HELP ME FIND MY STABILITY
Stability is something we often take for granted. While you have it you may not be aware of it, but when it’s gone your whole life can look wobbly. Stability can come from many sources, but true stability arises mainly from childhood. Feeling stable when we are small sets us up for a ‘safe’ feeling in adulthood – if you believe the world is a kind and reliable place then often it turns out to be just that. If you haven’t experienced that basic stability then you are more likely to have relied on outside sources to give it to you and to feel lost when they are taken away.
You can build on your own resources, so don’t panic.
- Your stability may have gone because you lost your job, relationship, friends, home, health or something else that formed your world. But however serious this may seem, none of those things can have given you true stability. Nothing in life is certain, and stability comes from within. Realising this can give you back some control.
- If your sensation of being ‘safe’ has been shattered, chances are this is echoing childhood experiences for you. Because of this you may feel quite small and child-like. This can be very disempowering, so remind yourself that you are not a child now, and that you can make changes for the better.
- Feelings of loss and fear usually lodge in your body. Try to be aware of your physical sensations, such as nausea, trembling etc. Do what you can to send comfort to your body – warmth and creature comforts can help at this time.
- Try to be positive about the future. Even if you can’t see better times ahead, or imagine how you can re-create stability for yourself, there will be a way. If possible, cheer yourself by reading real-life accounts of people who bounced back from major reversals of fortune.
- Imagine a time in the future when you are ‘stable’ again. You don’t have to think about how you will get there, or of all the obstacles that you believe stand in your way. Think of this future, stable state of being just as you go to sleep and again when you wake up. In this way you can draw that safety back into your life.
- Face up to your practical condition and take what action you can, even if this is only something very small, each day. ‘Thinking positive’ doesn’t mean that you’re unrealistic, or lazy.
- Your spiritual beliefs now come into their own. If you believe there is another world, and that we are placed on this earth to learn lessons, ask yourself what you are supposed to learn from this. Ask also for help from your guardian spirits. You can gain a wonderful sense of stability from your spiritual awareness, even when everything around you seems to be falling apart.
However hard you work on yourself, loss of stability can be devastating. Talking about this can be a great consolation. At The Circle you can always contact a psychic or medium who can help you. Benefit from a psychic reading, check your horoscope, get some advice, insight and support. A clairvoyant reading can show ways to move forwards, so make contact with us without delay
PUBLISHED: 02 March 2015