. She told me about how she would lay there and smell all the different flowers, each with its special fragrance and how happy she felt at that time. By the age of 16 Rose had escaped her awful family, she ran away from the countryside where she grew up and got herself a job in a little town called Northampton where she operated a machine that shot metal studs into boot leather. This was a tiring, gruelling task, long hours and very little pay, but it was enough for Rose to find herself a small flat and put bread in her larder as she put it.
At 19 Rose fell in love, he was a strong, powerful man, or appeared so to Rose (we will call him Alan). Alan was 12 years Rose’s senior, he had a car and his own house and Rose thought she had met her knight in shining armour. Three children, several broken ribs and countless black eyes later it was more than clear to Rose that she had married an evil abusive tyrant. She remembers how he would come home late at night drunk and she would hide the children in the coal shed with their little blankets and torches, while she went in and took a beating for the ruined dinner that she had made several hours earlier. Still Rose managed to maintain a relatively happy home for her children despite this. She formed a particularly close bond with her son (we will call Luke), who was nothing like his father. Luke loved his mother more than anything and would often come home with flowers for her, because he knew how much she loved the smell of fresh roses from an English garden.
In the early 1990’s Rose was diagnosed with breast cancer, it was a very scary time for her but with her amazing spirit and a severe operation she pulled through. Her sister whom she hadn’t seen in 20 years moved into her area and for a couple of years there she was so happy. She finally had that family unit she had longed for. However, this wasn’t to last when tragedy knocked at Rose’s door once more. One winters night her beloved Luke, her only son, was travelling home from work, he lost control of his car and hit a lorry on the motorway and was killed outright. Through all the tears and heart break Rose managed to hold it together, arrange the funeral and gave her darling Luke the send-off he deserved. Yet on returning home from her sons wake, she found that her house had been ransacked by burglars, amidst all the mess and destruction she made a bee line for her box of keepsakes, she didn’t care about the television or the broken china, all she wanted was that box, because inside it were photos of her children, of Luke and the dried flowers he had picked her over the years. It was gone…
Home was a very different place now with Luke gone, Rose and her husband never really spoke and their daughters seldom visited, Rose went through a period of deep mourning for her lost boy, when the universe thought they would test her once more, as cancer returned this time in the other breast. In true Rose spirit she had the operation that was needed and a sever course of chemo, she overcame the big C for the second time in her life. She recalls having the other breast removed and her daughter looking at her one day and she asked, god mum how can you cope being so flat? And Rose just grabbed her daughter and pulled her towards her giving her a big hug she said, cope? She said, I love it! It means when I hug you I can hold you even closer to my heart!”
When Rose got her second diagnosis and called her husband on the phone and asked him to come home to tell him the news. When she did, he broke down in tears and said that he did not want to be with her anymore, that he was in love with her older sister and that they had been having an affair ever since the sister moved into the area. This was the turning point for Rose. Something just happened she said that she couldn’t explain, she got up and quietly and calmly went and packed all her things, she didn’t say a word. She just packed up and left. She said she went to a hotel and the next day she went to see the bank manager. It turns out that her husband had squandered all their savings and had accumulated many debts. There just wasn’t a bean, certainly not enough to start over a new life. So she did something really profound. She took what she had in her house keeping account, a few hundred pounds, and she got on a train, then a plane and moved to India.
She spent the next two years exploring India, she got work teaching, not highly paid teaching money like here, but enough to get by. Life became just so peaceful and every day was like a blessing not a chore! Then she got a call from one of her daughters. Alan, the father of her children was dying, and she had to go home and be there for everyone. Rose reluctantly went back to the England, when she got here she found out that her sister was also very ill, and was having her legs amputated. Rose got her old job back and set up a home here in the UK and moved her sister in with her so she could look after her. Despite everything that woman did to her, Rose moved her into her home, got a job and worked hard to support the sister that had wronged her. The sister had inherited their family’s money and the money from the house that Alan and Rose had lived in together for 20 years, but didn’t give a penny to Rose. Rose worked tirelessly and her sister who was bitter and angry would make life a living hell, blaming Rose for everything that was wrong in the world. Rose would make jokes about how her breasts and her sisters legs were in heaven sitting on a sun lounger waiting for them to join them when they passed away. Which is what her sister did, a couple of years later she joined Alan in spirit, and once again Rose was left alone. As one last kick to Rose, her sister had not left her a penny in the will, instead she left it to her own children and Rose was again left penniless for all her hard work and caring.
This didn’t bother Rose, she was off as soon as she could, back on the plane to India where she lives to this day. She now works for an animal charity helping cows I believe, I know unusual right? But yes that’s what she does and she is so happy, she tells me that every day she gets up, thanks god that she’s alive and well, and gives thanks for the love that she has in her heart. She says and I quote, “I have always felt so sorry for people who have no love in their hearts, it must be such a cold place to live, I feel those are the ones who need our kindness more than anyone, because they are truly suffering. I am so blessed and so grateful.”
So that is the story of Rose, her life in a nutshell, I think you would agree, she is a gift, a very special, very spiritual soul, of whom I am incredibly proud to know. Namaste Rose, this one’s for you darling.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 1st May 2018
Ever since I can remember, I have experienced these weird episodes where I would be walking along a street for example and suddenly everything around me looked different, the same but different. The old buildings seemed newer but with different signs, trees were smaller. I once walked past a derelict building and it was no longer a pile of old bricks, it was a fully restored farm house with curtains in the windows and smoke coming from its chimney. When I was a child I couldn’t really explain what was happening, adults would just shrug it off and when I grew up I was so used to it, I accepted this was something I just experienced and it’s just me. I can never tell when it will happen or what will set it off. I was once in a historical building and when I touched the window pain, I suddenly felt myself as a different person, a woman in mid-twenties staring out at the fields around her waiting for someone very important to ride up in a carriage.
Time is such a confusing thing for a psychic, its why when you ask when is this going to happen and in what order is so difficult. Time doesn’t feel linear to us, we sense events, emotions and feelings, we know that one even will precede another because of its cause and affect but to pin point these events to an exact time really isn’t why we were given this ability. Historical places trigger this, but so to do random objects. Have you ever experienced de ja vue? It’s very similar to that, only it lasts longer and has added feelings, smells, vision and sounds. I can sometimes hear conversations, people talking about a situation that is causing them to have enormous emotional reactions. I remember sitting outside a police station waiting for a taxi and I could hear a man talking, he was trying to decide if he should go into the police station or not. I could sense his fear and dread, but also that he had got himself into such a dangerous situation he was terrified. The time slips are usually linked to what we know as the past, but I have also experienced future shifts. Yes I have asked many times what the winning lottery numbers will be but I can’t control this, and so far it’s not been given which surprises me because I would certainly have an enormous emotional reaction to that one let me tell you.
The future shifts I’ve experienced have usually been linked to worldly events. I saw drones for example way back in the early 80’s but it’s not always worldly, I have had personal shifts too, I have looked in the mirror for example and seen an old grey lady staring back (so ladies next time you’re feeling a bit saggy in the old mirror you can blame the time shifts!) I also remember walking into the living room when the house was empty and seeing my husband laid up on the sofa, he turned his head in my direction but just didn’t see me. I didn’t exist to him, he was wearing a red T shirt with Radiohead written on it. When I came back into the room again he was gone. A month later he got a package in the post, it was the red T shirt he had just bought online a few days before, not long after that he hurt his back and was laid up on the sofa, and yes he was wearing it. What I guess you can’t understand is, why didn’t I tell him he would hurt his back, truth is, I didn’t know how it was going to happen or when, it was a time slip, I couldn’t have asked the future him why he was home, all I could do was observe it.
So that’s my weird thing. I wonder how many others experience this. Maybe we could start a cool group. That would be awesome, we could be the time travellers!
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 24th April 2018
I have been reading a lot of books lately on self-organisation, I’m one for these people who can’t function properly unless my house is in order and my mind is clear of clutter and I have a dedicated plan of action of which to follow in order to achieve what needs to get done. I am not however blessed with one iota of Virgo or Capricorn in my entire chart and have an 8-year-old Aries daughter, so accomplishing this state of Germanic precision bliss doesn’t come easy. I find that I start well at the beginning of the week, I take a day off work, do all the housework, laundry washing, bath the dogs, banish the cats, wash the carpets, you name it to get it sparkling and fresh; but where does all the mess go?
Yes, come to our home on a Monday morning and your senses will be greeted with the a cacophony of essential oils, fabric softener and furniture polish, your shoes will be whipped out from under you and placed in their own drawer in the shoe cupboard, your coat stripped from your back and examined for fluff and hung before you have chance to locate your phone, keys or wallet. Even your good self will be transported in a flash from astride the threshold to a place setting at the table, with steaming vegan-latte in one hand, a fresh baked croissant in the other and big crumb tray strapped to your jaw-bone like a brewery horses’ nose bag.
Oh yes, on a Monday morning Mary Berry, Kim Woodward, or Aggi Mackenzie would quake in my very presence, they would lay their pinnies down over puddles and dust the floor before me with those fluffy pink things they seem to always carry around… well, maybe not… but I did enjoy that private little thought bubble there for a minute. The Fact is, this is all pretence, every second of it, my clean house is a mere illusion. I cast a tidy spell before you come round, give it a few hours, and the cracks begin to show, try opening a drawer, any drawer, a kitchen cupboard or two, the garage door, the spare room, my wardrobe, even my darn handbag and your blood will turn icy cold, the hair on the back of your neck will rise and the pretty little Stepford wife will start to smoke and spark, the face crack and the eyes boggle, as the messy witch with cobwebs and spiders appears from beneath the smoke, spluttering and wheezing. “Buggerations! You’ve clocked me!”
Yes it’s true, I’m messy, a hoarder! Your mothers (and mine) worse nightmare! I Just cant seem to throw anything away, hair pins I need them, not just for hair, but if the inside of my ear is itchy or If there’s something stuck in my teeth, a rubber band, oh the uses for which are countless, then there’s the lighters, I don’t smoke, but I do like fire, the pens with no tops, the tops with no pens, and no, they don’t match, the odd sock or two, three or ten, a battery is it dead or alive? I can’t bury him alive! Then you have other people’s stuff! Weird random things that you know don’t belong to you and if you throw it away you will be depriving its owner of the important looking wotsit-ma-jig and then they will be upset! Not worth the risk! The truth is everything has its useful purpose and its supposed to have its proper place, however, I seem to have a distinct shortage of places.
SO, I bought some books on de-cluttering your life by Marie Kondo, a Japanese organising specialist! I have to say it’s a great read and if you want to borrow it, it’s probably the most useful book I’ve owned in ages, it’s just the right thickness to ram under my daughters wobbly wardrobe. See everything really does have its proper place!
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Published: 17th April 2018
One of the many wonders of the modern society has got to be the dating website culture. In the “olden days” when doing a reading and I saw a new man or lady coming into someone’s life, it usually came with a vision of a pub, or a nightclub, or meeting over a work thing etc. Nowadays most of the readings I do I see a new person coming in via the 8 of wands. A card that for me personally I have always associated with speedy action, fast moving energy or communication. Don’t forget when I started doing readings the internet was only something the military used or was more about internal networks in businesses not a common placed fixture in people’s everyday lives as it has now become.
I remember when it was considered an embarrassing thing to be with a dating company, it kind of made you feel that you were incapable of finding your own partner, like there was something wrong with you, that you needed help in finding another sad lonely person to spend your nights with. Thankfully that has now changed! It’s now perfectly normal to find a person’s profile on one or more social media sites, that couple up as dating forums. It’s perfectly acceptable to browse a catalogue of potential mates and select the best for a wink or a nudge. My once little used 8 of wands is now present in most spreads, it has been promoted to representing social media apps, emails, chat forums, dating sites, you name it. Wherever a speedy connection can be made, up pops those 8 little wands flying through the ether like 6 little cupid arrows, increasing your chances of meeting someone 100 percent more.
The internet has made our lives faster and the world smaller. Long distance relationships, something that used to be considered a guaranteed fail, are now common place and becoming more and more successful. Once upon a time divorced people in their late forties would give up hope of a second chance at life, in fact they may well have stayed in the marriage they were in for fear of being alone in later life. Now they have choices, all they need to do now is create a profile and get online. Yes, I hear you there’s a good chance the person you are talking to online is nothing like that in real life, but you know what, that happened in the olden days too! It just took a lot longer and was a lot more painful finding out the truth over months of dating.
The success of any relationship relies upon communication, and this new fast paced way of linking up and talking all day, throughout the day, on apps etc, is a fantastic way to get to know someone and to keep each other engaged all day. There are negatives of course, as there is always a flip side to the coin, it’s very easy for someone to ignore you, take ages to respond to a text or status update. They might post photos of themselves that make you feel jealous and so on, but in the main, lives are enriched by technology.
If you are looking for love it won’t find you unless you are out there, if you don’t open the window you won’t be found. Embrace the times, take control of your destiny and open your heart to your future.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published:6th March 2018
Hydrosol is the fancy name given to herbal and flower waters. These are a great way to harness the health and beauty benefits of plants in your daily life and assuring you have no harmful drying chemicals in your skin care products. You can grow your own plants and so make sure that they are grown 100 percent organically and have nothing added that you don’t know about.
Yes, you could just buy essential oil ready-made, but they are an expensive business and you really don’t know if they have been diluted or if they are virgin quality. Some precious oils are extremely expensive to buy but when you see how many flowers are added to create just one drop of oil it’s understandable why you pay so much. Rose, for example, is one of the most expensive oils you can buy, as is German (blue) chamomile, neroli, jasmine, and lotus flower. Just to give you an idea it takes around 2000 roses to make 1 ml of essential oil. Lavender on the other hand is a high yield plant, in comparison to rose; you only need 3lb of lavender plants to make a substantial 15ml of essential oil. Lavender is also very easy to grow, a hardy shrub with a plethora of medicinal and beauty benefits, that it makes sense to grow your own and have a go at making your own oils and hydrosols.
So what is the difference? Well an essential oil is the most concentrated, purest essence of the plant you can get. A hydrosol is the water based essence. Imagine you are going to boil down a chicken carcass, you put your bones in the pot and add some water. As the water reduces you are left with a watery chicken stock on the bottom and a fine layer of chicken grease on the top of the water. Well if you had used a plant instead of the chicken the stock would be your hydrosol and the grease on top is your essential oil. Hydrosols can be used directly on the skin, but essential oils need to be diluted before use in most cases (there are exceptions to every rule of course.) The best time to harvest your plants is before the flowers have fully opened, so the buds are full of colour and partially open. Add your flowers to a large pan and place a brick in the centre of the pan. Place a measuring jug on the brick and fill the pan with enough water to cover plants and part way up the jug. Pace a lid over the pan upside down so the handle of the lid hangs over the jug, this is because the essential oils will rise up onto the lid and drip back down into the measuring jug. Place ice cubes over the lid to create even more steam on the inside of the pan. Once the water has reduced down, you can separate the spent plant material, from the liquid, you will then be able to add the flower water to alcohol or castor oil to preserve it and enable it to be spritzed or sprayed on the body or around the home.
The essential oil will have collected in the measuring jug and can be drawn off from any water that may have joined it in the jug with a pipette. Store the oil in a brown glass bottle with a dropper top.
You can use your oils to add to soaps, creams, oil burners, bath salts, and dried flower petals as a pot pourri. The uses for essential oils and hydrosols are never ending. It’s fun and as you get better at it you can come up with some nice combination fragrances to enhance your home, maybe even come up with your own signature scent. All made with your own fair hands, from seed to bottle ��
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Published: 27th February 2018
“Softly, softly ever so lightly, come sisters gather smiling so brightly,
Cast the petals widdershinds, rose and lilly towards the winds,
Calling upon out guardians west, the east the north the south, then rest,
My hand in yours and yours in mine, protect the little one inside,
A book, a candle, bell and athame
My gift to you, your priestess name…”
Wiccaning naming ceremonies are one of the most beautiful and heartfelt occasions, the parents can either hold the ceremony themselves or ask a priest and priestess to conduct the ceremony. A lot of work goes into a wiccaning or handfasting ceremony, every coven will do things differently but in general, the main aspects of a wiccaning are to introduce the child to the four directions, (north, east, south, west) give the child a name, a book of shadows and to assign her guardians. My daughter was conceived on the sabbath of Lammas a fire sabbath and was born under the fire sun or mars, so we named her Brigitte, the goddess of fire and healing. Priestesses are chosen to be the earth guardians for the child, rather like Christians would have god parents. Each Guardian is chosen because they will have something about their character which the parent would like them to teach their child. For example if you know someone who is very kind, you ask that person to teach your child the art of kindness, if you ask someone who is strong , you ask that person to teach your child lessons in finding their inner strength, and so on. The child is given their own book of shadows, her first talismen, and of course her name. The ceremony can be held inside or outside, or a bit of both.
