Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult things we can go through as human beings but it’s also something which most of us will face during our lifetime. Bereavement affects us all differently and there is no right or wrong way to feel.
It’s important to know that you’re not alone and there is support out there for you if you need it. Although not everyone grieves in the same way there are often commonalities between the ways we all feel.
Many people find it hard to even contemplate getting out of bed following bereavement, let alone seeking support, but there is so much help out there that you can find something that works for you. Nothing can take away the pain of losing a loved one but there is help that can begin to make day to day life that little bit more manageable.
Firstly, helplines like The Samaritans and other counselling services offer support and a sympathetic ear whatever time of the day or night you need it. This can often be a more realistic avenue of support if you don’t yet feel ready to speak to anybody in person. The counsellors are trained to be an impartial yet sympathetic point of call for anyone suffering bereavement. They will not judge you or tell you what to do but provide you with a safe environment to express your emotions.
Many people find that the communality of a self-help group can be useful in eliminating the feelings of isolation which can come with bereavement. All of us will experience the loss of a loved one at some point in our life and although we’ll never forget them, we will be able to carry on with our lives and be happy again. Sharing your feelings and realising that there are other people out there who are in the same position as you can be very comforting.
The majority of people do tend to seek some form of support following bereavement. Whether it’s simply sitting down and talking through your pain with a close friend or whether you look towards more professional forms of support, knowing that you are not alone can be of great comfort.
It’s helpful not to think of the death of a loved one as a tragic event, but rather an opportunity to celebrate their life. Although it’s difficult not to feel pain, just remember that the best way you can honour your loved one is to live your life as fully as possible. This doesn’t mean you have to forget about them – you can still think about them in everything you do.