What is a midlife crisis? How to deal with a midlife crisis and the symptoms that may be experienced by sufferers…
The male midlife crisis is not recognised by health professionals as a medical condition, but it typically happens when a man believes they have reached half of their lifetime age, and normally happens between the ages of 35 and 50 years old. Unfortunately, it can create feelings of depression and anxiety and can heavily influence parts of their life. Although it is sometimes used as an excuse and can be made fun of by others, it can also be quite an upsetting time for those who experience it. What is a midlife crisis? There is no doubt that around this age, men are faced with increasing pressure, whether it’s work, family, finances, losing older relatives or even suffering with their own health, it is if you like – a realisation that they are no longer really young and living with no serious worries in the world. The male midlife crisis can present itself in several ways but it’s important to know how to deal with a midlife crisis.
WHAT IS A MIDLIFE CRISIS?
It seems that the male midlife crisis is when a man reaches an age where they no longer feel young with the aspirations and freedom that they may have had in their twenties. There is far more responsibility, more pressure and less ‘me time’ which can sometimes accumulate causing feelings of depression and anxiety. Midlife crisis symptoms can be triggered by events in their life such as job loss, divorce, or the loss of a loved one. What is a midlife crisis? Men who experience a midlife crisis do not typically have affairs, go out and buy a sports car, or spend money they don’t have on luxuries, in realistic terms – it is much deeper than this and it can affect emotions, self-worth, attitude to life and self-confidence. Research shows that the male midlife crisis is thankfully becoming less common, with a mere 1 in 10 men experiencing the symptoms. Studies also show that it is more likely for a man to have a midlife crisis between 35-50 years old if they have suffered from mental health problems in their teens or their twenties.
THE MIDLIFE CRISIS SYMPTOMS
It seems the most common midlife crisis symptoms are anxiety and depression. Normal situations will feel much harder to cope with, and self-confidence can crash as the symptoms increase. It is important to speak to your GP for advice and support so that you know how to deal with a midlife crisis. Can you relate to any of the following?
SEX DRIVE – Loss of sex drive, erectile dysfunction and low levels of testosterone.
MOOD SWINGS – Irritability, low moods, depression.
LACK OF ENERGY – Feeling tired or lacking energy, feelings of hopelessness or not getting any enjoyment out of life.
SADNESS – Feelings of sadness and lethargy.
LACK OF CONCENTRATION – Not being able to focus or concentrate on normal everyday aspects of life.
PROBLEMS WITH SLEEP – Either sleeping more than usual and finding it difficult to wake up, or lack of sleep, resulting in insomnia.
It is not text book that the male midlife crisis stages are inevitable, but studies show a typical pattern of events…
MALE MIDLIFE CRISIS STAGES
Professionals suggest that there are five stages of a male midlife crisis. Each stage may be viewed as selfish by others and potentially damage existing friendships, relationships or marriages, depending on the actions. It is not text book that the male midlife crisis stages are inevitable, but studies show a typical pattern of events.
- The first stage can be denial, where the sufferer is not able to accept they are no longer young.
- The second stage can be anger, where feelings of resentment and feeling trapped may be expressed, sometimes affecting their family.
- The third stage is replay, where men try and revert back to doing activities they did when they were young.
- The fourth stage can be depression, when the denial is gone, the anger has subsided and his confidence has cracked.
- The last and final stage is acceptance – the last hurdle at the end of the full circle, where he accepts his age and his responsibilities.
It is important not to suffer in silence and to share your feelings and emotions…
SELF HELP FOR THE MALE MIDLIFE CRISIS
The male midlife crisis is not viewed as a medical condition but a GP will treat the symptoms of depression if they are apparent, possibly with medication but also with helpful sessions of counselling or cognitive behavioural therapy which may be far more beneficial in the long-run. It is important not to suffer in silence and to share your feelings and emotions with your family and close friends, so that you can get as much support as possible and so that people understand what you are experiencing. Alternative therapies and complementary therapies can also help, as they release negative emotions, promote relaxation and focus, and help treat the person holistically (meaning the mind, the body and the soul).
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PUBLISHED: 1 March 2021