We chose the sabbath of Lammas , lughnasdah August 1st to hold our ceremony, which starts off by preparing an altar, filled with all the magical tools needed for the ritual, alongside offerings for the Goddess. First of all I set up the altar.
We then create a circle of protection out of flowers and call up the four corners.
Then in turn, one by one, our guardians come up and swear to teach and protect the child and then they take their place around the circumference of the circle, on the inner edge and link hands creating an inner circle of love.
We then give the baby her name, and promise to always honour and respect the privilege we have been given to be her earthly parents.
Finally the flowers are handed out along with a little cake that was prepared by the coven the day before, the little cupcake is carefully made, each stage done in ritual, casting upon the consumer to be granted with heath, love and happiness.
You don’t have to be a baby to be wiccaned, you can join a coven and be introduced to the circle at any stage in your life, and of course you may also leave it. If my daughter grows up and decides she would rather be a Buddhist or Catholic or something, she is free to follow her own path. When you become a witch, you become one in this life and the next, so you can always return to the old path at any time.
As I mentioned before every coven does things differently and that’s a wonderful thing, the more originality in your ritual the better because your creativity in itself is a magical thing. I hope you enjoyed this little glimpse into my life as a witch, I will share with you my handfasting ceremony in a future blog, thanks for reading.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 20 February 2018
I have no doubt that we chose our life path before we were born, we chose the exact time that we were conceived, our parents, siblings, location, everything that we need to set us off on a new life path that will give us specific opportunities. This is of course just my own philosophy, it’s not written in stone as it were but the older I get and the more people I read for (and that’s quite a lot in 30 years) it has become something that I can’t ignore. Time and time again I see the nicest people in the most horrible places in their lives and I think how come its always the good ones who get the worse things happen to them, and the bad people who murder etc feel no remorse for what they do, (some do I’m sure ) but the ones that repeat their crimes. If my theory that we choose the experiences that we have, why on earth would you choose to be a victim? Or a perpetrator for that matter, are the victims good souls and the perpetrators evil ones?
As a witch I believe strongly in taking responsibility for what we do and that what we do to others comes back to us three-fold. I also believe in free will, we don’t have a devil we can blame all our misgivings on. “the devil made me do it” just isn’t in a witch’s vocabulary. Why because we are all the same soul, you are me, I am you, we are not good or evil, we are pure energy that has taken on a physical form on this planet for some reason unknown to us. We could be doing it for the experience because the collective that is our existence needs to develop intelligence, life on this earth could be a kind of university, we are all studying our own special subjects. If this is the case then we must have students and we must have teachers. It’s so true that as we interact with each other, we are all constantly learning and teaching on all levels. So what do we have to learn when someone hurts us? Or what are they learning by doing the hurting?
When my husband and I were hand fasted, we were asked to think about what was so special about each other, why have we chosen each other to be tied to on a soul level in this life and into the next? That’s a hell of a commitment as there are no astral divorce courts to my knowledge. The answer for me came literally from nowhere, I said because he is my teacher, my student, he is part of me and I am part of him. Not the most romantic answer I could have given, but my goodness it was the most accurate. Our life together since then has been one life lesson after another, sometimes I am the teacher and he the student and vice versa. I have no doubt that I chose this path and it has not been an easy walk, I have stepped in quite a few nasties and tripped over several rocks, but I have also had time to stop and smell the flowers look at the sunrise and reflect on the journey. Sometimes he walks in front of me, striding ahead knocking down obstacles in our path with his Viking hammer, sometimes it’s I who takes the lead, flittering through the meadows and woodlands trying to stop anyone from accidentally ploughing through a fairy dell. Yet the best times of all have to be when we walk side by side, hand in hand, not too bothered where we end up just as long as we are together.
So back to our victims and perpetrators, why do we choose this? Would a pig chose to be a pig if he knew he wasn’t going to be free to snuffle in the fields, live a full and long piggy life, but be cruelly farmed, slaughtered and turned into sausages? And what about the person eating those sausages, they may be the kindest most wonderfully giving caring person on the planet, yet if they chose to kill to eat are they still a good soul. The answer came to me like a bolt out of the blue and seems so obvious I can’t believe it’s taken me 45 years to realise it, we NEED the good and we NEED the bad, as souls we agree to provide each other the experiences we will need in life, some good, some bad. We in turn provide life lessons for others. So when you think of someone nationally hated for horrendous crimes, that’s a heck of a lot of negative energy coming your way, on top of the judicial system, that “evil doers” soul must have made a deal, they would commit this lifetime to providing some of the most awful experiences, so the next time round they can experience something good, and so on. If we are all part of the same consciousness, then everything we do, we are doing to ourselves. So do me a favour, be kind to yourself, because in doing so you are being kind to me
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 6th February 2018
We are nearing the sabbath of Imbolg, (February 1st) this is one of the lesser sabbaths of the wiccan wheel but is still a poignant time.
The new sun was born at Yule, marking the shortest day, all that laid dormant and still slowly starts to stir, icicles start to drip, little snowdrops and early crocus poke their tiny green noses up through the frosted land. The low sun in the mornings and afternoons lights up the world with a glistening golden glow, the air is fresh and new and invigorating. Our body clocks begin to whir back into life. This is the time that I love to make my plans for spring and summer, tend to my chores and cleanse myself and my home.
On the morning of February the first my family start the day with a candle lighting ceremony, we light 7 white candles on the breakfast table and share a morning meditation. We link hands, close our eyes and create a white light of positivity which we send out to the earth and all state one thing that we will achieve before Ostare the next sabbath. Then when the family is at school/work, I have a full spring clean of the house, and I’m ruthless, if I haven’t used it since last Imbolg it goes to charity. I discard any old herbs, tinctures and reagents and make a list of what needs making in the spring. When all the physical work is done, I then take a light incense something like magnolia, white sage or white rose and burn it through-out the house, then it’s off to the shops. For the next 6 weeks the fridge will be bursting with fresh fruits, vegetables and berries, we will eat whole grains and drink green tea and cleanse ourselves from all the sugar and fat laden winter food. During Imbolg we eat a lot of baked potatoes, chunky broths and home baked bread, I try and feed the bodies systems, so something for the digestive system, something for the cardiovascular system, something for the reproductive system and so on. You can take supplements, but what’s the point when you can get everything you need from food and drink.
Psychically, Imbolg is a good season to cleanse and plan, also get all your crystals cleansed and recharged, sort through your books, and even buy a fresh pack of cards. Some like to use the same pack of cards all the time, but for me, I like to have a fresh pack every year, this symbolically marks a fresh start, a new beginning, rid yourself of all that no longer serves and start out as you mean to go on. I also like to breathe a sense of humour into the season, so when the daily chores are done, I love to sit down with the family after tea and watch a good comedy, laughing is so important, let the only tears you shed this year be those that you wipe from your cheeks from laughter. May the only pain you feel be the aching of your sides from a good joke, and may your shoulders be light of woe and heart filled with joy and happiness.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published:30th January 2018
As we cross over from the old to the new, celebrating the passing of one turn of the wheel, from Mahon to Samhain, trees shake themselves free from leaves, animals shed their glorious summer robes. We can draw upon that energy and join in! As the holly king and man of the oak take precedence, right at that moment you will experience a sunset so rich with orange and gold that you have to stop and be with it a while. Ahhh, its Samhain, blessed be.
I used to celebrate the turning of the seasons doing ceremonial work, spell-crafting and big celebrations, this year I had a different Samhain, this year I was given a sudden personal growth spurt which brought me straight back to why I am a witch. I can feel it in my bones, a sort of power that surges up from the earth and through my soul, that gives me the strength to transform into the new phase. I had been suffering on a personal level and spiritual one, I had been sent many lessons, many hills to climb, and just when I felt I couldn’t take another step I was filled with golden light, every cell of my being was enriched, I felt fed, nourished and ready to embrace the season, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
I was approached by a company who wanted to make a video about witchcraft, to come into my home and see how a witch lives. They told me that they had interviewed many others who were reluctant to share what we do and how we live, they wondered why this was. I thought about this and the answer is simple. Paganism precedes religion, and is not about control and dominance. Our sabbaths were taken over by Christianity, yule the birth of the SUN not son, became Christmas, Ostare became Easter, and many saints were linked to our other sabbaths. This new religion’s main priority was to convert us, to have dominance over our land and people. Our beliefs and practices became taboo and our gods became devils. We have been persecuted, tortured, murdered mocked and even outlawed. There is now an uprising of new witches, women who in our kinder, more accepting society, are able to connect with the goddess and become part of this planet in a spiritual and physical way. I hope that my contribution will help and guide others and hopefully remove the stigma that is attached to witches and the craft. I was asked how did I become a witch and it was then I realised, its every time I evolve, when times get so tough in life I am reborn, with the turning of the wheel ever changing ever growing, I became a witch officially when I was wiccaned, but in reality its every time I learn something, experience something meaningful, I am enriched with wisdom and become a new woman, stronger, more powerful and closer to the crone, the end of this cycle my death and rebirth.
When the time is right the tides will turn, the winds will blow and the rains will fall, don’t try to force nature, embrace the season. The winter months are all about slowing down, hibernating, keeping warm and taking things at a leisurely pace. Spiritually, I find this time of year all about reflection, withdrawing and going inward. The Viking rune Isa meaning ice, teaches us that only ice can stop the river from flowing, it represents the power of stillness, that without the winter there is no spring, without the stillness there can be no growth. We have light and we have darkness, we are passing from the light into the shadowland of winter, these times can be tough for everyone, as we are mentally reflective and physically drawn into our shell to hibernate and reflect. During these times you may need guidance, wisdom, friendship, that’s what we are for, to hold out that hand, be your guide, to walk you through the shadows and towards Imblog, the season of awakening.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 23rd January 2018
I am full joy today, I love this time of year, the autumn equinox is my favourite of all for some reason. This is the time for preparation for the coming winter. I make my annual batch of Echinacea and elderberry Rob, a tincture that keeps away colds. It’s a wonderful natural way to keep healthy during the sneezy season. If you would like to make a batch for yourself I shall share with you my secret recipe.
You will need:
A large vessel with a lid, I use a punch vat.
500g of elderberries
500g of Echinacea root
3 bottles of brandy
Mix the ingredients together in the vat and swish it once a day for 28 days. Doing this in the moonlight helps to draw the active ingredients out of the root and berries and into the brandy.
Once the full moon cycle is up, you can bottle your tincture into brown glass bottles, label up and store. At the first signs of a cold you can take 2 tablespoons neat, or added to hot water with fresh lemon and Manuka honey. This is a powerful cure for coughs and colds making this in time for the winter solstice will ensure you have a healthy cold free winter.
Tea for the flu
If you’re too late and have fallen to a virus, here’s a wonderful mix of herbs to have you back on your feet in no time.
Mix together the following herbs:
Mix well and add them to a tea pot as you would a lose tea; you can sweeten with honey to taste.
If you are taking any prescription medication it’s advisable to check with your doctor or pharmacist to ensure that the herbs I’ve suggested won’t have any adverse effect on your medication. Wishing you health and happiness this autumn.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 24th October 2017
No one sets out on purpose to fall in love with a married partner, but it happens, it’s part of life and something that despite the taboo, we still need to address the very real issues that all parties face in this situation. It’s very easy to blame the “other” woman/man, to call them names and judge them, to say that it’s all that person’s fault but it just isn’t that simple. Did you know that up until the late seventies even eighties the view on adultery was very different? If a wife had an affair on her husband she was shunned by society, called names and considered a failure. However, to have a mistress for a married man was considered normal! It was expected that a successful man would have a wife and family at home and a younger woman adorned in examples of his wealth on his arm when he was away from home “relaxing”.
Thankfully we have socially evolved since these times, we have become open and accepting of same sex marriage and parenting, we have begun to embrace the concept of transgender relationship sexual and racial equality is vastly improving. As we evolve culturally we are becoming more open and honest, the general consensus seems to reflect the Wiccan Rede, “harm the non doth hast thy will” in other words, do what you like just don’t hurt anyone else in the process. New generations are evolving to be more conscious of what impact their actions have on each other, the animals, the planet. Which brings us back to the dilemma, what happens if you fall in love with someone who is not available? In a world where we are encouraged to be and do what we like, but also to be fair and mindful. Are you a sinner in the new world? Are you shunned or are you celebrated?
First and foremost, the person who has committed themselves to a relationship, regardless of the current state it is in, is solely responsible for the harm that their infidelity will inevitably cause. If they choose to violate that trust and betray their spouse, the burden of guilt and accountability is theirs and theirs alone. It’s easier to blame the “other” party the new comer to the situation, and yes in many cases they themselves could of and perhaps should of made better choices but the responsibility of the marriage itself remains in the hands of the married couple. If the marriage is breaking down or if either party feels the need to stray, this should be discussed and worked on first before either bring anyone else into the mix, if their issues are unresolvable, then they should take the necessary actions to separate as amicably as possible.
When you tell someone you love them and allow them to fall in love with you, you are ethically and morally making a commitment to them that you will not betray their trust and that you will protect the heart that they gave you in total love and total trust. In most cases marriages will survive anything if both parties remain faithful. Yes arguments and issues occur in all relationships, people do things they’re not proud of but once you cross that line and give your body or heart to another, you have destroyed the other person whether they know about it or not and to a degree you also destroy a part of yourself. You are no longer honest, trustworthy, sincere or faithful, and you have to live with that, you have to face yourself in the mirror in the morning, hear yourself tell your spouse you love them, and lay next to them in the same bed at night whilst all the time you know you are living a total lie.
One of the least thought about, yet just as important factors to this, is that once you start to have an affair you have created a triangle of destruction, not only are you hurting yourself and your spouse but what of the third party? Probably one of the least considered yet just as important are the feelings of this other person. You don’t have to say you love them, simply by sharing their body and their time you are taking their heart, yet at night you end up leaving them to go home to your spouse. When they need you, you are emotionally or physically unavailable. Often promises are made and broken over and over again. Regardless of what the “arrangement” was originally, from the moment you start this affair your mistress begins the inevitable countdown to the day you leave your family and go to be with them. It’s natural to want to be with the one you love and being apart from that person is destructive. Unless you are entering into an open marriage where both spouses AND the third parties are 100 percent in agreement with the arrangement, and even then we must not forget the impact this may have on any children that are brought into the mix (because they are the innocent victims of selfish adult behaviour) then it simply creates a triangle of inevitable destruction.
What about the kids? Children of all ages are more in tune with their surroundings than parents often realise. If mum or dad is hurting, or simply their minds are distracted, children will feel it. Children have an uncanny ability to feel that problems are their fault, a child’s world does evolve around them, their experiences are less than ours, even teens have not developed the skills to deal with complex rational thought. A child’s rationale is black and white, you either love or you don’t. Children also don’t know how to verbalise their thoughts and feelings, they do not possess the mature coping mechanisms required to handle the fact their parent has lied and cheated and left. So when you’re lying there in another’s arms, wondering if your wife/husband suspects, even if they don’t, your child will have already sensed there is something wrong, they don’t know what it is but it must be their fault.
Then we have the one-night stand, surely it’s not going to cause destruction if you go and play away from home, not commitment just sex? Well, let’s ask Coleen Rooney, Katie Price, YOUR WIFE, what they feel about that. Of course, it’s just as destructive, most people would be up in arms if they thought a total stranger used their toothbrush, let alone unwittingly sharing the one person they are most intimate with. Just because they don’t know doesn’t mean it didn’t happen, does a tree falling in the forest still make a sound if there’s no one there to hear it? YES of course it does.
