Big screen romances are usually about drama passion, tears and trauma. But it’s a mistake to assume that ‘real love’ is about high emotion all the time. Of course, we all have our ‘moments’ in relationships, but if the two of you are going to go the distance, one of the most important things is fun.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO SORT OUT ALL YOUR PROBLEMS BEFORE YOU HAVE FUN
There may be all sorts of unresolved issues between you. These may range from little niggles such as who clears up after meals, to much larger matters about your life direction. You may think you should iron all this out before having a good time – if so, you’re wrong. Just decide to put all that to one side and go off and play – it doesn’t matter what you do as long as you both enjoy it. You may find that lots of your troubles just disappear or at least don’t seem nearly so bad.
LET GO OF BEING PERFECTIONIST
Organising the perfect evening, coming up with dates that fit all your friends, making sure the entertainment is spot on – it’s stressful. Booking a holiday can be even more so. Why not let go of trying to have everything ‘just so’ and enjoy more of what just happens, perfect or not? The greatest – and often the most memorable – ‘fun’ times happen when everything goes belly up!
TAKE IT IN TURNS TO COME UP WITH IDEAS
Many couples have different ideas about what to do in their spare time, but make the effort to have a more open mind. Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it! Take it in turns to come up with ideas and go along with what your partner wants, because it could end up being a laugh. (However, show a little consideration with your choice! Your favourite computer game is one thing, wing-walking or pot-holing may be another matter!)
TRY SOMETHING NEW
We all get bored with plain old same old and that can make any relationship go stale. If you’re tired it can seem like too much effort to try new stuff, but you can start with small things and you’ll be surprised how you get into the swing. Try cooking something different – you can take this in turns – grow plants together, paint a room. Change is fun.
FUN DOESN’T HAVE TO COST MUCH
If you’re telling yourselves you can’t afford to have fun then you’re being negative. Fun doesn’t have to cost anything. Having a walk together, telling stories and jokes, playing cards, spending time with family and friends – all of these can be fabulous. Look at what’s around you, for free.
HAVE A COMPETITION TO SEE WHO CAN COME UP WITH THE CRAZIEST IDEA
Compete with each other to try to think up the most original thing to do. This has to be something that’s easily accessible and that doesn’t cost a bomb – unless you have plenty of money, that is. Just focussing on this and looking around for inspiration can be fun in itself.
SEE WHO CAN TELL THE FUNNIEST JOKES
Laughter is good for your health – that is now widely recognised. It’s also fantastic for your relationship, lowering the barriers between you and encouraging intimacy. So have a competition to see who can make the other laugh the most. Sometimes the naffest jokes can turn out to be the most hilarious.
FUN CAN COME IN SMALL PACKAGES
It’s great to have something to look forward to at the weekend or whenever you have plenty of time off, but fun should also be an everyday thing. Build it into your life – maybe short messages during the day, an hour or so in the evening etc. Make everyday tasks pleasurable by having your pets close by, looking at a lovely view or picture, or by dancing…
MUSIC WILL UP YOUR FUN-FACTOR
Share your enjoyment of music – play it regularly and let it lift your mood. Bop around the living room together or shimmy while you’re cooking the evening meal. Music is a vibration. You also are a creature of ‘vibration’ – listening to music can raise your vibrational rate and harmonise you with your dear one.
You can be doing something hilarious and fantastic but if there’s a part of your mind still focused on your tasks and problems, how can you truly enjoy it? Learning to bring your whole being into the moment will make the whole of life better. You can encourage each other with this, reminding each other when either of you starts to slip into moaning or planning. Do this empathically and set aside time also for discussing troubles – but fun is sacred, so concentrate on it.
Some relationships come with many challenges and the idea of fun may seem impossible. But you’ll be surprised what can be achieved with the right kind of support. Let our Readers bring some sunshine into your life with their positive perspective. Dating Advice and Relationship Advice are available with a few clicks, when you contact us at TheCircle. Find clarity with your Love Issues, get your Relationship Horoscope or benefit from Psychic Insight. There’s no need to struggle for happiness alone – put in a call today.
PUBLISHED: 19 OCTOBER 2015