Feeling that you are trapped in the wrong type of body – a condition called gender dysphoria - can be very distressing. However, it is relatively common, affecting possibly 1% of the population, to some extent. As attitudes become more tolerant, more and more people are admitting that they would like to swap their gender, and help is more readily available. Being unhappy with the sex you were born with can cause great anxiety, and can also be isolating.
Signs of gender dysphoria are usually present from an early age, and may show themselves in behaviour, or choice of clothes (although this does not mean that everyone who likes to wear the clothes of the opposite sex are transgender.) Here are some useful terms;
• Gender dysphoria is discomfort due to a mismatch between your gender identity and your biological sex.
• Transsexualism is the wish to live and be accepted as a member of the opposite sex, usually accompanied by surgical and other treatments to alter the appearance.
• Transvestism is when you sometimes choose to wear the clothes of the opposite sex – this could be for a variety of reasons.
WHY DO SOME PEOPLE FEEL THEY ARE DIFFERENT FROM THE SEX THEY WERE BORN WITH?
• Some people think this is originates in the mind – however, gender dysphoria is certainly not an indication that there is anything wrong with you, psychologically speaking.
• There is a possibility that hormonal or genetic factors affect the baby while in the womb, causing the brain to develop a different gender from that of the body.
• To those who believe in reincarnation, it is possible that the soul was a different sex in a former life and now finds it hard to adjust.
• Also a reincarnation matter – it may be that the soul chose to be a certain sex, but something went wrong and they were born as the other.
WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH YOUR GENDER?
Do not suffer on your own – you have done nothing wrong and you deserve to be supported.
• Seek help. Your GP may be your first port of call. If your GP is unhelpful, or prejudiced, change GPs until you find one who is sympathetic.
• Your family are probably already aware that you are not happy with your sex. If this is difficult point, try to get a family friend or more distant relative, to help you communicate.
• Remember, you are still the same person, even if you do have, or want, a sex-change, and those who love you need to realise this.
• It is your body – if you want surgery? that is your decision. However, be patient. It is a big step and usually not reversible. Doctors will want to be sure that you are sure! They are not being cruel, and when the time is right you will be able to make the transition.
• Never despair – there are many people out there like you that have come through this and are living happy and fulfilled lives.
• Find a support group or like-minded friends so you can keep each other company – there are plenty of resources on the Net.
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PUBLISHED: 13 APRIL 2015