If you are unhappy in your marriage or committed relationship, seek help now, first and foremost speak to your partner, consult a therapist, a friend, a family member, call us here, take action before you take ACTION. Yes Neolithic man would impregnate many females in order to assure procreation, but if you’re using that one as an excuse please don’t take advantage of any other aspect of man’s evolution preceding the invention of the wheel or you are a complete hypocrite. We have evolved to associate sex with love and not just for procreation. So whether you’re in a Maim plied that you are committed to them, then you have made an oath of monogamy unless otherwise agreed by both parties. There is a reason that it used to be the done thing to be married before sex, it was because we as a society wanted to protect the children that may come of that union, kids need love and stability, so please remember what a spouse can get over in time, a child is a different matter.
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Published: 16th October 2017
Focus on your own energy right now, have you been running on empty for quite some time, going through the motions and without realising you have almost run out of steam? Be comforted by the knowledge that the clouds are passing over your sun, they will disperse, you are passing through the darkness and into the light. It’s only a matter of time now before you feel the warmth of the sun on your face.
No reader can make you rich, famous, or make you find that perfect partner but what you have done by getting help from us lot, is you have opened up your mind, your heart and your spirit to the concept of successful thinking. You are starting to see the correlation between taking action to heal ones’ self and the speed in which positivity returns into your life path. We, the Readers/healers /advisors, didn’t make that happen, you did…you are. Every time you feel yourself thinking a negative thought about your situation past, present or future, you must remember that what you fear you create. That which we give thought to we give life to. Think positive, dream big and don’t accept anything less than the best.
The biggest question on the cards has to be the one relating to relationships, If? When? Where? How? I can give you the short and the long answer to this, the short is, yes you will, in a time scale ranging from when you have prepared and when you are ready. The long answer is much more important, if you worked on yourself in a positive way since your last relationship, taken on board the lessons and let go of the pain, then you have taken positive steps to make this happen sooner and like I said that positive action will bring you positive rewards. But don’t expect it to happen immediately if you are not ready and meet him/her tomorrow you won’t be ready and it could end up in an opportunity missed, or they will sense your dissatisfaction or sadness and first impressions count. When you meet the right one, you want to be ready to take them on without fear or regret, you want them to look at you and see the future you both want together, not the past you just had. Don’t keep telling yourself you are going to be alone for the rest of your life, because if you do that’s exactly what you’re going to get, we create our own reality. If you want it, create it through thought, action and deed. Open your mind up to the thought of meeting a partner from a different area, town, or even country, you don’t want just anybody you want THE body, by removing limitations, creation is born. I can see you in your desired reality, in a beautiful house with a gorgeous man, can you see it too? Or do you dare not visualise it in case it never happens. There’s no taxation on imagination, your thoughts are your own and they are free. Dream big!
It is the dawning of a new day for you, a brand new phase of your life, imagine you are sitting on a Ferris wheel, throughout the ride you will make several spins, during each cycle you will have your ascensions and your descents, ups and downs. If there were only ups the ride would not rotate but stand stationary and although you are on a high, all you can do from there is watch the little people below going about their business out of your reach, and you become detached and singular. If there were only downs, we would spend our life holding on to the railings in fear as the ground draws ever closer. It’s all about accepting that there will be both ups and downs, and not to remain in either too long or the ride stops. You are now about to begin new ascension, enjoy it! Don’t waste it by holding on to the railings in fear. Ever spinning ever turning, the wheel of life, you either endure it or you can enjoy it but we ALL have to ride it.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 11th October 2017
Continuing from last week with the exert from my friend’s book.
“When I got back to the hospital I discovered that the night before while I was running around there had been an attempted mass suicide pact happen, at the time I thought it was all my fault and that I was to blame as I still believed I was Jesus and therefore I had deserted everyone and that was the result. Now I think were the trees taking me to safety and away from all the chaos? Again, another question that doctor's cannot answer. This is just one of my memories and experiences and believe me there are many as with schizophrenia you hallucinate with all of your senses, so your sight, smell, taste, touch, hearing, the works and the mind does love to wander and intermingle with memories until you find the right medication for you.
So this is just one example of what happens when you have psychosis and are in hospital. I have been in hospital a few times over the years due to not being medicated by the doctors’ choice and mine as I believed they were trying to poison me. There are two types of hospital admission, voluntary and by being sectioned. I always went voluntary so I could leave when I could and have more freedom while staying there, the last time I stayed the doctor said to me I never want to see you hear again and luckily I became stable and have never returned.”
These are the disturbing memories that this lady has to deal with in her daily life, clarity and confusion, fear and strength, anxiety, hallucinations and trauma. Many will hear the words Schizophrenia and think of a scary person with multiple personalities, never knowing who you will get, but that’s only a symptom that may or may not present in all cases.
If you feel you may have a mental health problem, don’t sit there and suffer in silence, if you can’t go to the doctor you can always start by reaching out by phone or email. There are helpline numbers available on TheCircle’s help page or you can search online.
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Published: 3rd October 2017
Current figures state that each year in Britain an estimated one in four adults will experience at least one diagnosable mental health problem, though only 230 of every 300 who need help will actually visit their GP. Shocking numbers and what is even more shocking is that of those 76 percent untreated patients 58 percent are suffering with a form of depression and 1 in every 100 people will be develop a form of schizophrenia. So that’s a quarter of the population suffering with some form of mental health issue in Britain and yet there is still a real stigma associated with the illness. People are quite simply, no matter how wrongly, ashamed to admit that they may have this kind of a problem. It’s not surprising though when you consider that it was only in the 1980’s that the last mental asylum was formally closed in Britain. A place where everyone who had everything vaguely connected to a mental health issue were sectioned, given similar therapies, drugs and treatments such as ECT (electric shock treatment) and were basically written off by society, out of sight out of mind quite literally driven OUT OF MIND.
I first had my depression diagnosed when I developed strange feelings of dread, while in busy public places. I found myself one day frozen to the spot in the middle of Sainsbury’s with a trolley full, feeling absolutely positive I was going to die. That feeling of fear that I was going to die then developed into a darker sense that I wanted to die. I didn’t have anything to be unhappy about my life was text book; I had the house I wanted, the husband, the child and the job. How on earth could I go to the doctor and tell him I’m suicidal. So at this point you have a choice, do you drop down into the hole, or do you seek help. “Go to the doctors then!!” you’re shouting at the screen, well yes ok but what if he sections me and I am separated from my child. What if work find out I’m not “stable” will this ruin my career opportunities, what treatment is he going to prescribe, will I be zombied out on pills?
All these feelings, on top of the fact I couldn’t face actually going to the doctor’s surgery and sitting there in a room full of strangers coughing and sneezing, my stress levels are building now just telling you about it.
It’s only now that action is being taken to bring people out in the open about their mental health issues, without ridicule, harsh reaction or judgement. No one wants to be defined by their disorders, but society does just that. “You know Kath, Fat woman , has a dodgy hip,” or “Don’t go near that bloke over there he’s a skitzo” thankfully it’s a dawning of a new age, where people are now able to speak openly and publicly about their problems.
I would like to share with you now an exert from the future book of a dear friend of mine, she is a strong independent incredibly talented lady, very capable, brave and someone I would trust with my life and the life of my child. She has also been diagnosed as Schizophrenic with PTSD. She has kindly agreed to share with you her experiences to help the cause to bring mental health issues out of the shadows and into the light of love and acceptance.
“Ok, so I was hit by a double whammy as I have both Schizophrenia and PTSD. At first the professionals thought it was just Schizophrenia, then it was just PTSD then they finally decided that it was both; this took roughly five to six years to discover and get on the right medication that suited my body and more importantly mind.
The signs of schizophrenia started in my 20's as I would visually hallucinate when drinking alcohol. Can alcohol make you hallucinate? Indeed it can if enough of it is drunk!! I was a bit of a rebel in my teens and twenties, being honest I was a rebel until these past few years where I have learnt not to turn to drink or drugs to escape reality. Now I decorate my bungalow haha, I have so many half pots of paint in my shed you wouldn't believe!! My mum is a psychic, so I thought when I was seeing things, for example someone's eyes change colour and go from blue to black, I thought it was a warning that they were in fact bad people and to be avoided. The night I met my ex-partner she walked through a black tunnel and into the light, in reality we were in a nightclub and I was just hallucinating. I thought at the time that she was to be avoided and it later turned out that she would turn into someone very abusive in every which way you can imagine; so maybe there is a truth to what we see when we hallucinate? There are some questions no one can answer, another example is the first night I hallucinated through hearing things. I was lying in bed and a huge, booming voice said "You are going to be raped, but don't worry everything will be ok" and that was it. I was terrified but went back to sleep and thought nothing more of it, but the truth is years later that is exactly what did happen which is how I found myself having a psychotic breakdown and living in the wing of a mental hospital believing I was Jesus.
I have found having a mental illness to be both a blessing and a curse, my pet peeve is people thinking that schizophrenia is a split personality *sigh* if I had a split personality then surely that would be my diagnosis?! People can be so ignorant it really is untrue but these are some of the things you discover as time goes by. I used to be a real people person but have learnt that when you have money everyone wants to be your friend, when I was in the hospital I was visited twice and the second occasion was for my ex to say goodbye, I lived there for about four or five months before I was housed in secure housing in a seaside town. Hospital is not as bad as people seem to think it will be, the patients talk to each other a lot and being honest were more helpful than the staff, I think this is because the other patients become your family and the staff are just strangers you see in a meeting once a week and for your meds in the morning and night. I was lucky because I had a delusion of grandeur which is like being on a high, the highest you can imagine; you are just constantly happy but being Jesus was also a delusion of persecution because I thought if I told anyone they would kill me which I guess was quite grounding looking back.
Someone used to have a drug dealer throw cannabis over the fence of the garden and I remember just sitting there while everyone talked to each other and I just listened to the trees; they spoke to me and they told me how to escape the hospital and where to go once I had escaped the grounds. That night I started to have a panic attack and begged to be let out into the garden as they lock you in at night, once out there I got a chair a jumped over the fence, onto the roof of the men's wing and into the grounds. I have never run so fast in my life to get out of that place. I found the wall to the outside, jumped and ended up on the pavement and just ran and ran. I ended up finding a row of houses with balloons all along the road, something the trees had said would happen and I just waited in the back garden of a house until someone asked me what I was doing, at the time I thought that a friend was coming to pick me up so I said so. They looked at me in a really strange way as they had never heard of the person I said and that it was a kid’s party and I ended up running again. I ended up in a field where I heard a helicopter overhead, thinking they were after me I desperately looked around and saw a fox which I followed (after ditching my white jumper) and I was led to a stream. Thinking if they sent dogs out after me, I thanked the fox and started to wade down the stream so if the hospital sent dogs out to find me they wouldn't be able to follow my scent.
There were signs everywhere and I finally got out once I was waist high in the water and came across some fishermen, I was thinking questions and that their torches were flashing once for no and twice for yes, this rule of code was to stay with me for a very long time; even now it's still kind of there.
To cut a long story short I ended up finding a sofa in the bushes which I turned upside down to sleep under as the rain was pelting down and the next morning walked to the nearest house and asked them to phone an ambulance for me to take me back to the hospital as I had been lied to, or that's how it felt as my friend did not pick me up.”
More of the story next week…
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Published: 26th September 2017
This aspect to pain management surprises so many people when I tell them about it, what you eat and drink does have huge impact on your pain management. You need to do your research into your particular complaint as there are many food groups which affect different areas but here are some amazing medicinal plants to consider. Pineapple, eat the flesh and drink the juice post op to encourage healing as it contains bromalin. Ginger root and turmeric are anti-inflammatory so work wonders for those with arthritis. Shell food shells contain high doses of glucosamine for joints but as no one wants to crunch on a load of shells, thankfully you can buy it as a supplement capsule. Garlic is a natural antiseptic and also works like aspirin on thinning the blood, so great for those with heart conditions. A small glass of wine around 150ml a day does have huge health benefits both red and white but should always be taken with food. Alcohol itself can cause your pain to get worse though if you binge drink, the following 3 days your pain may increase as the toxins leave your body. Olive oil contains an enzyme that helps to reduce inflammation of the kidneys. Most herbs and plants contain healing properties, by eating a fully plant based diet you could find your pain levels reduce. It’s good to avoid fatty meats, red meats, high fat dairy, alcohol binging and sugar and if you are arthritic, tomatoes can cause inflammation of the joints according to the hays diet.
Mainly for back pain, a tens machine is basically a battery and four leads which attach to sticky pads onto the skin to omit a charge. One side is positive, the other negative, just like when you give someone’s car a jump start, only a much lower charge. You place the pads on either side of your back and use the control panel to direct the level of pulse you want through the pads. Tens are used by those with back conditions and women in labour to help counteract pain from contractions.
Not one isolated method will work 100% but if you were to give yourself a few of these in a set routine and mix them up a bit along side your prescribed medications, you should find that you have more control over your pain levels. It’s not a magic wand but having more options other than just sitting there suffering in silence has got to be better for us. Remember, always check with your GP first.
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Published: 19th September 2017
Now I do swear by a good massage, its lovely if you can get a loved one to do it for you, but we don’t always have someone to help us in that way and to be honest not everyone has the knack. You really are better off finding a knowledgeable therapist in your area and make your treatment an important household expenditure every month. Yes you are important, yes you do deserve it, yes it may only give you a few days of relief but most therapies range from £30-£50 and quite frankly it’s worth it. Now choose your therapist wisely, find someone who specialises in your injury or condition, there’s no point in going cheap here, because even if it’s a fiver, it’s a waste if you get nothing from it. If you are unsure what kind of alternative therapies are available, speak to your doctor, GPs are not stuck in the ice ages anymore, they can’t offer therapy on the NHS so they don’t bother to mention it, but if you’re prepared to pay for a private practitioner you will find there’s a lot of help out there. Do your research, find someone your happy with and make it a ritual. Working with a good therapist will help you immensely, they will come up with other good ideas for you to incorporate in your daily self health regime and enable you to see past the grey clouds and feel more “normal”. I’m not for a moment suggesting you have buckets of cash to spend, but if you work smart here, a few changes to your lifestyle and budget planning could mean that your able to reduce the amount of time you spend suffering, maybe even find yourself laughing again.
Yes I know, I really sound like your granny now but to be fair, I do have arthritis! Sleeping is the number one natural healer, if you’re not sleeping right you won’t be feeling right - end of. If you are in loads of pain and suffer with “BED DREAD” then this one really is for you. First of all get a really good mattress, doesn’t matter if the base is a load of pallets, it’s the mattress that’s important. The more pocket springs the better and if you can find pocket spring with a memory foam topper built in you’re in business. Don’t you dare buy it online. Get yourself to several bed shops and lay on them first, on your back, side, front the lot. Test it, you’re going to be in this thing 8 hours a day, you wouldn’t wear shoes 2 sizes too small now would you. If you sleep with a partner and have differing requirements, then get a split mattress so your half and his / her half are bespoke to your needs. Once you’ve found the best mattress possible, get a lovely thick memory foam topper as well. Good sleep requires no light, no noise and no discomfort. The high-quality pocket spring mattress will keep you safely suspended with no lumps or bumps, the added topper will turn the whole thing from lovely to divine, you will be sleeping on a cloud believe me. Finally get the right pillow support, not just for your head either, full body pillows that you can kind of hug into that go between the knees, support you in ways you never thought possible. And for the head, memory foam all the way.
So that’s the bed sorted, now you need to make sure you are in a relaxed state of mind to enjoy your bed. Stop using the ipad, phone, telly, computer, at least 30 mins before bed. You’re stimulating your senses, even if you feel tied whilst using it, just try giving it a break before you retire, it really makes a world of difference. Don’t go to bed hungry or too full, a simple warmed glass of oat milk before bed is enough to keep hunger pangs at bay just think of the way a baby sleeps when it’s had its bottle. We all want to sleep like a baby, don’t we? And while we’re on the baby subject, most babies are bathed in lavender scented bubbles, talc and fed before bed. Get yourself a comforting winding down bed time procedure, you will get to the point that the body recognises the pattern and you’ll be nodding off in the bath in anticipation. Start this process early, give yourself the full 8 hours every night. Plan to be in bed by 10 and up early, it doesn’t matter if you want the odd late night, but we are genetically designed to sleep when its dark and hunt when its light, you can have the odd late night, but if you want to prolong your health, beauty and wellbeing, don’t fight who you are.
