That time of year is arriving again. Auld Lang Syne, ring in the new and resolve to make a fresh start. Most of us have several habits that we’d like to alter and often these get worse leading up to Christmas. What a great opportunity to re-invent yourself! But the cold, dragging days of January weaken the stoutest hearts and by February most of those good intentions have faltered. Along with them goes a bit more self-esteem as you realize you’ve failed again. You may even decide not to bother with resolutions because you never keep them. That means you’re labeling yourself as a lost cause – not a good look! But it doesn’t have to be this way. Follow our hints and tips to make this January different and successful.
1) Think 'Small and Manageable'.
It may be a New Year but you are still the same person and you won’t wake up on January 1st feeling totally different. Work with what you are fairly confident you can achieve. For instance, you may want to stop slobbing out in front of the telly so make up your mind to put it on an hour later, rather than leaving it off all evening. If you want to lose weight, forget the complex diet that deprives you of loads of goodies. Decide instead to give up one thing you eat too much of, such as biscuits.
2) Positive is better than nagetive
Instead of giving stuff up it’s usually easier to do something extra. So, for instance, instead of giving up sweets make a decision to walk for an extra 20 minutes a day. You’ll feel great, and will be able to go from strength to strength.
3) Don't make too many resolutions
Wouldn’t it be great if your life was a blank slate and you could write out all those qualities you want to have, and transform with a snap of your fingers! But don’t kid yourself that you will be different in January. It’s important that you avoid overloading yourself because falling short will be discouraging. Choose three manageable habits to change. You can always build on your successes later.
4) January may not be the best time to start
Okay, so they are called ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ but actually when you’re exhausted and hung over isn’t necessarily a great time to be strong. If it really does feel like too much, don’t invite a knock back by biting off more than you can chew. Sit down on January 1st and relax, concentrate and make a list. Then think realistically about when you can start. In fact, February 1st can be a better time, so be prepared, plan, build yourself up.
5) Avoid black and white thinking
An all-or-nothing approach truly is the bane of self-improvement. I have seen this so many times with clients that come to me for counseling. You fall off the wagon and think that’s it – but it isn’t! If your resolutions are right for you, you must learn to forgive yourself. Every day is a new day and you can start again. Even partial success is very valuable.
6) Try something different
If you've made the same resolution year after year only to fail, maybe that isn’t for you, at least not now. Your subconscious will link that resolve with flop and disappointment, making it all too easy to give up. Decide on something else and when you succeed pick a good time to return to your original wish.
7) Try some self analysis
Look back at how and why your resolutions have failed in the past. Was this because you went about it the wrong way? Did you set yourself up for failure? Are you repeating a pattern learnt in childhood? Once you can see more clearly you’ll be in a stronger position.
8) Get some help
Maybe you’ve soldiered on alone, too proud to ask for anything, or maybe believing you should be able to cope. That’s nonsense. Possibly your best resolution could be to reach out and get support. That’s why we’re here! There is a medium or clairvoyant on hand now, with the advice you need.
It’s natural to want some encouragement, especially at the dark time of the year. We can offer medium readings and psychic readings and our on-line mediums are always there with their insight and wisdom from beyond this world. Put in a call today and feel reassured and encouraged.
PUBLISHED: 6 January 2015