Our special friendships are gifts in life and we feel lucky when we have them. Some have lasted since childhood, our school days or when we first started work. Some are fairly new but they all enrich our lives. Shared experiences and trust build a bond and at the time we feel that nothing can break that bond. However, life is ever changing and sometimes these friendships break, and not in a neat and tidy way.
Everything that happens in life sparks, stirs or creates an emotional response. As our special friendships are very close to us, when they break a strong emotional response happens. Friendships break for many reasons as our lives roll forward and we change, adapt and develop to thrive within our lives.
How we manage the break and the emotional fallout will help us to ‘settle within’ what happened and how we heal and move on after the breakdown of the friendship. Grief inevitably follows the breakdown of a special friendship and there are a few helpful ways of dealing with it.
The breakdown is always going to leave you with things unsaid and a possible sense of injustice and angry misunderstanding. It is as if two camps quickly develop and the love and ease of communication you had together disappears very quickly. We bargain with ourselves and always feel better when we can understand why something happens. When a special friendship breaks down all the facts and reasons behind the breakdown may not be obvious. If you can rationalise what happened in your mind and find reasons for why it happened, then this helps to settle the emotions that may be raging.
A trusted friend, partner or family member may be able to listen whilst you work out what actually happened and you learn to absorb and deal with the changes. A psychic reading from one of the gifted readers at TheCircle will also offer insight and guidance whilst you are dealing with your emotions and you may be unable to think clearly.
In all connections we have, especially special friendships, there are gifts. There will be lovely memories, shared laughter and magic moments. As you settle what has actually happened, it helps your heart to heal if you hold onto the gifts that came with the friendship. As you hold onto the gifts, letting go of the hurt, anger, injustice and pain, you can ease forward and weave the changes into your life.