Valarian, lavender, lemon balm and chamomile are all herbs which have a sedative effect. These can be drunk as a tea, ground into a powder for capsules if you like to pop your pills, added to bath oils and administered through osmosis (absorption through the skin).
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Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 12th September 2017
Not the nicest of subject matters, but one that is relevant to many of us who are living in the shadow of chronic pain. For some unlucky people they find themselves with certain disorders which cause them pain on a day to day basis, Doctors prescribed pain killers but many find they either don’t really help or they soon find that they have developed a tolerance to them. Both my husband and myself suffer with arthritis, he also has a degenerative disc in his lower spine, so we have a fair amount of practice when it comes to pain management. I felt I wanted to share some of our techniques to help ease those gnarling throbs and gripping jabs when Ibuprofen just isn’t cutting the mustard. You should always consult your doctor regarding your own personal health conditions, or before trying any new pain management techniques.
Living with pain isn’t just about the hurty bits, there can be so much more that you have to deal with as a result. Many pain sufferers also deal with a poor sleep pattern, depression, loss of appetite, weight gain/loss relationship breakdowns, sexual dysfunction and even possible financial hardship if your pain levels prevent you from being able to work. Because the pain is always the first thing you feel or think about, it’s always there, it becomes a part of you but not a good part, not something you want to deal with. You start to hate the sound of your own voice, hearing yourself constantly moan when you complain about it, so you just stop talking about it. You become isolated in your own little pain prison, grumpy and wishing it would all just end.
Having people around you that care about you is so important, having a loved one who understands and is prepared to go through the rough with the smooth with you is wonderful, but not everyone has someone to help them get through the hard times. Whether you are a couple or on your own, there are things that you could be doing to help ease those gruelling hours and I would like to share with you some of those ideas, tried and tested in hopes that it may help you. You have to start with acceptance. There’s a huge difference between accepting and giving up. Many mistake the two, just because you have accepted you have this pain thing to deal with and may have to take it into account for the rest of your life in some cases, it doesn’t mean that putting your ailments to the table and treating it just like any other issue we face in life is giving up. In fact it’s the opposite, once you have accepted that you have these needs you can then start to work with what you’ve got. This isn’t about a miracle cure, or about crumpling up in a ball and dying, this is about getting the best possible quality of life for as long as possible.
Keeping the body moving is really good for you even if it is painful to begin with, once you get going the body produces lots of helpful endorphins which help with pain relief, you will loosen up your joints and lots of fresh air increases the oxygen to the blood flow, detoxifies the cells and raises your mood. So regular moderate exercise will help you with all aspects associated with chronic pain. Yes the last thing you want to do when you can barely dress yourself, is to bend down and don a pair of trainers, but believe me an hour now of groaning and straining will give you anything of up to 8 hours of relatively low intensity pain levels 2 days later, you’re putting a good day in the bank as it were. So if you have a pending engagement at which you want to be at your best, put In some forward planning, grab the water bottle and take yourself for a moderate walk, or gentle swim, depending on your own abilities. Never force it just let it flow, slight discomfort is fine. If you do this regularly you will develop strength in your muscles which again will help you later down the line. Exercise will also help with your stress, depression, weight management and insomnia so you can see why I have put this one top of the list.
Temperature can be very soothing for achy joints and muscles. I prefer heat, but some like to freeze the area. Hot baths, hot water bottles, ice packs, freeze sprays, apply these directly to the affected area, the result is temporary relief but can be just enough to get moving in the morning or relax you to be able to sleep at night. Warming/cooling essential oils can be added to a compress, massage oil, even to your bath. For warming try clove bud, cinnamon, nutmeg, black pepper, ginger. For cooling - peppermint, spearmint, wintergreen, camphor, ravensara. When adding to bath water you only need a few drops diluted in a little nut milk, this will stop the oil remaining on the surface of the water and burning your skin. If you’re making a massage oil, you only need a maximum of 6 drops of essential oil to 50 ml of carrier oil. If you are going to make a blended oil, that’s more than one essential oil try not to use more than three different types, and when applying the drops try and remember that Less is more. Never apply a neat essential oil directly onto your skin, always add to a carrier before applying. There are some oils that can be used directly, lavender for example is fantastic for soothing burns when applied neat, same for eucalyptus, but everyone’s skin is different. If you do find that you have over applied an oil and find that it is burning you, never wash off with water, always remove with olive oil, just remember it’s an oil and oil and water do not mix, if you add water to an oil burn it will intensify the reaction.
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Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 5th September 2017
I couldn’t believe it when I realised it will be 20 years ago that Diana the Princess of wales was killed in a car accident in Paris on the 31st August 1997. I remember I was getting ready to go to work, my husband was making coffee and I was listening to the radio in the shower. I remember hearing about the accident and everything seems to go in to slow motion, even the flow of water coming out of the shower head seemed to slow down so it could listen to the solemn presenter’s voice, as he announced that she had been pronounced dead in hospital. I don’t think I could have told you about my 21st birthday, buying our first house or even my first day at school in more detail than I can remember that morning. I couldn’t believe it, this is a person I had never met, who had nothing to do with me, yet I felt as though I had just lost my best friend. I was mortified, devastated and felt genuine signs of grief. Grief that I share with the whole world!
Saint Mother Theresa died a few days later, a woman of such utter devotion to humanity was given a sainthood yet her death was barely mentioned, Why? I think it’s because we all knew someone like Diana, we identified with her, she was real and honest and open and so brave. From a timid doe eyed 19 year old, she took on the role of Princess to the future king of England, a shy and reserved young woman, suddenly thrust in the public eye in a position of enormous responsibly. Everywhere she went she was plagued with paparazzi, in those days the laws on press invasion were almost non-existent, in fact it was her very death allegedly caused because her driver was trying to escape a photographer.
She stood up against all odds to fight for her marriage, she suffered with rampant Bulimia nervosa, fought desperately to save her marriage, all in vain as the Prince was having an affair with his now wife Camilla Parker Bowles. She survived a suicide attempt, the loss of her father whom she adored, and went on to be the nation’s princess. I mentioned before how brave she was, things were very different even just thirty years ago, Diana used her position to destroy the stigma around the AIDS virus, when the world was vilifying the poor victims for being sick. She walked through a recently cleared mine field in Angola to raise awareness of all the poor innocent victims losing limbs every day to unexploded devises. Diana turned her loneliness and isolation around, she didn’t disappear into the back ground, as perhaps may or may not have been expected of her by the royal family.
As a psychic I was profoundly aware of Diana’s sensitivity, warmth and wicked sense of humour, I would have loved to have read for her, to have been her friend, to have helped her through it all. If I could relay a message from her now, I think she would tell us that no matter what you do in life, you should always remain true to your heart and fight for what you believe in, that everyone has a right to be loved and no matter who we are, where we come from, we are all equal.
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Published: 29th August 2017
Have you ever looked at your watch only to find it says something like 11:11 or 12.34 or some other memorable pattern, not just once but on a regular basis? Noticing these things can be much more than just a coincidence, especially if it is happening on consecutive days or even weeks. The universe is sending you messages, your higher self is communicating with you, trying to get your attention, make you sit up and take notice. Native Americans strongly believe that these are life’s little sign posts that pop up along your journey encouraging you to walk in the right direction. Number sequences are the most common, also times on clocks, always looking at your watch at the same time every day. But it can be almost anything. A word that you have never heard before then suddenly you are hearing it everywhere you go.
So what do the messages mean, according to Native Americans sets of numbers often pertain to your life numbers, by adding up all the numbers of your birthday you will find your birth number. So if your date of birth is 20th August 1972 you add 20 8 19 72 =119=1 1 9=2 so by adding all the numbers together until they are brought down to the lowest format gives you a working life number between 1 and 9. The more times your personal number appears in the message the more significant the impact it will have on you.
Often these messages will come in the form of items, like seeing lots of magpies, the same make of car, just about anything can have hidden meaning once you learn to recognise the pattern. So what can these messages be trying to tell you? Often it will relate to the very thing that is concerning you at that moment, but these hidden messages can be taken literally, prophetically, as warnings and also reassurances. 1 = independence, uniqueness, and originality, it’s also a magical number especially if it appears in groups of 3, and 7. 2 = signifies love, partnerships and loyalty and happiness, harmony. 3 = family, money and rewards. 4 = strength, foundations, support. 5 = parties, gatherings. 6 = warnings, problems, delays. 7 = good luck, magical number, dreams and aspirations, wisdom, and knowledge. 8 = continuity, repetition, defence and warding. 9 = money success, achievements and accomplishments. Colours hold meaning too, yellow = intelligence, green = freedom, health and money, black = lucky for some unlucky for others, red = passion pink = love and romance, blue = healing happiness and serenity, white = purity, angels, and clarity. I mentioned magpies earlier but other animals are also said to bare meaning, rabbits = happiness, snakes = betrayal, hens = prosperity, spiders = luck, dogs = friends and family. Keep your eye open for groups of things, or hearing a certain word, repetitive signs may be the universe sending you messages that bare meaning to you at this time in your life.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 22nd August 2017
There are many kinds of ghosts, those which haunts a person or place, void of life, aimless, homeless unwanted residual energy whose time has passed, invoking raw emotions and keeping the haunted imprisoned in grief and despair. But in this instance, I’m not talking about the chain rattling, sheet donned moaner, headless horseman, or great uncle Tom. I am talking about the very real, living breathing ghosts, that continue to haunt your day to day life preventing you from moving on, draining you of your life and energy until you become just like them, nothing more than a ghost of your true self. I am talking about that one person from your past that you find so hard to let go.
We all have that one person we can’t seem to forget. A love that was ended before it had time to truly flourish. We say good bye but we just can’t believe or accept that they have gone. Living everyday with the hope that they will come back, a changed person, sorry and desperate to breathe life back into that relationship. Or there are the malevolent ones, the ones that haunt us in other ways, we can’t quite get over the way they treated us, abusive or unfaithful, those who took away our sense of self, we don’t want THEM back but wouldn’t mind if they could just stop by and return our confidence so we can rebuild our lives.
In reality, we all know that ghosts can’t hurt us, but what we do to ourselves in their memory is a very real issue. When we live in our past we colour it to suit ourselves. Remembering only the good or the bad, we find ourselves longing for something that in reality was far from the truth. If you are finding yourself in this kind of situation, ask yourself one question. “Do I want a bright, happy, loving future, or do I want to wallow on my own in the shadows of the past.” Putting your life on hold for a lover from our past to return is as beneficial as putting petrol in a car with no engine. No matter how refined the oil, it’s never going to move forward OR, more significantly, backwards. You will be stuck in limbo a living breathing ghost trapped in your own version of the past. That’s not to say that people don’t return of course they do, and yes maybe you will re-kindle the flames, but let them find you in your future, they won’t expect to find you freeze-framed looking or feeling the exact same way they left you. They expect you to have grown, moved on even. Memories of our loved ones that have passed are precious, but speak to any Medium and they will tell you that they have never had a message come through from a loved one asking for you to stop your life in its tracks and live only for their memory. Far from it in fact, any messages I have ever heard about from the crossed-over have been about getting on with it and making the most of what precious time you have.
Your life is the most precious thing you own, don’t give it away to someone who doesn’t even know you’ve handed it to them. There are many worthwhile causes looking for volunteers for example, perhaps helping others on a voluntary basis, will enable you to do something practical and wonderful in honour of your loved one. There is also a lot of help out there for people in this situation, you are not alone, strange, or different and no one is beyond help. Instead of finding excuses to fade in the shadow, explore the reasons why you should dance in the sun.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 15th August 2017
You have probably heard about this concept in various forms over the years, “The secret” is one of the many books/dvds available on the market, that tries to explain to you how a slight shift in your thought processes can have a considerable impact on your life. This concept has been adapted over time as another new author / life coach comes on the market, trying to sell you the “key” to eternal happiness and great fortune. The more we hear about it in its varying forms, the less we are likely to believe it, it becomes more of a money-making gimmick and less of an insight. Please don’t get me wrong, I am a great fan of self-development and expanding ones consciousness and I openly encourage it, but I do think that they over complicate the process in order to satisfy their own agendas, to make as much money out of it as possible and why not, after all they asked and it was given!
The fact is there is only one thing new about universal ordering and that’s the name. Since man began we have practiced rituals and ceremonies with the hope of being granted our desires. American Indians for example, pray for rain by using rain sticks and their personal energy in movement and dance. Pagans such as Wiccans, also channel their intent, instead of the universe we ask gods and goddesses.
The concept of cosmic ordering is really very simple, you must first shift your mind-set from seeing what you don’t have, to seeing what you “DO” have and be thankful for it. Don’t just give it a nod of acknowledgement, but really feel your gratitude from the heart. Have a morning ritual where you take 5mins to say a little prayer of thanks for all that you have in your life, your loved ones your house, the food in your belly etc. Practice this ritual every day, but never let it tire, every thank you should be as sincere and meaningful from the first to last. Then after a week or so of doing this you should have purged yourself of greed, selfishness and wastefulness (yes, we all have elements of these within us, we are all human beings). At this point you can start to imagine what it would feel like to have the thing you want to cosmically order. How does it feel to have it? How does it make you feel? Now every day when you go through your morning list of gratitude, add that item to the end, saying how grateful you are that you have it, think of it as already being here part of your life in the present. If you are finding it difficult to imagine the big things start small, it makes no difference to the universe if you order a tennis ball or a double decker bus, it’s your reality and you’re in charge of creating it. I have tried this myself, the last house I owned was ordered, I created it in my mind, every brick every tile, I found it a hundred miles north of where I was living. The next house I ordered, I found literally around the corner. Like with most things you get better at it the more you practice it.
You don’t have to order material things, you use this method of gratitude and abundance to create any reality you desire, passing exams, getting a job, moving home, whatever makes you happy and grateful you can materialise. I hope you give this a go, if only for the peace and contentment you will feel from practicing gratitude each morning. The feeling that gives you is almost as good as that feeling you get when you find yourself staring at the item you were ordering! Best of luck and happy shopping!
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 8th August 2017
In such sad times as these, watching the news every day we are faced with one man made atrocity after another. Unspeakable acts of exploitation, cruelty and senseless carnage toward our fellow man, animals and even the very planet that sustains us. What is the driving force behind the destruction that man creates? What really is the root of all evil? Is it money? Politics? Religion?
It can become so overwhelming being bombarded with endless new reports that makes us angry, sad and depressed and if that isn’t bad enough we now have the fake news brigade, telling us a load of tosh under the guise of well-respected sources. It’s not surprising that we may be tempted to become cynical and insular; closing ourselves off from the rest of the human race for fear that they will hurt us in some way. I often find myself fantasising about hiding away in the wilderness somewhere, off the grid, self -sufficient and far away from all this corruption, but then I start to remind myself of the other side of humanity. The side we don’t often hear about in the news, or get rammed down our throats every time we go online or open a newspaper. Un news worthy little deeds that no one hears about because they involve normal day to day people just like you and me. The young man who met an elderly, recently widowed lady on the bus on his way to college, who instead of meeting up with his mates for a pint on a Friday night, decided to go and visit her and do odd jobs, purely out of the kindness of his heart. The sweetheart who handed in my lost bag, purse intact with gas bill cash still there waiting for me. The kind people who stop to give to the homeless in the street without judgement or criticism. Fact is, there IS a lot of love out there, genuine love and compassion and if we tap into that, let that become our focus, it soon becomes clear that the more love we put out there the more love we get back.
