The idea of losing what we value, from a beloved person, a treasured possession to our own health and strength can be daunting and depressing. However, there are many benefits to losses of all descriptions. So when you are fearing a loss, facing a loss, going through loss or getting over it, try to have faith. Many people find there are certainly plus sides to the process.
LOSS BRINGS KINDNESS AND CONNECTION
When you have just about everything you want, or at least the distinct possibility of getting it, this can make you blind to the suffering of others. At the most you have only a passing sympathy for their problems. It can be hard to imagine what it’s like to lose and to go through tragedy. Possibly in the back of your mind you may entertain the idea that a person’s misfortune is their own fault, in some way. Surely that couldn’t happen to you?
Loss sweeps away any such notions. You can then realise that bad things do happen to good people and that compassion and support are needed – because you need them! You learn to reach out to others, and by the same token you find that compassionate people are there to help you. Deep loss has a way of breaking down barriers. You may connect with individuals that in the past you might have ignored, but now your life can be enriched by mutual understanding.
LOSS CAN ENCOURAGE MINDFULNESS
When what you loved and valued is swept away and the future looks bleak, you always have the present. Mindfulness teaches you to focus on the moment, to be fully there in all your sensations, in your entire consciousness. Mindfulness stops you spinning out, imagining bad times to come or hankering after old times that are gone. The wisdom of mindfulness brings peace. You may not have had patience for it now, but loss steers you towards it and it’s one of its greatest gifts.