So you have been dumped by your boyfriend or your husband says he wants a divorce. Its one of the most horrible feelings and you wonder how your life will ever be the same. It won’t be the same; it will be even better. If you follow our steps and give your self some time you will be brimming with confidence ready to face the world.

First, put yourself their position: if you didn’t want to be with him, and let him know it, what would you expect him to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity.

The biggest help every time you miss them, or are thinking about them with sadness, is to vividly remember the bad times, and ask yourself: “Is that what I want?” When the answer is no – then keep that in your mind. It will replace the old pattern of putting them on a pedestal when they treated you far less than the way you deserved. It will also help you to replace the pain with the truth of the situation.

Every time thoughts about him suddenly come into your mind, do the above, and re-direct your focus on to something that is positive and life enhancing for YOU, or others that you love. Use meditation which lets in clarity visulise your mind being washed away with gold or violet light cleansing negativity and confusion.

Carry an aventurine crystal near your heart to heal and balance emotions and burn juniper aromatherapy oil which is said to have a cleansing effect on the spirit.

Really trust and believe in fate and that everything does work out for the best in the long run, and if you can remember a time when you were sad about something, only to be grateful for the growth you’ve made, and how the situation worked out for you, this will help you realize that this situation is no different.

View the other person with compassion, rather than with bitterness. Realize that they did the best they were capable of, and if their best was not in your best interest, then it is a gift that they are out of your life.

Get deeply and passionately absorbed in your life purpose. This is the most powerful thing you can do. Why waste your energy, focus, and attention on a past situation, when you can really be making significant and positive difference in your life, as well as in the lives of others.

Really thank them, in your mind, for every lesson you have learned, every new discovery you have made, and the difference they did make in your life. Realise that that was their purpose for entering your life. So now you can release them with a lot of gratitude, loving compassion, dignity, and grace.