I agree that you can’t live in a bubble, and merely pretend that the very real dangers aren’t out there, that would be foolish, but it doesn’t mean that we should live in fear of them either. Why is it people find it easier to live in fear and hate, than it is to find inner strength and love. If you allow another person or group’s negativity dictate your feelings you give up your free will. You have the choice, it is your right to love and to feel happy and to be tolerant and at peace. Unconditional love is your birth right, you can love regardless of another person’s actions. You have the right to see past the negativity into the soul of humanity and find the light. You have the right not to become infected with prejudice, selfishness and miss-information. If you can accept that you can love without expectation, or demand, but merely for the joy of feeling warmth and compassion for other living beings then you are accepting your own right to happiness and peace.
We can’t always be activists, we can’t always be pacifists, some days you have to listen to the news and recognise what’s going on out there, to your home your planet, your fellow man and innocent children and animals, and you should do your part to make the changes we need. There are also going to be those days where you just have to switch off the telly, take a walk in the park and enjoy a cupcake. I think the serenity prayer says it all, God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 1st August 2017
Litha, the midsummer, one of the major sabbaths in the wiccan wheel. During Litha we will see the longest hours of sunlight and the shortest night. I love celebrating all the sabbaths, but this one in particular is a favourite because it really is about celebrating! Unlike Ostara and belatain where we have all the sowing and planting to do, or Lammas where we must work hard harvesting the fruits of our labours, during midsummer we really can make the most of the long day. It’s traditional to hold Litha moots outdoors, usually on a hill top so you can watch the sunrise and sunset. Many will gather at Stonehenge to watch this breath-taking view as it appears on the horizon in line with the Avebury stones and slowly rises and travels across the sky and the finally disappears. Even if you have no interest in the traditions or beliefs I would still recommend that everyone gets to spend at least one solstice at the henge, it really is the most magical experience. As it’s a celebration of sun, summer and fire, we will light big bonfires make offerings of fresh flowers, candles fruits and berries, dancing, meditation, and lots of wonderful food, homemade wines and meads.
This year we spent Litha on the beach it was a baking hot day and the main sea front is always full of tourists here, but my husband and I know a secret place away in the dunes where we are still near the shore but tucked away enough not to disturb others and visa versa. I chose to do some spell-crafting for some clients who have asked me to give their love-life a bit of a boost, so I brought with me a selection of flowers with long winding stems, such as tall lavenders, wisteria, clematis is particularly good because you have the beautiful bloom at the end of a long tendril. We then made little poppets (a kind of a stick man and woman made from the flowers and stems) and gave them appropriate names to match those of the couples who asked for the blessing. We linked hands and closed our eyes, calling in the four corners (north, east, south, west) and introduced the poppet lovers to the elements in turn. Then we sat and meditated on the energy of long lasting love, likening the length of the sunlight in hours, to the years of happiness brought to each couple.
As the sun finally began to set, we had our hot potatoes that had been whizzing and popping at the base of our fire all day, with lovely salad and the strawberries from our garden. My daughter found a sea shell in the perfect shape of a heart just a few feet away from where she was sitting. This little shell was a huge significance to us, as it was the sign we were hoping for from the great mother to let us know our requests were answered and those couples had been indeed granted the love and happiness we had asked for.
Once night was upon us, we started to feel the effects of the sea air and long day, and decided to call it a night and snuggle down for a restful sleep. I always have the most vivid dreams after ceremonial or ritual work, but this was one of the most bizarre I had in a while. There were giants and waterfalls, silly how then I remembered Shakespeare’s play, A Midsummer Night’s Dream, and smiled to myself, I wonder if the great bard himself was a closet witch. I know he wrote the weird sisters into Macbeth specifically to disturb King James 1St who had a terrible fear of witches, so who knows, maybe his tale of love and spritely mischief was his personal offering to the gods during Litha.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 25th July 2017
It’s easy when living the busy lives we all seem to have these days, to forget to take a little time out that is just for you. We can’t all afford to go for Reiki treatments all the time, or even have a therapist close enough to go and see regularly. As a therapist myself, I felt it was important to be able to show my clients a technique that they could use in between visits that can help them feel grounded and peaceful even in the most stressful situations. I have had such positive feedback from them regarding its effectiveness and use this method myself every day before I do a reading or treatment, so I wanted to share it with you. This can be done anytime and anywhere, you can basically sit and be alone, I have even done this in the ladies at work in my lunch break.
Find a quiet spot away from other people (maybe sit in your car?) Sit quietly with your feet flat on the floor and place your right hand on your belly button. Close your eyes and just focus on your breathing, feel your hand as it rises and falls with your breath. Try and visualise yourself sitting there slightly transparent. See if you can see areas of dark patches, for example if you have a stiff neck, see the area in your mind’s eye with a dark patch on it. Make a mental note of all the areas in your body that feel like they need some attention.
Now imagine that the floor beneath your feet had turned into a clear blue lake, feel it start to swirl and churn under your feet, visualise it starting to rise up inside your feet, ankles and legs, a beautiful healing blue which clears away all the dirty patches of dark energy as it rises through your body. As you see the blue watery light rise through you, you can feel those tensed up areas start to relax. Once the blue light gets to the top of your head, imagine you have a blow hole like a dolphin and blow all that negative energy and dark matter out through the top of your head. You will see that you have become a fountain channelling this light up through your feet and out the top of your head.
Do not stay here too long as it’s a powerful meditation, once you are cleansed ask your guardian angel to pour the golden light of unconditional love in through the blow hole and all the way down your body so you go from glowing blue to a warm gold that gives you a wonderful peaceful feeling.
Next you must ground yourself, to do this see the blow hole at the top close, turn your hands in ward towards your tummy and imagine you are growing roots out of the soles of your feet. See them delve down deep in the earth anchoring you to the spot. Then finally pull up all the rich red earth energy as though you were a tree sucking up the nutrients from the soil. Fill yourself up with this grounding energy. Sit for a while then open your eyes.
I have found this to be an essential part of my daily routine before going to work. I do hope you find it works for you too.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 18th July 2017
I have been doing readings professionally for over thirty years now, when I first started out it wasn’t quite as accepted as it is today. People would say to me, why don’t you get a “proper” job or say that I shouldn’t charge them because it is a gift of god sent to help people and I shouldn’t be making money from it. Of course, these comments were ridiculous, it’s like saying a talented singer shouldn’t get paid, or these footballers who get millions. How are we supposed to eat and pay bills if we’re to do everything for free? I trained to become a holistic therapist and I remember finding it almost impossible back them to get my public liability insurance to cover me for the healing and readings, which had no actual physical contact, but I was fine to do a deep tissue massage. A prime example of its nothing to do with risk and everything to do with what’s “accepted”.
I have learned something really important over the years, that the majority of human beings have developed an instinct to follow each other, in fact being part of a “tribe” with uniform beliefs and common life styles brings them a sense of “I’m safe”. More and more I can see evidence that there is definite divide in society, we have those who believe in something because everyone else does, partly because they don’t want to have to think about it and partly through fear, they don’t want to stand out and be counted. Then you have the other people, the “different” ones, the ones who don’t go with the flow, copy trends or jump on current bandwagons. Those who think for themselves, are prepared to challenge the norm and make a difference.
When we have children we practically hand them over to government at birth, get them registered, then injected with god knows what to prevent them catching medieval diseases. They are then made to go to government run schools, learn what they are told to in a way they are supposed to and have to fit in set percentiles or they will fall “outside” the norm… oh no! they aren’t “normal”. Then as young adults, they get the jobs they are allowed to with the qualifications they have been made to attain. We are programmed like rats in a maze from birth, so it’s really not surprising we develop this sheep-like need to flock and follow. Fighting other rats in the maze to try and get the biggest piece of cheese… the best car, biggest house, most money.
I wonder what would happen if we just said, no. Thank you but no, we aren’t going to follow and bleet and bahh, we are going to learn what we are drawn to naturally, investigate life in our own way on our own terms. I wonder if Mozart, Einstein, and Leonardo da Vinci followed the crowd? My husband has recently been speaking out against nepotism and corruption in his company. Everyone has been moaning about it for years but not one person has ever stood up and said NO! I’m so proud of him and proud of my free thinking family and friends and of course colleagues and clients at TheCircle. We are all free thinking non sheep and we are and will make a difference in the world just because we aren’t afraid to stand up and be counted.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 13th July 2017
Vegan and proud
About a month ago, I was watching a documentary on the farming industry in particular the milking process. I was shocked to learn just what a horrendous impact the meat and dairy industry has on the environment, not to mention the appalling cruelty these animals go through just so I can get some milk on my cornflakes. I was a lacto-ovo vegetarian for most of my adult life but as I kept my own hens as pets and was a total cheese addict I kind of just stuck my fingers in my ears and shut my eyes and tried to drown out the nagging voice of morality shouting at me from somewhere deep inside. It was only after having my daughter that I really started to think about just how cruel it is to part a new born creature from its mother, did you know that cows are extremely social animals and the calf will stay with its mother for most of its life. I learned recently that a well-known “upmarket” super market chain was keeping the separated calves away on their own in confined cages for as long as 6 months at a time. A mother cow will call out for her stolen baby for weeks and weeks after they are snatched away, she has no sooner given birth and she is strapped up the milking machine until it is her time to be artificially inseminated once again.
The reasons to go vegan were starting to stack against me, for every reason I could think of to continue eating dairy, I found 20 reasons not to. I have to say I have found the variety of produce now available to replace meat and dairy is way better than it was twenty years ago and I have not had the same thing for tea twice, as every day I seem to find more and more exciting ways to prepare food. When I began my vegan journey I told my husband and seven year old daughter why I was doing it, I explained about the cruelty, the environment and the health benefits. I then said that if they wanted to continue eating meat, I would still cook for them. To my absolute amazement, they both said they would support me and my little girl has actually turned down chocolate biscuits and other treats offered to her because and I quote “no thank you I don’t eat milk products, I’m not a baby cow!”
The first couple of weeks I found that I was getting hungry quicker after meals so if I had tea at 5 o’clock I wanted to eat again at 7, but this has sorted itself out now. I am now eating regular as clock work, 3 meals a day , nothing in between and am not hungry unless its nearing meal time and then I feel properly hungry. When I have finished a meal I don’t feel that sluggish stuffed feeling anymore, I know this sounds daft but I feel nourished. I am full of energy and my skin looks better than it did when I was twenty!
The biggest change in me has to be this amazing shift I feel in my soul, I feel at peace somehow, I’m sleeping like a log and my prophetic dreaming has returned. When I meditate I can see my aura, I’m lighter and happier and closer to my higher self. My husband has noticed the changes too, he used to be quite an angry man, grumpy and stressed. His sense of humour has returned, he doesn’t take his job too seriously anymore, in fact he seems to enjoy going every morning and our private life, well let’s just say that’s best kept private!
I am not someone who preaches to others, I wouldn’t dream of judging someone else for eating meat and dairy, although there are plenty of meat eaters who feel it is necessary to challenge a vegan, most vegans believe that it’s up to you as in individual and if you decide to give it a go they are more than willing to help you every single step of the way.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 4th July 2017
Short and sweet rainy day treat
It’s raining today and it’s a school holiday, as any working mum will relate there will always be those days where work and family need to be juggled accordingly. So, I thought I would multi-task by doing some practical crafting and whilst teaching my daughter and sharing with you one of our favourite pass times.
We love to make little batches of things that can be used together for different purposes, today we are making a sleep promoting bundle of loveliness to pamper ourselves with at bed time. This is my own personal recipe to cure insomnia, stress and headache, it consists of a healing tea, bath melt with candle and massage oil. I am an aromatherapist and adore working with essential oils, flowers and herbs. There is always something wonderful you can concoct for common ailments which can be administered through delicious teas, warming baths and soothing massage, what’s not to love!
I’ll start with the easiest the tea: together we have blended dried chamomile flowers, with valerian, and skull cap added some cinnamon bark and grated nutmeg. Tied it all up in muslin bag enough for 3-5 cups. Add your chosen sweetener and drink 20 mins before bedtime.
I am vegan so have replaced honey with agave syrup to sweeten and soya has taken the place of beeswax in these recipes.
Next for the bath melt
Gently warm 100ml coconut oil with 100g shea butter and 25g soya wax pellets in a large bowl placed over a smaller pot of simmering water.
Then add all the herbs you put in the tea bag above, but also include 6 drops of essential oil of lavender and 4 drops of geranium. Some dried or fresh lavender flowers add a nice touch during the bath, but not so great when cleaning it afterwards!
Once this is all mixed up, line a ramekin bowl with some muslin cloth so it creates a pocket and hangs over the edge. Pour in enough of the mix to fill the ramekin, once cool, it will set enabling you to remove it from the ramekin and tie up into a neat little bomb. If you want to make up a batch these little beauties will be still good to use for up to 6 months. Pour yourself a nice warm bath and drop the whole thing into the water. As you lay there breathing in the delicious aromas, the coconut and shea butters will soften your skin, as it melts I like to scrub myself with the muslin bag until all the product dissipates.
Whilst laying in your bath soaking up the essential oils into your blood stream through your skin, why not add a little more luxury and soak up some more via the lungs. This is easiest if you just use an old glass jar, remember to use this only whilst you are in the bath not later when you’re in bed, you do not want to fall asleep with a burning candle and NEVER leave it unattended.
Melt 300g of soya wax pellets as you did before for the bath melt
Add 10 drops of lavender, sage and sandalwood oils but do not allow it to burn, the oils should be applied once the soya has melted and been taken off the heat. As sandalwood is quite expensive, you can replace with any woody oil such as frankincense, myrrh, oakmoss or bay. You can add a child’s wax crayon if you want to add some colour.
You can then affix 6 inches of medium thickness candle wick to a metal tab and place in the jar, I usually weigh it down with a pebble, as it can’t float up when the wax is added.
Then gently pour in the wax , trim the wick and leave to cool
The massage oil
To 250ml of sweet almond or a non-nut alternative base oil such as grapeseed, add 10 drops of lavender, 5 drops of geranium and 5 drops of chamomile oil - this is now the perfect after bath massage oil. Get your partner to massage your back neck and shoulders, add a little ylang ylang, rose or neroli for a sensual twist.
So that’s what we did today! Now I’m off to find my PJ’s I have a feeling we will sleep well tonight.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 27th June 2017
I have just returned from a night camping on the beach right next to the shoreline. It was so warm last night that I didn’t need the tent and was able to lay on a blanket outside the tent and just watch the sun setting over the horizon, the constant swoosh of the waves and the salty smelling air soon sent me into a deep and fulfilling sleep. I woke the next morning as the sun was just rising, a little lobster boat was out checking his traps, but apart from that there was no-one to be seen. I’m still coming to terms with my new environment as this is the first time I have lived on the coast, but the more I spend alone with nature the more I become acquainted with the new energies and surroundings. This wonderful evening brought back memories of nights I had spent in the woods in the heart of the English countryside.
Next to a hand-fasting and naming ceremony, a Wiccan initiation is one of my favourite rituals. There is something special about witnessing the journey a person takes when becoming part of a coven. Different groups have different methods of helping a person transition from mortal to witch, yes we actually believe we become immortal, but not a theory I’d care to test whilst jumping in front of the number 10 bus! The idea of immortality is that life is a never-ending cycle with no beginning and no end, we don’t die, we return to the earth and are reborn again. Just as the seasons change so do we, death and birth are just phases that we pass through. In our coven/ group, a new-comer is given three gifts from her high priestess, a new name, (their wiccan name) they then use this name when performing rites and ceremonies and it will be a name that reflects their spirit or nature. They will be given their craft, every witch has her own skill/talent that she must master then teach on, for example you may be skilled at cooking, wine making, healing, all tasks that will assist you in life as well as the coven. Finally, he/she will be given her/his grimoire, aka book of shadows, this will be used as their personal spell book but it won’t just contain spells, it will have all sorts in like recipes, thoughts and feelings, clippings of leaves and flowers for identification when out and about in nature. Before receiving her rites, she will have spent a year and a day working in the coven, wearing white robes with white cords, where she will get to know the group and take part in the sabbaths and moots (meetings) and decide if she is ready to take the final step.
