We are all taught from our earliest years that we should care for others. This is part of the doctrine of the major religions, but kindness is not a matter of self-sacrifice or forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to do, for the benefit of your soul. On the contrary, scientific studies show that doing good deeds makes you feel better emotionally, raising the feel-good hormones in your bloodstream, releasing stress and even helping you to live longer. All the more reason to be thoughtful – and yet there are times when this seems such a struggle.
REASONS FOR COMPASSION-WEARINESS
• You’ve seen it all, done it all. When you first come into contact with the distress of others it is easy to respond with the utmost empathy and help. But after a while you can become de-sensitised. If you work in a caring profession you will have seen many upsetting situations, and it simply isn’t possible to give all of yourself, to everyone.
• By the same token, after a while the ‘buzz’ you get from helping others wears off slightly. It’s the same with any fulfilling work – eventually there is bound to be an element of routine.
• You may be dealing with people at different levels of distress and find it hard to empathise with someone whose issues are comparatively minor, however upset they may be.
• Your compassion may have been generated to some extent by ‘shoulds’ and ‘oughts’. If that’s been the case you are more likely to run out of steam.
• You’re doing what you’re doing to get praise, rather than for inward fulfilment. There’s nothing wrong with wanting approval, but be careful how it affects your life choices, because in itself it isn’t enough.
• Deal with your own needs as a priority. You wouldn’t take your car on the motorway without petrol, so be realistic. Fill your own tank first. It’s a form of egotism to believe you can run on empty.
• Look at your own issues too. If you have inward problems that you’ve not really sorted, such as bad childhood experiences, address these as best you can. At The Circle we are here to help.
• Keep a reasonable balance in life – you can’t empathise with anyone if you’re perpetually chasing your tail.
• Strive for lack of prejudice. Make no mistake, we all have prejudices, we all label others and put them into categories – that’s human nature. But try to be aware, and stand back. Don’t assume that because ‘he’s just an old man’ it isn’t awful for him not to be able to walk, or because ‘she’s just a waitress’ she isn’t sensitive.
• Listen to other people. Really listen, not just to their current problem but also to their background. Everyone has a story, and their ‘reality’ is as vivid as yours.
It can be very difficult when you feel your kindness is running out and you may feel bad about yourself. That’s one of the many reasons we¹re here. We can offer medium readings and psychic readings and our on-line mediums are always there with their insight and wisdom from beyond this world. Getting a reading could enable you to resolve this and move on. Put in a call today and be encouraged and supported
PUBLISHED: 08 APRIL 2015