The day of the initiation is so exciting, the initiate will be taken on a blind folded journey where she will meet the elements of air, earth, fire and water, lead through streams, leap over ditches, or spread eagled on windy hill tops or placed the caverns of a giant tree stump to experience the elements on her body and on her senses. Finally, to enter the circle she will face a symbolic sword pointed at her heart and is told, it is better you thrust yourself upon this blade that enter this circle in fear, if she chooses she is welcomed in with three kisses mouth, hips, feet, she is handed her grimoire, her new black robes and a tool that is representative of her craft. The cords of her initiation that were used to bind her hands become a very magical tool knows as a witch’s cord/rope.
We then start the fun; a ritual chalice of wine is shared, followed by a huge feast, dancing and family members can then join in the party. There is something very special about the initiation process; it sculpts you into the witch you will become. I remember when I was preparing myself, cleansing my spirit and connecting with the earth, I spent the night in a wood alone, I recall hearing every little sound, snap of twig, hoot of owl, screech of fox. I became one with the earth and the trees and felt more alive and connected that I have ever felt before in my life. The next morning, I listened to the dawn chorus and felt that the birds were singing just for me. When I left that wood, I left all fear behind, I became fearless that night and I am so filled with gratitude for that gift, as I truly believe that fear is the most destructive and weakening emotion of them all.
Every new member of our coven brings with it her own special gifts and talents which we as a family help her develop and grow, watching each other grow in power, strength and beauty is reward in itself and something I think I would miss as a solitary witch, however there will be times in my life that I will have to practice alone, as do many hedge witches. Whether you are a solitary yourself, or indeed a member of your own coven, you will by nature have as much to teach as you do to learn. It’s all about sharing one way or another either with one another or the universe, we are all connected, all part of the same knowledge, all sisters of the earth and beyond.
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Published: 20th June 2017
Have you ever heard of a witch’s bottle? Ever wondered what they are? Lots of spells call for the use of personal artefacts, a collection of little things that relate to you and only you. Long before the research into modern DNA identification, witches have known the significance and power behind using undeniably personal items such as nail and hair clippings, etc.
A witch’s bottle is quite simply a bottle that is filled with personal objects such as those, along with anything else the witch would like to include, it is sealed and then buried outside on the boundary of the subjects home. The original purpose of a witch’s bottle is to confuse incoming negativity, bad spells or psychic attackers. The placement of the personal items confuses the sender, directing the negative energy straight to the bottle where its dispersed and neutralised by the earth. All self-respecting witches will have a bottle for every member of the household buried near their home, with the added security of several witch’s balls. These are mirrored spheres like large ball bearings, that are hung near windows to reflect back any energy that is sent to the house.
Other uses for burying bottles and jars are for protection and to encourage love. A honey trap for example is where you place a photo of yourself and a list of your desires into a jar of sweet runny honey, you then seal the honey and bury them in a beautiful part of the garden. You can place lovely flowers around the site to encourage bees and butterflies. You can follow the same process this time putting the photo of a child or someone else that you want to protect.
If you are ever lucky enough to come across a witch’s bottle, you shouldn’t disturb it, if you have no choice but to move it, find a new lovely place to bury it and take some of the surrounding earth that was in the original hole and transport it to the new place, thus keeping familiar energies so the spirit of the witch will be able to find it if she needs to.
I hope you enjoy making your own little bottle or jar, more fun things to do in future blogs.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 13th June 2017
We continued to live here for several years quite happily, my parent’s business was a great success and we were doing really well. Then one day my parents took me to one side to tell me that my mum was expecting a baby and I was going to have a little sister or brother. I was so happy, I had always wanted a sibling and was hoping for a little sister to play with. It’s during the following nine months that things began to change for us. My father seemed to become distant and uncaring, my mother was always tired and spent a lot of the time crying. I didn’t know it at the time but my father had started having an affair and this was causing my pregnant mother so much sorrow and stress. It was like our lives went from perfect to dreadful at the click of a switch, and as my father’s energy became more and more unsavoury, so too did the energy of the spirits in that building. One morning, my father went down into the boiler room to check the boiler, he had just put his foot on the top step when it exploded, blowing the doors off, he narrowly escaped with his life. Another day he was laying on the sofa, he got up for a split second to change the television channel, when the large heavy fire door came crashing down where his head had been a spilt second before. It seemed that we were no longer wanted there and the curse was finally about to take its next victim.
One evening after hours our German shepherd went crazy, desperate to seize a perceived intruder, my father opened the door, the dog chased something from the building across the carpark towards the church yard, sadly he was hit by a car and died there outside the church. Everything was falling apart but the curse was not yet content, one morning my mother went into labour, she went into hospital and gave birth whilst unattended in the hall way of the hospital. My little sister was born, with the umbilical cord wrapped around her throat, she was in major trouble. Although she lived to come home, her head began to swell and it was clear there was something very wrong. She was rushed back into hospital and we were told that she wasn’t going to last the night. Fearing this was the end of my poor little sister’s short life, the whole village congregated at the church at midnight and prayed for her to survive. This same evening I was found, sleep walking around the banqueting room all on my own. All I recall was being there all on my own in the darkness whilst the spirits were all around me trying to drain my energy, Margaret was there too, she was with me the whole time holding my hand and keeping the other spirits away. I felt both terrified and safe at the same time, I remember I promised that I would stay with them if they let my sister live. The very next morning my sister made a miraculous recovery, she survived surgery and although she is now disabled, she is alive.
We left very soon afterwards, our family in ruins, my parents divorced and we went in different directions. I never went back, not for years and years, until I was in my mid-thirties, I had a very vivid dream, it was Margaret, she was calling me, help us she was saying over and over again. I told my husband that we had to go somewhere that very day, we packed up the car and drove for 3 hours, I just knew I had to help her. When we arrived I was shaking, all those memories came flooding back as we drove in through the big iron gates. I walked in and it was clear what was wrong. A big Weatherspoons chain had got hold of the building, and knocked all the rooms down, I found the stairs and made my way to as close as I could to the ball room. I could feel them, they were so upset that everything has changed, I felt anger, fear, sickness, it was just awful. I couldn’t take it anymore and went to find my husband in the bar to ask him to take me home. I sat there for a moment and asked out loud Margret are you there? Please tell me you’re ok? Then I felt it, a hand stroked my arm and squeezed my hand. There you are I said, I’m so sorry for what they have done to your home Margaret, I’m so sorry. We left and have never been back but I do feel that just that acknowledgement was enough for her, my nightmares have stopped, I think she just wanted someone to know what they had done to their home. I’m sure I will be back there one day but not whilst I breathe, I will join my friend Margret one day and help her with the angry man, to make sure he doesn’t hurt anyone else.
So there you have it, my personal true ghost story, I have never spoken about it to anyone before now, I hope you enjoyed reading it and if you have any experiences of your own you would like to share, please do email me.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 6th June 2017
The next few events I will tell you about are muddled in my memory; I can’t recall which happened first, so I shall just list the events to you as they come to memory.
I do know that this event took place quite soon after we moved in. One afternoon, when the last of the few afternoon drinkers had left and we were clearing up and getting sorted for the next shift, bear in mind this was in the 1970’s and the licensing laws were different then, pubs opened at 11am and closed again at 2pm then reopened at 5:30pm until 11pm. This one afternoon all the customers had left and my parents were just counting up the tills behind the bar, and I was playing in the lounge area of the bar with the dog. We had a cleaner, a lovely kind Irish lady called Teresa who came in first thing in the morning and again in the afternoon to make things all lovely for the customers at opening time. She would clean the toilets and tables, empty bins that kind of thing. Anyway on this particular day she had gone upstairs into the banqueting room to clean because we had a function that morning. She had only been in there a few minutes when we heard her screaming, my father ran up to see what was wrong and met her coming down the stairs. He tried to calm her but she wasn’t having any of it, she left her bag, coat, everything where it was and just ran out the building. We were unable to contact her for a few days but then her son came round to explain how his mother had seen a man standing there watching her, she said he was pure evil. Now this lady was a very religious, Irish catholic woman, she had extremely strong belief and was anything but a liar. He explained how the vision had frightened her so much she had become unable to breathe, or move from the spot, it was only when she managed to release a scream that the force that held her pinned to the spot lifted and she was able to run away.
The awful stench
We had a beautiful German shepherd named rusty which my father had bought from the local police station; he was a stunning, brave, and loyal dog. One night after the doors had been locked and all was quiet Rusty suddenly became agitated. His hackles rose on the back of his neck and he began searching the building in guard mode. He then got to the foot of the stairs which led to the big banqueting suite upstairs. He froze there at the foot of the stairs, barking and snarling, my father went to go up and called rusty to heel. Rusty would not move from the spot, this is a trained ex police dog, fearless and loyal, but whatever was going on up those stairs he was adamant not going anywhere near. My father went up on his own and he described every step was as though he was walking through some kind of an invisible force field, he was becoming more and more drained it seems to take ages to climb the two flights, then once he was at the top he was met with an awful odour which made him violently sick. Within a few moments the stench and the force field had gone and the air lifted, he checked everywhere and all was as it should be. The dog immediately joined him once the force field had gone.
The night nurse
I remember one night I was staying in “that room” the one I hated which was next door to the ballroom. I was very sick that night, fever and vomiting etc. but I can remember everything about this night as though it were yesterday and this is some 35 years later. My mother had put me to bed and I was so drained from the fever I was barely able to raise my own head. I don’t know what time it was but I couldn’t hear any sounds from the street so I imagine it was well past closing time, somewhere in the small hours. Something woke me, not a sound, more like a feeling, I had that frozen time stopped still feeling, where every sense was on high alert, I felt a pressure on the end of my bed and the blankets around my legs became tighter it felt exactly like someone had just very carefully and very slowly sat on the end of my bed. The bed dipped and I even felt the warmth coming from the visitors back. I knew that no one had opened the door to my bedroom, I knew that whoever or whatever was sitting here with me now wasn’t my mother or my father, and I knew that if I were to turn my head and look I would see something that would frighten me. The longer I waited the longer the visitor remained there, I thought ok, maybe it is mum, so I turned my head slowly to see if I could see anything, the room was pitch black, but I could make out a figure, it was a woman, she was in a uniform with a white cloth over her head, she was a nurse, late Victorian I’d say, she wasn’t looking at me, just straight ahead, I buried my head deeper into the pillow and just screamed in my head go away! Go away! I then felt the entity disperse, not get up and leave, but just kind of dissolve into the air.
The lady in the crinoline
My grandmother came to visit us for a short while, I remember my grandmother as a very strict, cold woman. Hence I called her grandmother instead of nanna or any of those other cosier names. She wasn’t a nasty person, just very old fashioned in her ways and god fearing too. Apart from believing in god, everything else about her was ‘if you see it with your eyes its real if you don’t it isn’t’. She was always up early before anyone else, she would dress and do her hair and be all spit spot before seeing another human soul. That’s just grandmother, she had a hat for church and hissed at any one who didn’t dress for Sunday service. One morning, I remember coming down stairs to the kitchen to find my grandmother, in her nightdress, hair all messed up shaking like a leaf reading her bible and grappling with her gold cross pendant! She wouldn’t tell me what was wrong, until my father came down. Shocked to see her like this (as I say its unheard of she really was so old fashioned) he asked her if she was unwell. ‘I can’t believe it son’ she said ‘if I had not witnessed it with my own two eyes. A woman in a green crinoline dress, with a bustle and hat walked straight passed me in the corridor, she turned smiled and then floated into the nursery.’
The soldier by the gates
There were a set of covered stairs that led out from the ballroom to an enclosure surrounded by lead gates, this was actually where guests would leave and get into their carriages as there were mounting steps for the horses etc. Many reports were made over time of a young soldier who was seen standing around these gates having a smoke and taking in the sunshine. When I was playing outside, I used to sit half way up the stairs, I felt that there was a nice energy on the first few steps, I felt safe there, I never saw him but I felt him, a lovely happy go lucky young man in his late teens, he had a grateful energy, like he was so pleased to be away from the trenches.
The invisible party
One evening my parents and staff set up the banqueting hall ready for a wedding party that had booked in for the following day. All the tables were laid with cutlery and napkins, flowers and all the trimmings one would expect for a wedding reception party. With everything prepared all they had to do was start the cooking the next morning, so they locked everything up and set the alarms. The next morning my father came running to find my mother who was brushing my hair, ‘come now, I can’t explain just come and see.!’ he said, I remember feeling really worried and clung on to my mother’s arm as we followed him back through all the doors and corridors, up the stairs and into the ballroom. My mother started laughing, ‘you are joking?!’ she looked at my father in disbelief ‘you did this surely?’ my dad just shook his head and continued to eye the room in amazement. Everything had been moved around, all the chairs were pushed away from the tables, the cutlery had been moved the flowers everything, yet all the napkins were still standing. No one had access to that room, no one and the alarms were on, no one could have moved anything in that room undetected.
The final part next week…
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 30th May 2017
When I was five years old my family moved into a very old public house in the heart of a Tudor hamlet in Warwickshire. I was so excited as we pulled up outside this magnificent old black and white building with its grand iron gates, small paned period glass windows and period features in abundance. It was built around the same time as the church opposite, 13th century to be precise but wasn’t used as a public building until much later around 1556 in fact it was named by the first Scottish king James 1st who named all public houses of the time after the red lions on his coat of arms.
To give you an idea of the size of the building, there were three separate large rooms downstairs, a huge cellar and upstairs a grand function room with cloakrooms and two kitchens. The living accommodation was attached but separated and the same space was available there also. This building was large and beautiful and was going to be my home for the next 7 years.
I adored my new home, every room was full of things to explore like old dumb waiters, bread leavening cupboards, servants bells, boxes full of old things time had long forgotten. Every room had its own story and past purpose. I loved every room and everything about this old building, apart from one place, the function room. I couldn’t put my finger on a reason why I didn’t like this room, maybe I had heard tales from the locals that drank there, or maybe it was just the fact I was so sensitive but this room felt like you were being watched, no worse than that, I felt I was being eyed as though I were a starving man’s last meal. It felt to me that whomever or whatever was in that room, wanted to absorb my very life force.
I managed to avoid going into the function room on my own, I would spend most of my time in the living quarters anyway and those weren’t too bad, except of course for the bedroom right at the end of the hallway that incidentally adjoined to the kitchens of that function room. I hated it in there, I’m sure that’s where the hungry man slept. No, instead I would play with my toys and talk to the lady dressed in black, her name was Margaret, she was lovely to me, I think she had been in service as she was dressed very much like you would see in Victorian era, black dress white apron. Oh yes, I was aware Margaret wasn’t like the living people I saw but that wasn’t a problem, she was lovely and kind and I always knew when she would arrive because I would suddenly start to feel all pink and fuzzy, safe and warm and loved. If ever I were to sense the hungry man was close, Margaret would appear and I would be safe.
Life had been quite normal for us in the first few months living in that beautiful old building, we settled in and soon got to know the local area and some of the local customers. An elderly gentleman who was well into his 80’s had lived there all his life and remembered at least 6 of the previous landlords. He stayed behind after hours one evening to talk and have a few drinks with my father, my father was always happy to trade an out of hours’ pint for a good tale or spot of gossip. He was keen to get to know people and this old gentleman, I believe his name was Jack if I remember rightly, well he had more than a tale or two and was only too keen to tell them. He told my father about the history of the place, how for example it had been used for convalescing soldiers to rest and heal after WW1 and all the history relating to the area. The conversation then turned to something a little more sinister and he relayed the story of one of the first landlords to run it as a pub, how he had been a cruel and evil man, he had murdered his own daughter and hidden her bones in the foundations of the building, this had never been proven but an angry mob took matters into their own hands and blamed a young stable boy for the crime. They chased, lynched and then hung him by the neck until he was dead. His mother was devastated and cried and cried for the loss of her poor innocent son. She cursed the landlord and his pub telling him that an innocent life will be taken from every family who ever lived there again to avenge her son’s unfair demise.
True enough, it is recorded in registrar books of the local church, every family to have lived thereafter in that building suffered from a sad loss. One land lord suffered from a terrible disease which we would now know as a form of throat cancer which killed him within 2 years of taking over the pub. During 1924 a young couple who ran the pub went out for a drive one Sunday afternoon, only to have a terrible accident which decapitated the young woman. The next landlord suffered from terrible depression and hung himself, another fell from the cellar steps into a pane of glass and broke (you guessed it, his neck). The stories went on in a similar vein up to modern day, my father listened and laughed and poured old jack another stout, reaching for a clean glass, he said I don’t believe in all that, within a split second the glass he was reaching for flew away from his hand over the top of his head and smashed against the opposite wall.
More of the story next week….
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 23rd May 2017
Did you know that there are more than a few ways to do readings other than the conventional tarot cards or crystal ball? My mum for example reads her morning porridge! She analyses the lumps and bumps of the oats and swirls of the cream, she sees words usually numbers and pictures. I do have to say that my mum’s porridge is an extremely accurate and nutritious form of divination, especially when she puts blueberries in (yum). My best friends mum, she reads the carpet, not just hers, but wherever she goes, in people’s houses, hotels, waiting rooms, etc. She will stare at the patterns in the rugs and carpets and tell you all about the occupants in the home. I too even have my quirks, when doing private sittings as soon as the clients arrive I mist them with a solution I made from lavender flower water and crystals and read the colours that appear in the haze around them. This shows me not just what is going on with them, but I can see all the people that walk with them in spirit. The fact is there are no limits as to what you can use to quiet your mind and open your third eye.
Nostradamus the 14th century soothsayer would gaze for hours into a copper bowl filled with water, the reflections of which foretold the rise and fall or the Huns, the two world wars and even the assassination of President Kennedy. Nostradamus’ work, in my opinion, like many old tomes is left widely open to interpretation, whether you are a little old Danish woman squinting with her good eye at her breakfast or the great French prophet of days gone what we see is only half the story, it’s all about the interpretation and delivery of the information. It’s so hard for a psychic, we work to so many regulations and restrictions which have been put in to protect all concerned, what we “see” we are not always “allowed” or “supposed” to say. The questioner (client) often comes to us with their own expectations of what they want to hear, and will not leave satisfied if they do not hear it.
When I conduct a reading for you, I have a split second to interpret what I see and try and make sense of it, unlike Nostradamus, I do not make grand sweeping predictions that may or may not happen 500 to 5000 years from now, rather I must tune in immediately to a complete faceless and if on chat voiceless entity and tell them specific clear and honest facts about them in a way that they can best understand. I must take into account their mood, if they are feeling vulnerable, scared, angry, impatient, mistrusting… this list is endless, their dialect as we deal with people all over the world, in England alone you only have to move 5 miles up the road and you will be using completely different dialect. I want to leave the reading on a high note, I never want you to leave me without hope because there always is hope, always, after rains there will be sun always (unless you’re in the north east hehe). The fact remains; we are only as good as our last reading, the last rating that someone leaves us, which is very hard when you consider just what we are up against.
I read for one gentleman in particular, who’s readings were centred about a move and a job, he didn’t get the particular job, so left a one star rating without continuing any further, tired once and quit, blaming me and making sure he marked me as low as he felt inside. We are psychics, we are highly sensitive spiritual beings, we are visionaries, councillors, and every single one of us cares deeply about you, even though we will never meet or share a cup of tea, you are like family to us, we want what is right and best for you, its why we were given this gift. So whether it’s your morning porridge, tarot, crystal ball, fruit bowl, pendulum, lines on your hand, crumpled old crisp packet… whatever your preferred method, enjoy your readings, take all the good from them, all the love and support and guidance and be safe in the knowledge that you are not alone, you are safe and whatever clouds may grey your skies today, the sun is ALWAYS just around the corner.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 16th May 2017
Have you ever wondered how a perfectly respectable, gentile person can step into the driving seat of a car and be instantly transformed into a seething maniac? What is it about this little magic box on wheels? How does it possess such powers? I wonder if the horse and carriage had quite the same effect on the driver? (I imagine it did but the horses hide took the brunt.) I have found myself guilty of exactly the same behaviour on more occasions than I would like to admit, but why? I'm just not like that angry cursing crazed woman in the box at all! Or am I?
Psychologists tell us that the car represents an instant stress situation from relatively calm to "I am now in danger" at the turn of the key. As you start the engine your adrenaline rises slightly and will gradually increase or decrease throughout your journey depending on the level of danger. The hormone Adrenaline will produce a reaction known as the flight or fight response, similarly to a wild animal who is about to be attacked, it will either attack first or run away fast. You may not be one or the other, in fact you most certainly will change from one stance to the other throughout your journey and that’s ok, you are in an unnatural situation and every turn is unknown, it’s ok to be a bit adrenal. It’s not ok to use the drive home to release other feelings though. We ALL lead stressful lives in one way or another and a little stress is a natural healthy part of life if it is managed properly. Before I became a chilled out holistic therapist (well mostly) I worked in a city bank, I drove a fast car and I was a total stress head. I think the combination of big open roads on my way home and a 2 ltr engine was the reason for my flightiness. I was using that drive home to destress by going as fast as I could. I was doing 100mph or somewhere around that because the roads were clear during my shifts. Then one day my hours changed to 9-5 and I became part of the rush hour gang and low and behold flight turned to fight... and I joined the middle finger brigade. Now not only was I impatient and aggressive I was impeded! Bad combination! Don't these fools know I am an adrenaline junky? Don't they realise I need to go fast and live dangerously? The road is mine I tell you - All MINE!!!
Let’s just say I was a law suit waiting to happen.
It was only when I witnessed one of the most harrowing accidents I have ever seen in my life and dear god forbid anyone ever should again. I will not share with you the details of this because for one, I don't want to upset you, but let’s just say it involved a stressed businessman in one car and a mother and her new-born baby in the other.
From that devastating day, I swore I would never be responsible for anyone's suffering just because I’m not in control of my emotions. Every time I sit in the car now I put on my seatbelt, I wind down the window, I take deep cleansing breaths and I CALM THE HECK DOWN. It only takes a few moments and it has changed my whole experience. I can't say I enjoy driving any better, or that my journey is now faultless it’s not. But I no longer need to use the car as an outlet for my bad day, I’m not more important or more impressive because I’m the fastest! Even at 100mph I’m just some fool in an evil magic box, not king ding. Today I have a normal car, with low emissions, I leave my house a couple of minutes earlier each morning and I take the road as it comes. I’m no one special but I’m alive and so are you and that’s ALL that matters.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 9th May 2017
Understanding Love Spells
As spell crafting is fuelled by emotion, it’s not surprising that love spells are so popular. As with anything before you venture down the route of spell casting you should have already tried to resolve your problem with conventional means. Communicate with your partner, express your love for them, listen to your partner to understand their needs etc. You should also ensure that you are not encroaching on another person’s free will. For example, if the object of your desire has made it clear that they are not in love with you and don’t want to be, any tampering with their destiny no matter how small is still causing them harm. Anything you send out is returned to you to the power of three so you must accept that just because you can do something, doesn’t mean that you should. Love magic should be used either generically, i.e. to attract new love, you can ask specifically what you want in a partner and ask that they come and find you whoever they may be. This person will come freely because it’s right for them also. Or, you are in a relationship that needs a little help.
Love spells can range from a small basic candle ritual carried out on your own in a private setting, up to a whole coven of spiritual sisters and brothers (witches), working together within a sacred space created by casting a circle thrice withershinds. (three times, circular motion, anticlockwise)
Carnations are the flower of Dianna, they represent love and can be added to rose for passion or patchouli for sexual magnetism. You can use them fresh, dried or as an essential oil, jasmine is an amazingly fragrant climbing plant, there is nothing more intoxicating than to sit under an archway of jasmine flowers on a warm summer evening, watching the stars appear one at a time displaying their eternal beauty. Primroses are the flower of Freya the Norse goddess of love. All are perfect for love spells. You can use them as fresh flowers, essential oils, or strewn around your circle.
The essence of these flowers carries meaning, intent and healing properties. If you apply them to skin they sink into the blood stream, you literally absorb the magic. You can therefore use massage, or bathing for example to apply them, and the sensual nature of applying the balms or oils in this way intensifies the effect.
The best love spells are ones that you create yourself from sourcing the reagents to the final casting. Any reagent that you make yourself will be filled with all your love desire and intention. Yes, others can use your reagents and they will be just as powerful for them also, they will be borrowing your energy to add magic to their own spell, however they should still cast for themselves. Reagents are one thing, but if you are asking for a person’s true love to appear is a very different matter. I am a witch for myself not for anyone else, you can’t buy my faith and devotion in a little glass bottle, then complain because Mr Right didn’t appear! Witches help one another, we support guide and even stand in circle for one another, but casting has to be done by the one who will benefit the most from the spell.
Magic is as much about the preparation before you cast as it is about the casting itself. To better understand love spells, think of it as if you are writing your own love story, you will need someone to represent the lovers in question, you will need a beginning a middle and a conclusion. Your story should be specific about what the lovers want and what they are attracted to about each other. A brightly illustrated story is more powerful than a boring black and white one, so include lots of colour, scents shapes lighting etc. Prepare yourself as well as your reagents and your sacred space. Chose an appropriate god/goddess to invoke during your casting, they will watch, protect and aid you. Deities love a good ritual, think of yourself as an actor on stage producing a show for the god or goddess you have invoked. Make it fun, colourful, alive and passionate, if your deity enjoys it they are more likely to support your willing. The more personal the elements of your spell are, as in they pertain to you uniquely, the more likely it is to work. So if there’s need of a candle, make one, a wine? Brew one, an oil? Grow the flowers and press them. If you have read any of my previous blogs you will know that it’s all about energy for energy, what you put in you will get out. Magic is limitless and so therefore are you.
Prepare yourself, your space and your reagents, follow the spell but don’t be so rigid that you are too busy reading every word from a piece of paper it becomes stale and lifeless. Its ok to make a mistake the gods will laugh with you not at you, beauty lies in the imperfections, so does your originality. When your casting is done, don’t leave yourself hanging. Plan a celebration afterwards to carry that energy forward, make an event of it, involve others, long gone are the days that we must practice our magic in dark and dank recesses away from persecution. Wicca is a beautiful belief and works best when shared with love and joy.
The best time of year to do a love spell is during Beltane, May 1st, the best moon is waxing to get a lover, full moon to keep one, the best goddess for me personally would be Freya or Diana, colours for passion are red, hot pinks and orange, red and white for fertility. I would also recommend you use drawing water, anointed candles, cherry wine, and scatter rose and carnation. The rest is up to you, open your circle, invoke your goddess/god both if you are doing fertility spell. Cast, close and celebrate. I will be writing more on casting and magic circles in future blogs but for now, I hope I have helped you to have a better understanding of love spells, how they work and how powerful they are.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 4th May 2017
Reagent is just another word for an ingredient used in spell crafting. I intend on sharing with you many love and protection spells in future blogs that will require specific reagents to work. This drawing mixture is an excellent reagent used to draw a person closer to you and is used mainly in love spells. As it requires a very specific area of nature to obtain I thought I would let you know about it as soon as possible so that you can get some next time you are in the right place. I do not believe in purchasing a readymade spell, why on earth would another person be able to put the energy into something that only you care about? For a spell to be successful you must put the work in yourself, your passion about the subject is what can create success.
Next time you are at the sea side, take with you a bottle and a small bucket to collect useful reagents for future crafting. For the drawing mixture, find a secluded but safe area of the beach so you will not be disturbed. You will need to stand on the shore line as the tide is coming in around dusk just as the sun and moon are about to swap places. I always ask for permission to collect anything from nature, just a little word of two to the god or goddess you are working with, in this instance Neptune, Venus, or Poseidon will be fine. Uncork your bottle and place it at a slant half in the sand with the neck pointing towards the water, watch as the waves come in around your feet, remember every 10th or so wave will be a big one so watch first to make sure you’re not too close as you will lose your bottle. Stand there for a while and feel how the sea pulls your energy outwards then comes rushing back in. If you are making a generic drawing mixture just meditate on that rushing feeling as the incoming waves fill your bottle with a mix of water and sand. Chanting come to me, come to me, over and over. If you are doing this to attract a certain person, then focus your energy on them and call them in towards you. Once you have completed this your bottle will be full with half sand and half water, cork it up tightly and label it “come to me”. Whilst you are on the beach see if you can find any stones with holes that go all the way through, these are called hag stones and are extremely protective, again you can buy them, but isn’t it better that nature offers you one of your very own. Now before you go, remember to leave an offering and to thank the goddess for helping you. There you are, your first reagent, congratulations may it serve you well.
Nanette M Pin 1481
Published: 26th April 2017
I was horrified to learn recently that cancer research are predicting 1 in 2 people will face some form of cancer in the UK. I for one have lost 3 family members to this dreadful disease and can only empathise whole heartedly with anyone going through this in their lives. In my life I have been guilty of smoking and drinking and eating rubbish just like most young people, but gradually as I have grown older and wiser and been working closer with my beliefs and nature I have discovered a far healthier happy way of living. I have always worked with essential oils during aromatherapy sessions, and found the benefits went far beyond just a relaxing way to unwind at the end of the day. Our medicine cabinet at home is full of fresh home made remedies, balms, lotions and tinctures. My daughter loves to help me make face creams, blusher and lipsticks and my husband will regularly come home asking me to make something for a suffering someone or other.
Once I started I soon caught the bug and thought why stop there, so I decided to go the whole hog and make everything that I possibly can from home. I split my garden in three sections, one for vegetables one for hens and one to rest for rotation. I grew herbs and distilled the oils from them, grew fruit and veg and berries, bought a chest freezer and stocked up on essentials such as flour and oils and rice. There is no waste because what we don’t eat the hens will and they in turn provide fresh eggs, everything gets recycled and composted and every meal is made from scratch. Our bodies aren’t designed to deal with highly processed foods and hidden salt and sugars, nature provides everything we need to flourish and what you put in you get out. Now I don’t for a moment believe that everyone has the time or space or inclination to turn their homes into mini farms, we recently moved and it’s hard to rebuild everything again from ground up, but even the smallest changes in lifestyle can give such rewards.
As Ostare approaches I shall be planting some herbs to make a batch of fresh remedies come lammas (harvest) in preparation for the winter months. A special tea blend for colds and flu, a honey and peppermint lip balm for chapped lips, goats milk and manuka cleansing wash, Echinacea and elderberry tincture for colds, cinnamon nutmeg back rub for my husband’s aching back.
Even the smallest little garden has room for a few berries or herbs, if jams aren’t your thing, why not try making a batch of your very own home grown rhubarb wine? (don’t mind if I do clink) I once saw a wall plaque that read, “An hour in the garden puts life’s problems in perspective” which resonated with me. I always feel so happy when I’m digging around in the soil, it’s so exciting to see the little shoots start to poke their little noses up towards the sunlight and have never laughed so much as when I served my family 6 peas each because I had grown them in a tiny pot as I didn’t know how much space they were going to need.
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Published: 18th April 2017
Isn’t it funny how we can be thinking of something quite random when the same thing suddenly comes on the television or someone mentions it to you the same day? This happens quite a lot in my family so much so we are never too surprised when it does. These are usually silly little things that have little impact on your day, however there are those other times, the times that seem just a little too specific, so specific in fact you almost feel like you are the butt of someone or somethings little prank.
I remember reading an article once about a woman who was terrified of hospitals, she had been suffering for some time with a deformity in her hand which required surgery. She was so distraught at the idea of going in for the operation to straighten the bend in the index finger that she had postponed the surgery for several months. Finally, one day in the late winter she decided that she was not going to procrastinate any further and got herself prepared for her long-awaited surgery. She went to bed early knowing that she would have to be up in the morning very early to catch the train and there was bad weather predicted by the weather forecast. She got up around 6am, cold and nervous, she walked into her kitchen and instead of switching on the light she went straight to the window and opened the blinds. Although it was still dark outside a thick layer of frost had formed overnight and the large low winter moon was lighting the scene, reflecting off the trees and grass making the world look very clean and crisp and bright. It wasn’t the moon however that caught her attention or the beauty of the trees and hedgerow, something much more jaw dropping stole her breath and made her heart beat frantically in her chest. Just above the window from the guttering a very large icicle had formed. It had beautifully formed into the exact shape of a human hand, fingers a thumb clear as clear could be, all beautifully formed that is with the exception of the index finger which was bent and crooked and gnarled.
This true story sent chills down my spine, and I have never forgotten it. The article was about a cosmic entity that plays on our fears and projects them into our reality, never harmful, but merely as a sign that there is more to life that the worry itself. The article didn’t say whether she had her operation after all, I like to think that she did and that it went well and that she is still around today telling her story about the morning she had her own personal encounter with the cosmic joker.
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Published: 11th April 2017
How often do you find yourself and your partner going down the same destructive pathways? Saying hurtful things that you really don’t mean but you know will get a reaction. Feelings of rejection are powerful and destructive and can tear through your bonds of love as though they were merely made of tissues paper. When we first get together we fall in love, partly with the reality of the person, who they are, what they do, how they look and partly with the idea of the person, who we fantasise they are.
In the beginning, we are so blinded by the ideal of perfection we glide about in a love bubble with Disney style blue birds flying around our heads, picking up the strewn socks they have left lying about as though we were plucking little flowery gifts of love from the heavens. Nothing they can do is wrong, you love them, they love you and the world is the most amazing place. Gradually however reality starts to take over and those little gifts start to look more like little digs, less like heavenly love flowers and more like well… stinky socks.
Once the “shiny” starts to wear off a new romance and the reality of the person begins to unfold, we enter a new stage, the love them warts and all stage. You become aware of their faults and they of yours. We start to test their boundaries to find out what makes them bite, how much do they love us and so on. Of course there will be things that they do that will annoy you,(and quite frankly if there wasn’t I would worry) but with lots of that wonderful fix all tonic labelled “communication” we iron out our differences and learn how to respect each other’s sensibilities. Your love enters a new deeper level of trust and bonding, where everything is shared and negotiated and both parties feel loved and empowered.
If we could just stop there it would be fantastic, always talking, always sharing, and always putting the other person first. Sadly, we don’t, we start to miss that new romance shine, we long for the days that the world was sparkly and our lover was perfect. They may not act as loving towards us as they first did, perhaps even taking you a little for granted. Instead of sitting down and telling them how we feel and discussing how you could be putting the fizz back in the bottle, we can become disgruntled and disillusioned, expecting our partner to just know what is wrong and even thinking that they are doing this on purpose because they no longer want us. If we don’t stop this misunderstanding it can start to take over and we may even start to retaliate by behaving differently. Getting sulky for no reason, snapping, refusing intimacy, and rejecting them just so they know how you feel. This will soon spiral out of control and could lead to two once happy lovers walking away from each other with nothing but pain and contempt for the other.
Communication is everything, it’s the way you speak, stand, dress, touch even breath! What you are not saying in words will show in everything that you do, only these unspoken words can often be mis-interpreted because the other person is also hurting and will read your expression of pain as an attack. Sometimes we forget what really is important to us, why we chose our partner in the first place and what it is we want for our future. Think back for a moment, what was the last thing you said to your partner? If for some unknown reason this was the last time you ever got to speak to them, do you think that you said the right thing? I worked for some time as a therapist in a retirement home, I loved speaking to the residents about their lives and experiences, one of the most moving moments for me was when I talked to a widowed gentleman about his late wife. He sat and happily told me about their life together, how much she meant to him. He said that in their 60 years of marriage they never once went to bed on an argument and whenever they parted to go somewhere separately he would always say I love you flower and she would say I know you do dear. Sadly she developed a rather aggressive form of Alzheimer’s which developed so quickly that she was soon unable to recognise her family and even her husband. He relayed to me his sorrow and despair as the woman he loved so dearly for all his life was now unable to make sense of the world around her. I couldn’t quiet hold back my tears when he told me how he held her hand on the day she passed away, her eyes closed and she was unaware of her surroundings. He bent down to kiss her cheek and for the last time he whispered in her ear I love you flower. Then out of nowhere and to the amazement of everyone in the room, she spoke for the first time in months, “I know you do dear” then slipped gently away.
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Published: 4th April 2017
Besides bereavement, relationship breakup is probably one of the most distressing times in a person’s life, especially when there are children involved. I have worked with thousands of clients who have needed support and advice whilst going through it and every single one of their experiences has been different. It’s one of those horrible things that everyone will experience at some point in their lives and is one of life’s great levellers, no matter how much money you have, or how pretty you are if you are having relationships of any kind you will at some point experience the dreaded breakup.
Acceptance: One of the hardest challenges we face is the realisation that it is indeed over and learning to accept that. Often this is hard to do because we start to think about how we behaved during the relationship, how often we thought that it was more important to be right than to be happy. We wonder if we had the chance to do it all again, would we have behaved the same or would we have savoured every moment with that person. The truth is you would have done everything the same because you knew no better, and now that you have learned you can change, so you become a better person for the experience.
Letting go: easier said than done when all you can think about is what are they doing now, how do they feel about it and are they ever coming back and so on. The key to letting go is allowing yourself to love them unconditionally. If you think of your feelings towards them as unconditional, that you can love them even if they do not love you back, you will eventually find that you can go about your daily business with a lightness of being. You are no longer a prisoner to your feelings of rejection and abandonment because you no longer need them to love you back. You can send them positive energy and happy thoughts whilst respecting their right to move on.
Closure: often relationships can end so abruptly, and with such hostility, usually stemming from the couple feeling like they were not heard, that their opinions were ignored and that their partner never wanted to listen because they just didn’t care enough. The trouble is without those words ever being said you carry them deep inside you, festering, causing more damage overall. Even though your ex will never sit there quietly in a chair and allow you to say your piece, getting everything off your chest or answer that question “Why”? that you repeat in your mind every waking hour like a mantra, you can still achieve closure. Write them a letter, a long emotional letter, say everything that you need to, pour your heart out and even tell them that you no longer care about their reasons anymore. Then go to a place in nature like on the crest of a hill, tie your letter to a helium balloon and let go of the string. Watch that balloon float away, carrying with it your pain and as it disappears out of sight you can close that door behind you.
It’s never easy going through this, but don’t do it alone, your family and friends still love you and want to help you through it. You may want to push everyone away and go and hide, or even lash out at them because you are hurting, but that’s ok; this is going to pass, you are going to get over it and you are going to love again. Sending you love and strength and the promise of happy days to come.
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Published: 28th March 2017
My family and I are practicing wiccans, holding eight Sabbats a year to celebrate the changing seasons. During these celebrations we take the opportunity to honour our gods and goddess, work along side nature by sowing , planting, harvesting, preserving fruits making wines, tinctures, drying herbs for medicine or healing teas and so on. We also work on ourselves, both alone or in a coven, ever learning and teaching one another. During a Sabbat we will celebrate by meeting up with family and friends, take part in specific rituals which align with the season, and eat and drink and be merry. The 8 Sabbats align with the changing season, Samhain (Halloween ) is our new year, Yule, where we celebrate the birth of the SUN , Imbolg marks the start of spring, then Ostara, Beltane, Litha midsummer lughasdah, lammas late summer autumn. Each celebration is very special to us and I intend to share with you what happens on the day during each one in turn as we go through the year together. I will share with you family recipes, tasks and crafts, spells and rituals so you too can gain insight into our world, so you can see that we are far from the goddless evil doers you see in the movies.
As we are nearing Ostara, we start to think about new life, fertility and abundance, this is a good time now to prepare your earth for sowing seeds both literally and metaphorically. Each year we plant a new plant and give its growth intention. For example last year I planted a rose bush and asked that the flower elementals that care for it also care for my daughters education as she was having problems learning to write. She has made excellent progress and like the rose it’s growing every day a little bigger and a little better. This year I shall be planting one to aid my husband’s declining health. Perhaps you can think of an area In your life that you would like to grow, and would like to try to dedicate a living plant to it this Ostara? If so, you can begin now , by choosing the right place to plant it, preparing the soil and reading up on the plant and its care. Remember any magically grown plant will give you little cuttings in the future which will be even more powerful.
Tip: Tealeaves and tea bags make excellent compost. Swill the pot and pour the watery leaves at the base of your magical plant.
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Published: 21st March 2017
Sometimes we find that we make connections with people which are not healthy. Past abusers, controlling parents, bullies from school, even past romantic relationships can haunt our present day living. The physical connection may have been broken years ago, but the trauma, memories and emotional / spiritual link between you and this person may still be as strong as if it were yesterday.
This figure of 8 visualisation is a powerful and effective way of breaking the chains that still link you to these people, keeping you trapped and stealing your energy, like a parasite constantly feeding from your confidence preventing you from moving on emotionally. If you feel that you are being controlled in this way, this spell will give you back your own personal power and open the doors to new opportunities.
First of all make sure you are in lying down, in a quiet room where you will not be disturbed. Draw the blinds / curtains and make yourself comfortable. Visualise yourself standing in a pitch black room, you can see nothing but yourself stood there underneath a single spot light which is above your head lighting you only. Then when this image is clear in your head, visualise the person in question standing opposite you on the other side of the room also beneath a spotlight. When you can see you both clearly, bring in a third spotlight, this one will be in the centre between you both. This light will then start to move in a figure of 8, first it will circle around you then cross through the middle and then circle around the other person. So you and this person will be stood in each of the round part of the 8. Watch this light move faster and faster, gradually picking up speed. As it gets faster, you will suddenly start to see ties of some sort developing between you and this person. People have seen all sorts of ties here, sometimes, an umbilical cord develops from navel to navel, sometimes ropes from heart to hands, cobwebs, absolutely anything could appear from any part of them to any part of you. This is usually symbolic of the type of connection you had. Once the ties have formed and are as solid as you can make them, take some shears and cut the ties between you saying, “ I wish you well, I wish you love, but you may no longer take my energy” the person will react, sometimes look shocked or sad, as they do send them love and allow them to disappear. Slowly come back round into the room, lay there for a while and allow yourself to feel the feeling that this conjures up. It is normal to feel sad or even cry, go with it and let it all out.
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Published: 14th March 2017
After love, money is the second most frequently requested spell I am asked for. Now, everyone knows a money spell even if they don’t realise it. Do you remember your granny telling you never give someone a purse without a coin inside? Or find a penny pick it up? There are hundreds of ways to attract money, but the most successful spells I have ever done are those that are directed at building your business or trade.
You cannot expect to get something for nothing so if you are turning to magic as an alternative to hard work and effort, then read no further as this is not the spell for you. I have chosen this spell for you today because it has only one reagent (ingredient) as I am assuming you are not a wise old sage with a chest brimming with all sorts of magical equipment, herbs and tinctures. I have also chosen it because it will give you fast results and is easy to do. Basil is a wonderful herb that can be grown indoors or outside in summer months, it has a strong distinctive aroma and flavour and lush bright green colour which makes it a powerful reagent for use in magic. Basil is particularly useful in money magic, and its effects, like peppermint or thyme, are relatively long lasting.
Start by sweeping and mopping all the uncarpeted floors in your place of business. Once clean, get a mop and bucket with fresh hot water and add 7 drops of essential oil of basil and 7 basil leaves. Then starting from one corner of the premises and mop with the basil infused water covering every inch of the floors whist chanting better business bigger, send me……(say what you need, for example I would say more clients) the more I mop it. Repeat over and over until you complete the task. You should see immediate results from doing this just the once however you can repeat this spell once a week If needed. Be sure to repay the universe for your increase in business by donating a small percentage of the increased revenue to charity.
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Published: 7th March 2017
One of the key aspects of successful spell crafting is to do with the balance of energy. Just like anything in life you really do only get out what you are prepared to put in. Harmony can be achieved with a balance of give and take. For example, when we hand over a bank note, a piece of paper with a perceived value, that value represents the amount of time and energy you have given to any said task. In return you receive a loaf of bread. You could have spent that time and energy growing the wheat, grinding the four, kneading the dough OR you could spend it answering emails, driving a bus, teaching a class. Money is just a representation of time and energy spent, so that the teacher can teach (doing what they do best) and the baker can bake, this way everyone gets educated and fed.
Spell crafting is no different, only instead of money we trade our time and energy to create “Magic”. Not a rabbit in a hat, but our focus, desires and the will to manifest our intention. Our “money” is the hard work we put in creating candles, charging crystals, drying herbs, it is the careful mapping of the stars and the watching of the moon. It is important to always give back, to show respect for all living things, to be grateful and honourable. If you need to chop a tree for wood, then plant 2 in its place, if you kill a chicken for food, find a use for every part of the animal from feather to bone, treat the animal with dignity and respect in life and death.
By practicing this mindfulness in all we do we grow in wisdom, insight and abundance. Think about situations in your life that could be improved with this simple adjustment. Are you in a relationship that is a bit one sided? Do you feel that some people are draining you as they take more than their fair share of your time? Are you yourself guilty of taking more than you need from time to time? Adjust those inviable scales, and see what a difference it makes to your life.
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Published: 28th February 2017
I thought I would share with you the entry I made in my grimoire (book of shadows) a diary/spell book that we use to keep records, recipes, rituals, and general bits and bobs, from the night of imbolg 2017 to give you an idea of what I get up to.
I approached the wood tonight in total darkness, our gracious lady, both dreamlike and mindful was shrouded in her garb of grey and black could. I delivered myself to Herne to ask he guide his priestess through his woodland to a place of beauty and protection so that I may perform ceremony and blessings for those in need this Sabbat.
Charms cast and rites performed no sooner had I uttered the words “ so mote it be” our lady cast aside her robes of darkness and revealed her timeless beauty , pouring her loving light through the blackened silhouette of Hernes’ wooded canopy.
I praised the lord and lady, toasted their gracious gifts and gave my offering, just some simple bread I had baked that morning, and some apples from the garden. I lay on the soft moss and leaves, staring up at the sky through the branches overhead. My senses sharp, heightened by my vulnerability, yet incredibly empowered at the same time. Every crack, snap, squeak or rustle spoke to me in a primitive language. I gazed up at the moon, felt her looking down on me, filling me with magic, I fed on her light until I could feel myself lifting to my feet. Feeling full I was lead instinctively back through the woods to “civilization” A woman, deep in her thoughts, heart full of love and blessings, dressed for the shadows, black boot and cloak carrying her basket of mystical objayda.
It was only when a down to earth old gentleman, with his little dog passed that I realised how strange I must seem, appearing from the woods dressed like a grim reaper or some other fantastical character, you can then imagine how funny it was when the little dog suddenly took an interest to the ham bone I had in my basket, pawing and whining with excitement for the delicious treat that I had inside.
The rest of my walk home was in total silence, except for the click clack of my boots on the hardened frosted ground and the insane cackling laugh I could not contain as I recalled that poor man’s expression as his dog refused his call, but insisted on following the crazy cat lady from the wood.
I realised tonight for the first time that I am nearing my crone phase with every step I take, and I welcome the liberation that brings from baggage such as insecurities and fear. The simple enjoyment of being yourself and loving it brings with it the greatest rewards. I cannot explain why I am a witch, or why indeed all women share one heart of the goddess, I am just happy that it is so.
Brightest blessings, Nanette
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Published: 21st February 2017
My name is Nanette-Gritt, I was born 45 years ago in Gypsy Hill, Pinhoe, Devon. My Danish mother gave me the Viking middle name Gritt, which means strength. We were living in a caravan at the time and my mother a practicing Pagan initiated me into Wicca when I was three months old during a blood moon. My mother taught me to read playing cards, tarot and tea leaves, I then learned to use the crystal ball when I was seven years old. I believe I was put on this earth to learn and to teach, to discover and to guide. I am a mother myself now, and like my mother did for me, I too initiated her into Wicca during the Lammas moon. I named her Brigitte the goddess of fire, healing and love. I have decided to create a blog, so that I can share with you my experiences, so that you can get to know me, and hopefully enjoy reading my ramblings, after all a stranger is only a friend we haven’t met yet.
My personal mantra is:
I Live, Love and Laugh unconditionally - I see your beauty even when you don't. I live to enjoy life's sacred pleasures. I am grateful for my freedom, and to those who have given their lives to ensure I have it. I fairly take and I fairy give, If you are kind and honest, then all that I am I share with you. If you are cruel and deceitful then all that I am I shall throw at you. I am Goddess, I am Mother, I am witch, I am woman.
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Published: 14th February 2017